Gu Qingyu is married!
With the white moonlight of the year.
I thought that her marriage to Shi Yuan would be two ways to open:
1, first marry and then love, after the fake marriage, gradually fall in love with each other;
2. After recognizing each other, the two talked about love, and at the right time, it was natural to get married.
But I never expected that Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu were not fake marriages, first married and then loved; nor were they slowly approaching marriage at the right time.
Instead, with the assistance of Zhan Xiang, Shi Yuan hastily proposed marriage.
Before this, Gu Qingyu had impulsively run to the mouth of Shi Yuan's alley at night and proposed to him, Shi Yuan rationally refused, but could not stand the depth of the first love complex, Gu Qingyu found a spare tire for ten thousand years to assist.
Under the impulse, Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu secretly obtained a license from their families, and both of them thought that this was the continuation of the beautiful love when they were young, but they did not know that this was the beginning of their life.
Gu Qingyu was in the Gu family, with the posture of "pseudo-mother-in-law", and she had all kinds of difficulties with Feng Xiaoqin, probably, she had always been confident in herself, and she could never imagine that she would also have a day to meet the evil mother-in-law.
Mixed with the mother-in-law's finger-pointing, how many proud women can retreat from marriage?
Naturally, Gu Qingyu couldn't either.
And the most fatal thing is not what the evil mother-in-law did, but what Shi Yuan did not do.
This article takes Shi Yuan and his wife to see his parents for the first time as an example.
01, see the parents in front of the mud and thin mud
Shi Yuan's mother, Hua Yongyu, did not look up to Gu Qingyu, which was a clear and obvious thing.
But once you're married, it's impossible not to meet.
However, how to meet and when to meet, this is all exquisite.
Gu Qingyu once asked her girlfriend: "Do you think that why didn't he introduce me to his mother because he didn't think about it too suddenly, or is there some other reason?" ”
Why?
According to her girlfriend's analysis, it was not wrong.
20 years later, Shi Yuan has long been bent by life and debt, in order to live well, his self-esteem has fallen to the ground, and he has long been unable to pick it up.
Therefore, Shi Yuan did not want to go to her.
No face to look for.
If Gu Qingyu is living well, he is a burden to her, if Gu Qingyu is not doing well, he can't help her, it is better to let the beauty of that year be hidden in the depths of his heart forever.
In this way, they are still each other's white moonlight.
But the sky did not follow people's wishes, Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu were reunited, and with a very frustrated and embarrassing posture, they broke into Gu Qingyu's sight without warning.
He struggled, did not hesitate to delete Gu Qingyu's contact information, and refused her marriage proposal, but the beautiful "love illusion" of his youth blinded his eyes and made him impulsively propose.
As his girlfriend said, his inferiority complex made him suffer from loss and loss, and he was not sure of Gu Qingyu's thoughts, and the pimples did not enter the state of love, let alone enter the state of marriage.
This is what his girlfriend said, he was inferior, he didn't have the face to see Gu Qingyu, and he didn't dare to think about what future he and Gu Qingyu had.
It's just that inferiority is not the root cause of Shi Yuan's disappearance so completely, Hua Yongyu is.
After all, the ugly daughter-in-law wants to see her in-laws.
How do you convince your mother to meet her daughter-in-law and accept her?
Shi Yuan obviously had no choice but to deceive him, and the father and son flickered together.
"I just knew it had to do with that woman."
"Mom, I hope you don't have any prejudices against her, I'm serious this time, I really like Qingyu."
The simple title of "that woman" has already laid out her attitude.
Hua Yongyu does not look up to Gu Qingyu, not only in the body, she has a natural sense of superiority, but also in the character of people, she preconceived against Gu Qingyu.
Gu Qingyu's matter of finding someone to fake marriage in order to buy a house is a hurdle that cannot be passed here in Hua Yongyu, and it is a disgusting thing that a serious woman cannot do.
And Feng Xiaoqin's purposeful concealment of the origin of her son in the countryside and the purposeful marriage into the Gu family are the same concepts as a hurdle in Gu Qingyu's heart.
Pride and prejudice, Hua Yongyu has it all.
In her heart, she may not have forgiven Shi Yuan for doing such a bad thing as a fake marriage, so she was anxious to let her see Gu Qingyu, the original fake marriage "customer", can she have no knots in her heart?
Gu Qingyu appeared hastily at this time, that is, he bumped into Hua Yongyu's gun.
Hua Yongyu's attitude toward Gu Qingyu even has the meaning of breaking the jar and breaking it: anyway, the baby son has been divorced twice, and he doesn't care about leaving again.
"What about getting married, it's not impossible to get married, right?"
What about the old neighbors, after all, there is no huang sister's children born well.
How did Hua Yongyu finally agree to meet?
It was under the double persuasion of Shi Yuan and his father that she did not want to be bothered anymore, and agreed to Shi Yuan's father's words of "eating a meal, and there will be no less meat".
Apparently, Shi Yuan not only failed to convince her, but also did not realize that his mother agreed to eat for another purpose.
02. Add fuel to the fire when you meet your parents
Before Gu Qingyu officially met her parents, she already had a premonition that her mother-in-law was not waiting to see her.
When they met, she sweetly shouted people, but Hua Yongyu's sentence "Miss Gu" put her attitude out of her life.
The confrontation between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often silent.
The confrontation between Gu Qingyu and Hua Yongyu is nothing more than that, but Hua Yongyu's posture is far worse than Gu Qingyu imagined, and her reluctance to see is stubble after stubble.
