As we all know, honoring one's parents is the duty of every child, but in today's society, there are many people who are unwilling to support their parents, and the reasons for this are also strange, and there are also reasons for children and parents.
Some people are born with ungrateful personalities, they are only concerned about themselves, and when they grow up, they are even more so, even in the face of their elderly parents, they do not have the slightest intention of supporting, thinking that this is just a waste of their energy and money.
There are also some people, the reason why they do not support their parents actually comes from the parents themselves, some parents do not have the awareness of parenthood when they are young, they have not fulfilled the responsibility of parents at all, and let their children grow up in scolding and beatings from an early age.
Nice mother-in-law
Today is the day when Li Ying and Wang Lei get married, even if two people are going to get married, Li Ying is still very afraid to face her mother-in-law, because she likes to watch TV dramas since she was a child, and she has seen too many examples of the original happy married life going to ruin because of her mother-in-law.
So in the evening, Li Ying was still afraid to say to her husband: "Husband, what should you do if I have a conflict with your mother, you have to deal with it well, I don't want to divorce you." ”
Wang Lei comforted: "No, my mother is a very enlightened person, as long as it is not too big a problem, it will not quarrel." “
Li Ying continued: "That is not always possible, we have seen each other a few times, plus there is a generation gap, and I don't know when I will do something that makes your mother unhappy." “
Wang Lei said: "No, it is useless to just say it, and you will know when you get back together for a long time." Comforted by her husband, Li Ying was also a little more down-to-earth in her heart, and the two of them slept.
When the next day, Li Ying, who was still asleep, was woken up by someone, she vaguely opened her eyes to see that it was her mother-in-law, Li Ying suddenly came to her senses, quickly got up, and saw that the time was more than ten o'clock.
Broken and broken, the first day of marriage slept lazily, did not know what the mother-in-law should think, Li Ying thought in her heart, until she got up to the living room to find that the table had been prepared with meals, just waiting for her to eat.
She sat down and said, "I'm sorry Mommy and Daddy, I slept a little late yesterday and let Mom cook." The mother-in-law did not care to say: "It's okay, when you are tired, you will sleep more, there is no hurry, you will get up in the morning and cook the meal by the way, it has become a habit, I will do it later." ”
In the face of such a considerate mother-in-law, Li Ying was embarrassed, she said: "If you can always do it, I will help you when I have time in the future." ”
In this way, Li Ying's heart that had been hanging on was also put down a little.
Take the initiative to take care of grandchildren
Mother-in-law can be said to do what she says, even if Li Ying marries over, there is no slightest intention to summon Li Ying, on weekdays, all the housework and cooking are done by the mother-in-law alone, which makes Li Ying embarrassed, several times, Li Ying said to her mother-in-law: "Mom, you don't mop the floor, you go to rest, let me come." ”
But every time my mother-in-law said, "It's okay, I'm not old enough to be able to move, and when I'm really old and can't walk, you'll take over my shift." ”
Even if the mother-in-law said so, Li Ying still couldn't look at nothing and do nothing, and she took the initiative to take on the housework after brushing.
In this way, the mother-in-law contradiction in the TV series did not happen, both people have their own things to do, and Li Ying even feels that she is not doing well.
Soon after the marriage, Li Ying became pregnant, and then the mother-in-law did not let Li Ying do any housework, all by the mother-in-law, until the birth of the child, Li Ying still wanted not to resign, stay at home to take care of the child.
At this time, the mother-in-law took the initiative to stand up and said: "No, you can go to work well, the child let me take care of it, I have more experience than you." ”
In fact, Li Ying also did not want to resign, mainly because she did not want to see the child, but she was embarrassed to say it, who knew that the mother-in-law took the initiative to stand up to take care of the child.
Li Ying feels that her mother-in-law is very hard, not only to do housework, but also to see the children, she is too willing to go, usually after work will take the initiative to help the mother-in-law to do some things, the mother-in-law is also happy to accept, do not stop.
In this way, the two people entered a tacit understanding that there was no need for verbal communication, one person did this, the other person would take the initiative to do that thing, and the whole family could only proceed in an orderly manner.
At this time, Li Ying's worries were completely put aside, and she felt that such a mother-in-law was her own example, and she would also want to be such a mother-in-law in the future.
The ways of the world
When Li Ying went to work, the child was taken care of by the mother-in-law, and when Li Ying got off work, Li Ying would take care of the child, waiting for the mother-in-law to make a good meal, cleaning the house after eating, for a long time, the whole community knew that there was a good mother-in-law in this family.
In the afternoon, the mother-in-law took her grandson downstairs for a walk and met the old lady who also came down to exercise.
The two people chatted when they were idle, and when they talked about it, they talked about their mother-in-law, and the old lady said, "I heard that most of the housework in the family is done by you." ”
The mother-in-law was not embarrassed, and said: "Yes, while I am still young, I can help the family do some work." Hearing the old lady say, "Oh why are you so stupid, don't you get tired of working by yourself, let your daughter-in-law do it, you spend so many colorful gifts to marry your daughter-in-law, don't let her work, but also provide for her." ”
The mother-in-law did not listen to the words at this time, and the old woman said: "Now you still help her to watch the child, I don't have any time, I have worked for most of my life in the first half of my life, and now I am helping to watch the child, it is time to think about yourself." ”
At this time, the mother-in-law spoke: "In fact, I am thinking about myself." The old lady asked curiously, "What do you say?" ”
The mother-in-law continued: "At our current age, I don't know when I will be old and can't move, don't I need our children to take care of it at this time, now I can take advantage of my own ability to move, share a little more with my children, and when I am old, my children will naturally be good to me." I am not helping my daughter-in-law with my children, but I am helping to 'save people's feelings' in my old age."
At this time, the old lady suddenly realized, this is indeed the truth, the old lady was also awakened by the words of the mother-in-law, at this time the side said: "Then I also have to be kind to my daughter-in-law." He hurried home to cook for his daughter-in-law.
Soon after, these words were spread by the old lady to the whole community, and the old people at this time knew that they had always thought that the mother-in-law was just an old fool who only knew how to work with his head buried in his head, and did not know how to enjoy life at all.
However, after knowing the reasoning, they found that they were really old and confused, only knew that they bullied their daughter-in-law, enjoyed themselves, and did not want to live in the old age at all, at this time they found that this mother-in-law actually lived better than anyone.
Through this mother-in-law thing we know, as a person, can not only look at the current situation, to make plans for the long term, people have an old time, from the perspective of the daughter-in-law to think about it, when they just married over, they were bullied by their mother-in-law, and when the mother-in-law is old, are you willing to sincerely filial piety to the mother-in-law?
Therefore, although the mother-in-law is out of the status of the elder at this time, she cannot bully her daughter-in-law at will, on the contrary, she must also take advantage of her own ability to act, help her children share the affairs of the family, so that the daughter-in-law feels that she is a good mother-in-law, so that when she is old, her mother-in-law will have a better old age.
And the mother-in-law's approach is a beneficial and harmless thing, not only can make her daughter-in-law feel happy enough to be paid enough attention to faster integration into this big family, her son has a happy married life, but also can create a happy and happy family environment.
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