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As the saying goes, "When a man reaches fifty, the Destiny is known." ”
When I was young, I was not afraid of the sky, thinking that I had the ability to run alone; when I was fifty years old, I knew that when we traveled far, there was always someone behind us silently supporting.
No matter how far you go, you can't get out of your family's worries and thoughts; no matter how many places you go, you still have to go home.
After half a lifetime, looking back and thinking about it, the causal relationship of the family is reflected.
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Parents and children, repay each other.
In the TV series "Thirty Only", Gu Jia's father said: "Children are the debts of our past lives!" If we don't have the ability, we will be the ferryman's boat, and we will send it wherever we can before we close our eyes. ”
Many parents believe that their children cannot be counted on at all, but only add a burden to themselves. The pension must rely on themselves, and the children can at most greet each other with a few greetings and look at each other from afar.
From ancient times to the present, we have all promoted filial piety. Children with filial piety abound, and they really should not be blinded by those fallacies and heresies.
"The son is filial to the father and the heart is wide", from this ancient precept, we can find that when the children are good, the parents are good, and no one should underestimate anyone.
In "Folk Literature", there is such an article: During the Qing Dynasty, there was a cloth shop on the banks of the Confucius River in Macheng, Hubei Province, and the owner Xu Ran was often considerate of the surrounding masses and loved the employees around him.
One day, chef Huang Zhonglin was in a very bad mood, and when cooking, his face was gloomy.
It turned out that Huang Zhonglin's father had died very early, and his mother Zheng Shi was old and in pain. As a son, I am worried because I can't take good care of my mother.
Xu Ran said, "Take some noodles and fish and make up for your mother." ”
Looking at the noodles and fish in the kitchen, Huang Zhonglin was worried - his mother's teeth were not good, how to eat it? He suddenly calculated, broke the fish, picked out the bones, and simmered it for a long time with a slow fire, and the fish noodles became silky and melted in the mouth.
Later, Huang Zhonglin made fish noodles for his mother, which was famous all over the world, and Xu Ran also added a shop selling fish noodles, making a lot of money.
When filial piety comes to parents, children never lose money. If you suffer economic losses, your social reputation will be high; if you suffer emotional losses, then your heart will be at ease; if you are good at using your brains, you can also make a lot of money because of filial piety... All the effort will come back to oneself in another way.
As a parent, because of the filial piety of my children, I feel that "the world is worth it."
When you're fifty, there are multiple identities. You are the son of your parents, the parent of your children, the pillar of the family. Parents are old, you should do something, what your parents once gave you, vividly remembered.
Your attitude toward your parents is the attitude of your children to you in the future.
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Between husband and wife, achieve each other.
The ancients said: "Husband and wife make friends, do not ask who benefits." ”
Couples do business together, don't ask who profits, because yours is mine, and mine is yours.
If a line is drawn between husband and wife, the family loses its synergy, and over time, it may divorce. After all, there is too much money for private rooms, and it is not good for anyone.
Perhaps, some people will think that after a lifetime of hard work, the lover has nothing to do, which is uncomfortable. But you should think of it this way, because you have found an ordinary lover, so it reflects your "unusual".
For a while, Aunt Su Min, who was in her fifties, caught fire. She bought a car and started the mode of a solo road trip.
She said: "Being with a husband is stress. Expenses should be AA system, and everything must be borne by yourself..."
As a wife, you have to care for the family, but the husband also has to take responsibility, and if the husband is too selfish, the wife will leave in a cold heart. However, at an old age, divorce is not very realistic, and temporarily escaping is the best way.
After a long period of travel, Su Min not only got the recognition of netizens, but also made money. The trolley was replaced by a motorhome. Career money life, are winners.
She said: "Until now, I feel that I have really stepped out of the tunnel of life and lived in the sun. ”
If you think about it carefully, you will find such a fact - Su Min's success is forced out. The "power of persecution" comes from his husband.
Loving the wrong person, wrong love for a lifetime, is an undesirable marriage, but such a marriage will make you excellent; on the contrary, loving the right person, loving a lifetime, is a happy marriage, will achieve better two people.
In the second half of life, what you will become, the factor of love can not be ignored. There is a way that young couples come and go. Having a partner by your side, whether good or bad, is a concern that cannot be separated.
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Siblings interact, breaking bones and connecting tendons.
"Originally born from the same root, how anxious to fry each other", when we read such a verse, it is really chilling. Somehow, brothers and sisters can turn against each other for the sake of profit.
In fact, no matter how brothers and sisters quarrel, they cannot change the "bloodline". Going back to the roots, we are all family. Because we grew up together, we formed a friendship and also had contradictions.
When you're fifty years old, your parents are very old, if brothers and sisters go together to serve their parents, or everyone takes turns to provide for their parents. The money that pays, the contribution that contributes, proves that this emotion continues in life.
After the death of their parents, brothers and sisters are the closest people. Even if there is a deep hatred, it will be resolved at the moment of lingering. After all, man is dying, and his words are good.
In fact, many elderly people rarely go home because their children go out to work. Then brothers and sisters can take care of each other, and nephews and nieces also reflect the ability to "support" to a certain extent.
Whoever is good to you for no reason and somehow hates you, it is not because of the "blood connection", which has produced an emotional and economic intersection.
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Tracing back to the source, your "Destiny" was created by your own hands, but it is also inseparable from the help, encouragement, hatred, and disregard of your family.
Every family has a difficult scripture to read. Any family relationship is not clear in three or five sentences, but we have to do it - think of the good in everything.
After the age of fifty, life enters the "way back". The real "way home" is your own family.
Always believe that acceptance and tolerance are the magic weapons of family governance, ten thousand times better than resentment.
There is no such thing as absolute fairness, but you can have a peaceful heart.
Don't ask for too much, treat people seven points well, the return has one point, enough.
Because you love your family so much, you deserve to be loved.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.