Ask everyone a question: Can you have relatives around you because you didn't help and turn against you?
There is nothing wrong with choosing to be a kind person, but at the same time, being kind, you must have your own sharp edge. If you continue to be kind, in the end, there will not necessarily be someone to thank you, and even some people will show more greed and inching forward.
Of course, if you are a kind person, then don't let others take it, but give it as appropriate while being kind. It is given to those who really need help, not to those who are selfish.
However, in the eyes of some people, even if you are a relative, they will see if you will bring them benefits, if you can bring them benefits, they may please you, otherwise, they will dislike you.
There are also some more speechless relatives, every day counting on others to pull them, thinking of taking advantage of you, they never feel that it will be troublesome for you, if you agree, in their eyes, they will only feel that they are relatives, help them, is the right thing to do. But if you don't say yes, they'll talk about it later. Speaking of this, Zhao Yue should have deep feelings.
Zhao Yue and her husband had a son after marriage, and when the son was two years old, Zhao Yue and her husband put their son next to their mother-in-law, and the husband and wife went south to work.
Originally, life was still quite good, Zhao Yue and her husband worked in Guangdong for twelve years, every month Zhao Yue and his wife would give their in-laws three thousand yuan in living expenses, and if the son could not use them, it would be filial piety to the in-laws. And the in-laws have also taken good care of their grandchildren over the years.
In the autumn of 2020, when Zhao Yue and her husband were at work, they received a call from home, saying that their father-in-law had a car accident, and the two couples who got the news drove and rushed home that night.
Father-in-law was admitted to the hospital after the car accident, after examination, seven fractures, this is still a small matter, but in the father-in-law's lungs, there is a tumor, the doctor said that the current tumor is not large, but it needs surgery.
The father-in-law's illness has completely changed the originally happy home. In the end, Zhao Yue and his wife decided that Zhao Yue would resign and go home with the children, and the husband would take her father-in-law to the south for treatment, and after the operation, she would go to the side of the husband's company to cultivate.
Since then, Zhao Yue has started a full-time mother at home. After Zhao Yue returned home, she found that her son's grades were very poor, and her mother-in-law said that she was also very anxious to see her children's grades, but she couldn't find the reason.
Zhao Yue talked to his son once:
"Mom, after I went to junior high school, I lived on campus, I had to study very late every night, I went back to the dormitory, I had to wash clothes, it was so late, there was a classmate in the dormitory, snoring too much at night, I sometimes had no way to sleep well, the next day I dozed off in class, and the school meal, it was not very good."
Although the in-laws are at home, but the house where the in-laws live is far from the school, so the in-laws put the children in the school to live in the school, these things, Zhao Yue knew before, but did not expect that after the children lived in the school, they brought so much trouble to the children.
After listening to her son's story, Zhao Yue immediately rented a house next to her son's school, and then moved in by herself, so that her son would return to her after school, and she would take good care of her son.
In this way, the son has a quiet learning environment, the grades have risen sharply, originally every exam in the class is the bottom, but this final exam, the son has entered the top 20.
This made Zhao Yue see hope, now his son is still in the second year of junior high school, when it comes to the middle school examination, if the son works harder and is admitted to high school, the problem should not be big.
After Zhao Yue's son's results came out, the relatives were surprised, and the news quickly passed into the mouth of her husband's cousin.
The husband's cousin also has a son, who is in the same school as Zhao Yue's son and is in the first year of junior high school. Husband cousin's son, the grades are also countdown, husband and cousin husband and wife, but also in the field to work, her in-laws because of poor health, can not come to the side of the school to accompany the study, Zhao Yue heard her husband said, his cousin's in-laws have to spend a lot of money every year to take medicine, so two people can not resign.
Now her husband's cousin hit Zhao Yue with the idea, so she said to Zhao Yue:
"Ah Yue, we are ready to put the child in your place after the beginning of the year, a month, we will give you fifteen hundred yuan, you see, anyway, you don't have work now, this belt is also a belt, with two is also a belt, my son can't spend a thousand and five a month, the rest, is your hard work, you only need to add a pair of chopsticks, let the two of them sleep together, it won't bother you at all, you see, you still earn, right?"
"You mean I took advantage of you, didn't you?"
"Isn't it? You don't go to work, this is just a pair of dishes and chopsticks, there are 1500 yuan a month, aren't you exhausted? ”
"You know how worrying it is to take care of a child, you let me take it, how much responsibility do I have to bear, what happened, who is it?" My son I can say, can I fight, but your son, can I say, can I fight? ”
"Well, are these problems?" Didn't I say all that? You just need to add an extra pair of chopsticks, don't you? Where are there so many things? Besides, I'll give you 1500 a month, and this 1500 a month, just let him have a meal and stay with you at night."
"Then you can use 1500 yuan to get a babysitter, I can't take your children, you can ask another smart."
"Zhao Yue, you are waiting for me, you kind of woman, there is no good end, do not know the good heart, I will let you be spit on by everyone."
The husband's cousin and cousin-in-law were angry and half dead, so the husband's cousin and cousin-in-law turned their faces with Zhao Yue.
My husband's cousin did what she said, so she immediately sent a message in the crowd at home:
"Everyone listens well, Zhao Yue, a selfish woman, will not have this relative in our family in the future, who comes to persuade me, I will be anxious with whom!!"
Zhao Yue saw the message sent by her husband's cousin in the crowd of people, and felt completely speechless, but she was also a person who could distinguish the importance of things, and did not bother with them, "Forget it, let her go and toss it, anyway, for the matter of helping her with the child, I will not agree." Zhao Yue said to himself.
In our daily life, don't think about taking other people's affection for you as your blessing, because no one has the obligation to help a person. If others are kind to you, you can't take this kindness as your own luck and take the kindness of others to you for granted.
"Helping you is the part, not helping you is the part." Always remember that if others are not willing to help you, your heart can not produce resentment, if others are willing to help you, then you must know how to be grateful, of course, if you are not grateful, it is also possible, but in the future to remember, do not take revenge on the line.
Everyone's pursuit of themselves is different, remember, no matter what happens, do not always think of counting on others, because people only rely on themselves, is the most secure, only through their own efforts, can stand more stable.