The mother-in-law went to her son's house to promote the birth, and a year later, the daughter-in-law filed for divorce from her son, and the mother-in-law returned to her home

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People should maintain an appropriate distance between each other, not too far, not too close. Too far away, it becomes strange, becomes a stranger; too close, easy to produce contradictions, becomes impolite.

Outsiders should not get along close to each other, and the same is true between relatives, and distance creates beauty. Only by maintaining a proper distance and respecting each other can the relationship be handled well. But some people always grasp this measure poorly, so they will encounter difficulties in interpersonal communication.

In family relationships, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are the most difficult to get along with, and some families even have mother-in-law wars. If conditions permit, it is better for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to live separately, two women in their respective homes as hostesses, "a mountain is difficult to tolerate two tigers", if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can not come together, do not have to live under one roof.

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After the son got married, the mother-in-law had to go to live in the son's house, and as a result, there was a conflict with the daughter-in-law. A year later, the mother-in-law returned to her home disheartened, and the father-in-law asked her how she came back, she said: "I am really bored with myself, and I will not go to my son's house in the future." ”

This is what happened to Aunt Yan's family, and the relationship between Aunt Yan and her daughter-in-law was originally very good. But since she went to live with her son for a year, the relationship between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been very bad, and now if nothing happens, the daughter-in-law generally does not return to the countryside. Let's hear the story of their family.

Self-narrator: Aunt Yan

Age: 58 years old

Occupation: Female worker in the private sector

City: Hailin

03

The old man and I have a son, so the son grew up, we all loved him, and I didn't let him do the housework. The son was very competitive, successfully admitted to the university, and stayed in the city to work after graduating from college. Our old couple took out their savings, helped him buy a house in the city, and hoped that he would get married soon.

I arranged a lot of blind dates for my son, but my son did not have a match, he said that there is no love in blind dates, he wants to get married because of love. When my son was 28 years old, he finally brought back a girl, and I was very happy with the old man.

The girl was quite beautiful, and she also passed the university entrance examination, from the countryside to the city. Her home is not too far from our home, her parents are in a similar situation to us, and they are ordinary rural people. The girl now lives in the dormitory, she and my son met online, and the two have a good relationship.

We thought the girl was good, and the two Yemeni families were right, so we immediately agreed to this family affair. After the son and the girl had been dating for a while, the two were going to get married, and the parents of both sides helped them with the marriage.

04

After marriage, my son and daughter-in-law lived in the city, and I lived in the country with the old man. On weekends, my son and daughter-in-law would come back to visit us and bring us some things we had bought in town. When they return to the city, I will give them some vegetables and fruits grown in the field, and the two little ones will leave happily.

My relationship with my daughter-in-law has always been good, and my daughter-in-law is very filial to me and very polite. But they were married for a year without getting pregnant, and I was anxious, so I wanted to live in my son's house.

I told the old man about this idea, and the old man didn't approve of it, and complained that I had left him alone, leaving him alone. But I thought about it and thought that only by staying at my son's house could I urge them to have children every three to five minutes. Otherwise we live in the countryside, they live in the city, and they can't do their ideological work at all.

But when I told my son and daughter-in-law that I was going to live in their house, my daughter-in-law's expression was obviously unwelcome, but she didn't say it. When my son saw his daughter-in-law's expression, he immediately said that I was not suitable for living in the city, and after they went to work during the day, I would be alone at home, and I would be lonely.

05

I could tell my son wasn't welcome to go either, but the more he said that, the more I wanted to go. That house was bought by our old couple, why can't I go and live there? My daughter-in-law is usually polite to me, but now when she hears that I am going to live in my son's house, she is not happy, and I can't get used to her.

I insisted on staying at my son's house, and I lived in it as a master, and I didn't look at my daughter-in-law's face. After I lived in my son's house, I mentioned the birth of the child every three to five minutes, and my purpose was to make my daughter-in-law get pregnant quickly.

