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First, my ex-husband did not let me visit the child, the reason: I do not earn money, do not deserve to be the mother of the child
In the evening, her friend Xiao Yan sent a WeChat message: "The ex-husband will not let me see the child." "Eight years later, the man failed to remarry, his work was frustrated, his mother was sick and had no money to treat, and his life was depressed but still did not change his temper. At that time, they were almost past the age of marriage and childbearing, they were together under the mediation of acquaintances and quickly received a marriage license, and they spent a year together due to the frequent contradictions between different values and living habits, and there were signs of divorce at that time, but Xiao Yan was hindered by the bad reputation after the divorce, and she was also pregnant and did not want to toss and prepare to endure the marriage until the child became an adult.
The idea is naïve, when a man is not interested in a woman and is still disgusted, he will be particularly critical of her shortcomings, do not want to spend a penny for her full-time at home, do not want to contribute to her when she encounters difficulties, say ugly things, do all kinds of things, and work with his mother to force her to leave. She came from a single-parent family mother cowardly, did not dare to make decisions for her, there is no one around who can come up with ideas, so she retreated step by step, encountered domestic violence, husband affair, was sued for divorce, under the persuasion of the judge, she gave up the marriage, and won the maximum benefits given by her ex-husband---- the husband and wife after the division of the joint property and then paid to the child in one lump sum, the child was raised by the ex-husband who had a job, he could not ask her for money for any reason.
It is equivalent to her being a clean family, not asking for a bride price and not bringing a dowry, which is not owed to her ex-husband, and he has worked hard to get such a result. On the day of signing the agreement, I asked her what if he didn't let the child visit after paying the child's child support in one lump sum? She confidently said that the court had written on the divorce agreement that I could visit the child every month and that he had signed it.
Second, secretly go to school to find the child, the child relayed the words to the father: "I am a bad mother"
He was ruthless in his divorce operations, and it was hard to believe that he would fulfill the agreement on the divorce agreement. Sure enough, a week later she asked to see the child, but he said it was impossible, bluntly saying that she was a jobless waste. In order to prove to her ex-husband that she is not a useless person who cannot live without him, she enters a factory as a female worker as quickly as possible, forcing herself to endure the intensity of work and complex interpersonal relationships that she has never experienced before.
After a few months of stabilization, she came to her ex-husband again to ask to see the children, and the ex-husband had married a new person who did not allow her to disturb, so she had to turn to the court for help, and the reply was that it was better to negotiate privately in court. Where does she have the time, energy, money, and money to go to the lawsuit again, so she had to go to the kindergarten and secretly go to the school to find a teacher to introduce her. Unfortunately, I only saw the child once, and the child's strange eyes did not have time to warm up, and the ex-husband went through the withdrawal procedures and transferred to other kindergartens, and warned the school not to allow her to visit.
The private kindergarten did not dare to neglect her ex-husband's request, and she talked about the difficulties hoping that she could understand, she returned to the company dormitory and gritted her teeth and vowed to save money to buy a house and not be underestimated by her ex-husband. Seven years after disappearing, the child went to elementary school, she found out through the neighbors where the child went to school, the blood was thicker than water, and the mother and child saw each other and hugged each other and cried. From the child's mouth, I learned that there was no new mother in the family, only the grandmother who was getting worse and worse and the father who always asked for savings took care of him.
It seems that the ex-husband's situation is not very good, she is happy in her heart that she can visit the child normally, after all, she is the child's mother, every time she sees the child, she will give money to send something, can share part of the pressure of raising a child, he should steal the music. After a while, she went to the school gate to wait for the child to finish school, but the child said that his father would not allow them to come and go! Seeing the child's frightened and retreating look, she did not dare to embarrass him, after all, he would not lie and did not dare to fight with adults.
Is it illegal not to allow the ex-wife to visit the children after divorce?
The ex-husband does not allow to see the child, but also teaches the child that the mother is a bad person, can not recognize, can not accept anything she gives, can not believe what she says, this kind of behavior is moral and legal? The ex-husband did not care what others said about him, and he was not afraid of the court summoning him, but he insisted on one rule anyway: to admit the divorce agreement to the judiciary, but it was impossible to perform it. He didn't answer the phone, went to the house to find him, called the police, and coordinated with the middleman, and he blocked the middleman, leaving no room for negotiation. The divorce became an enemy, and she didn't do anything to be sorry for him in the past, but there were many unpleasant quarrels.
Divorce is based on character, some people hollow out their minds to covet property, some people use despicable means to take custody of their children, and some people have to use their partners' good intentions to make her voluntarily leave the house. When Yang Mi and Liu Kaiwei divorced, they announced that they would "raise small sticky rice together as relatives", and although the relationship between husband and wife was not there, the responsibility and obligation to raise children were still there, which was a reasonable divorce aftermath.
There is moral monitoring outside the law, when a person is vicious and hateful to the partner who has slept with him, implements hate education and distorted guidance for the common child, forcefully deprives the other party of the right to visit the child, and does not pay attention to principles and leaves no room for doing things, he is doomed to have no peach blossom luck, career luck, and financial luck. When the child grows up and has the ability to stand on his own, he will judge right from wrong. But this wait is too long and unfair, what institution can supervise who can do justice?
[Author: Shameful mud, focus on emotional inspiration, marriage interpretation, may my companionship bring you comfort]