Whether to choose "love" or "money" is one of the questions that will inevitably arise when considering dating or even marriage. "Of course, it is important to value love!" It's not the kind of girly girl, but "if you have money, everything is OK!" Not so cold.... A lot of women think that, right?
This time, to attach importance to love-type marriages and "confess love?" Money?" I want to dig a little deeper into the problem.
1. The survey results show that most women value love
According to a survey conducted by Forbes Women magazine in 2011, more than 90% of single women believe that love is more important than financial strength in marriage.
How did you feel when you heard this?" Money is really important, but is there really that much?" This is the author's real impression. But there are some additions to this finding. That is, three-quarters of women replied that they would not marry someone they didn't have a job with.
All in all, most women think that love is important in marriage, but that's not to say you don't need money, but on an income basis. That's it.
Well, it's also a matter of course to take it for granted. Then, the next step will be to introduce the advantages and disadvantages of attaching importance to love type and value money type marriage respectively.
2. Pay attention to the advantages and disadvantages of the love type
First, let's take a look at the love-oriented type that almost all women want.
Pay attention to the advantages of the love type: there is love to surpass
The so-called marriage is that unrelated strangers become a family and live under the same roof. Because people who spend a lot of time together at very close distances, it's only natural that people who don't simply like it will feel annoyed.
Don't want to eat every day with people you don't like and sleep in the same bed. Instead, it's pain.
In addition, there are various problems in life. At that time, if there was love between two people, they could also work together to overcome it. This kind of spiritual sustenance and satisfaction can never be bought with money.
Pay attention to the shortcomings of the love type: love will weather over time
Unfortunately, the throbbing between lovers or when they are newly married will fade with the passage of time. No matter how loving two people are, it is almost impossible to maintain the freshness of the first relationship.
And, although I don't want to think about it, my appearance changes as I get older. Now he is very handsome, and in 10 years he may become fat and have less hair.
Therefore, it is dangerous to simply decide to marry based on the atmosphere and enthusiasm of "like". Not only as a man, but as a person whose charm is in that person? This should be clearly seen before marriage.
3. Pay attention to the advantages and disadvantages of the money type
Let's look at money-oriented marriages.
Pay attention to the advantages of the money type: the heart becomes calm
Needless to say, money is an indispensable thing in life. Even if not as many as celebrities, sooner or later married life will break down without a minimum extra income.
With a certain amount of money, life will become calm, and the heart will become calm. In this way, the people who are together will also become gentle, and the family will become harmonious... This creates a virtuous circle.
Pay attention to the disadvantages of the money type: you can't be happy just having money
Although it is said that having money can make the heart calm, this does not mean "what kind of person is the other party?" It's largely swayed.
For example, if you marry a rich person who is extremely miserly, even if you have money, you will not be allowed to use it freely. If you just have money and marry someone whose interests are completely different, even if you want to travel with two people, you may not be able to go for the rest of your life.
In this way, no matter how much money you have, you can't say that you are happy, and your heart will become dry and cracked.
4. Marry with an emphasis on love
When I was single, I was a fairly love-minded person. Marriage is also completely about love, and the money thing is completely ignored. "Even if he has a low income, as long as two people work together, there is no problem, as long as there is love, he can get through it", said such a bold statement, and resolutely decided to get married.
But after the birth of a child, women cannot work contentedly. Looking around at the wealthy mothers envious, dissatisfied with their husbands, the mental condition is getting worse and worse. Back to God, not only money, but even love that was more than enough has become completely drained....
Although there have been such periods, a relatively stable life has now been restored, and the love that was once completely clean has also been restored.
Based on this experience, I think a certain amount of money is still very important. However, if married life only depends on money, it may not be able to start again.
Don't say such extreme words, I hope you can find a right balance.