My daughter-in-law is a smart person, and of course she understands what I mean. She told me very directly that she didn't want children for the time being, because she was still on the rise at work, and she wanted to have children after a few more years of hard work. I was not happy when I heard it, I can earn money at any time, where is there a woman who is married and does not have children?

I quarreled with my daughter-in-law, and I used the authority of my parents to suppress my daughter-in-law, but my daughter-in-law did not eat this set at all. She said that before getting married, she clearly said that they didn't live with us, and now I have to live in their house, how inconvenient it is for them!

I was even more upset, what told me to live in their house? This house was bought by me and the old man, and my daughter-in-law didn't pay a penny, she was a dove occupying the magpie's nest. She said it was inconvenient to live together, what was inconvenient? I'm not an outsider.

06

In the following days, our mother-in-law and daughter-in-law always had conflicts. Daughter-in-law often comes home late, saying that there is a social, but I think a woman should focus on the family, how can she think about it all outside?

I originally thought that the housework in the family was done by my daughter-in-law, but after I moved to my son's house, I found that many of the housework was done by my son. In my opinion, housework should of course be done by women, how can men do housework? Men who work as women will become poorer and poorer.

Besides, my precious son has not let him do housework since he was a child, so how can my daughter-in-law call him as a long-term worker now? I was very upset in my heart, I lived in the countryside before, I didn't understand the actual situation of my son's family, that was all. Now that I see it, I can't let my son do it, I have to let my daughter-in-law do it.

My daughter-in-law quarreled with me, saying that now men and women are equal, she also works outside, and of course the housework must be divided by husband and wife. My son was caught between our mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and he asked me to leave their little couple alone, but how could I not care?

Later, I felt sorry for my son, and all the housework was taken care of by me, but my daughter-in-law still did not have a good face. Anyway, she just felt uncomfortable living with me, and she wanted to live in a two-person world with my son, but she couldn't drive me away. I wanted them to have a baby quickly, but I couldn't go easily without achieving this goal.

07

Our mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been noisy and tossing and turning for a year, and one day there was friction because of a small matter, and the daughter-in-law went back to the room breathlessly. At night, I heard my daughter-in-law saying to my son, "Let's get a divorce!" You don't have to get caught between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. ”

The son did not agree to the divorce, begged his daughter-in-law, and said that he went to his father and asked him to do my ideological work. I heard this outside the door and suddenly realized the seriousness of the problem. I came to get them to have children quickly, and they were talking about divorce, which was the complete opposite.

After thinking about it all night, I decided to go back to the countryside! I don't care about my sons and daughters-in-law, they are willing to have children, they are not born if they are not willing to be born, let them go!

When I got back to the country, the old man asked me how I got back? I said, "I'm really bored with myself, and I won't go to my son's house anymore." ”

Later, the son and daughter-in-law did not divorce. After three years, my daughter-in-law gave birth to a big fat boy, and the old man and I were very happy. The son was afraid that I would go to take the child, and there would be a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so he let the mother-in-law take it. Our old couple posted them 800 yuan a month, which is a show of our hearts!

Epilogue:

Aunt Yan was fortunate to wake up, and in time to restrain the horse from the cliff and go back to her home. If she continues to live in her son's house, her son and daughter-in-law will divorce sooner or later. Therefore, after the son got married, the mother-in-law still had less to mix things with their little couple, so as not to make the family disharmonious.

Aunt Yan wanted her daughter-in-law to have a child quickly, but her daughter-in-law did not think so, and there was a contradiction between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Because of this contradiction, Aunt Yan lived in her son's house, which she wanted to promote, and as a result, many other problems were triggered, so that the daughter-in-law filed for divorce.

In fact, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live separately and keep a certain distance from each other, and the relationship will be better. When Aunt Yan and her daughter-in-law did not live together at first, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was very good, but later they lived together, coupled with Aunt Yan's birth, and interfered in doing housework and other things, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were not polite.

Times have changed, people's concepts of fertility have also changed, and mothers-in-law should not use their old brains to ask for daughters-in-law. If the daughter-in-law is forced, the son's marriage will definitely have problems. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should also respect each other, children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, and mother-in-law must learn to let go.

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