The first is the display on the tea ceremony.
Hua Yongyu started from Gu Qingyu's family lineage, starting with the profession of Gu Qingyu's father, and then suppressing their ancestral home, which was not a Shanghainese.
Although the middle was interrupted by Shi Yuan, it did not prevent her from preparing for the next step: the tea ceremony.
Using tea art, it is implied that Gu Qingyu's origin is not worthy of his own family, and he wants Gu Qingyu to retreat.
Then there's the old photo album.
A photo album that records their family origins and the situation of their clansmen is a person's heritage, but in today's society, the background cannot be eaten as a meal.
Living at home, everything is inseparable from money, as an adult, you always have to compromise with life, unfortunately, Hua Yongyu in those years, although life is not satisfactory, but in the end it is Shi Yuan and his father to protect too well.
So much so that she didn't have her self-esteem and sense of superiority bent by life.
Unfortunately, before the album was finished, Shi Yuan's father came out of the kitchen and once again interrupted her desire to continue.
Interrupted twice, apparently, she was almost overwhelmed.
Huang Sister is her last resort.
The son is already married, and has stressed more than once that this time he is serious, and he really likes Gu Qingyu.
So why did she let Sister Huang take her daughter on such a trip?
Not dead hearted, want to divorce and remarry your son?
not necessarily.
In fact, if you look down, you can see that she accepted the fact that her son was married.
The wood has become a boat and can only be accepted.
But accepting does not mean that she is willing to approve, so she wants to suppress.
Suppress the woman who has already turned her husband and son against each other before they meet.
"What I want to do, I just want her to know that we Shi Yuan married her, it was she who took advantage of her, let her have a good heart, I invited huang sister to come, that is, I wanted her to see what kind of person Shi Yuan originally wanted to marry, so that she would not be confused, and thought that we had taken advantage of her."
She was sick, irritated and always sick, but she was sober and sensible in her bones.
What kind of person Gu Qingyu is, she can see it from the only 2 meetings.
"Her eyes are very content."
Gu Qingyu, from body to heart, is not "very content"?
In the face of such a strong daughter-in-law, she will worry that her son will suffer losses, and since it has become a fact, she can only accept the situation, so she wants to embarrass the other party and give the other party a dismount.
Such behavior is not incomprehensible.
But to say that what caused this situation made Gu Qingyu so embarrassed, Shi Yuan had no responsibility?
Some things can only be greeted and cannot be avoided.
But Shi Yuan and his father's repeated pressures on Hua Yongyu chose an avoidant attitude.
Take the verbal doll kiss of Huang Sister's daughter, but if Shi Yuan solves the doll kiss one step earlier, there will be no picture of him taking his wife to see his parents and Huang Sister taking her daughter to the door.
There are so many similar things that you can't hide from them.
Even if he forcefully complained to his mother for the first time, "Qingyu is now my wife, and if you embarrass her, you will embarrass me", but this kind of embarrassment, didn't he have expected it?
At that time, when he persuaded his mother to see Gu Qingyu, Hua Yongyu had already mentioned seeing Huang Sister again, and then suddenly agreed to meet.
03. Self-dissection after seeing parents
When many netizens chased the drama, they actually had a good impression of Shi Yuan.
White Moonlight, handsome, self-respecting and self-loving, took the initiative to sign a prenuptial property agreement with Gu Qingyu, and insisted on the AA system after marriage, except for inferiority, it seems that everything is good.
But the more you look down, the more wrong it is.
Especially after he dissected Gu Qingyu's experience, the words he said were really awkward.
"Qingyu, don't blame my mother, okay?"
"My mom really wasn't easy... Qingyu, that day, I think my father is right, the loss is you, if you change to someone else, you would have had a seizure long ago, I really don't want you to bear such a big grievance because of me. ”
Regarding Hua Yongyu's illness and the things about his failed college entrance examination, why didn't he say it before marriage, not before Gu Qingyu went to see his mother, but after Gu Qingyu was wronged?
Because, he not only wanted to get Gu Qingyu's understanding this time, but also let Gu Qingyu understand and bear Hua Yongyu's endless difficulties in the future like him and his father.
In a word, he meant: My mom is sick, she's the biggest.
Gu Qingyu is in love with her brain, and she is still addicted to the illusion of love, so she endured these, and the follow-up also let her father endure these, but people can't be sick, let others indulge without a bottom line, right?
Shi Yuan said, "My mother is really not easy", but whose mother is easy? Whose dad is easy? Gu Shihong pulled the eldest son and daughter alone, was it easy for him?
Blindly giving in will only make the sick person more arrogant, rather than let her restrain, I can hardly imagine how Shi Yuan had the courage to persuade Gu Qingyu to understand his mother, and let her not blame Hua Yongyu.
The sentence "I really don't want you to bear such a big grievance because of me" is extremely ironic after Gu Qingyu was repeatedly harassed by Hua Yongyu.
Is this like the classic quote that mommy men often say when they face their mothers bullying their daughters-in-law?
Aren't All of Gu Qingyu's grievances given by him?
Not a one-way person, there is no need to be strong.
Hua Yongyu did not look up to Gu Qingyu, and Gu Qingyu was not the kind of little woman who was willing to bow down and be a small woman.
Both women are proud and arrogant, both have a strong sense of self-superiority, such two people, it is not suitable to put together, since they are not living together, they also have to go to work on weekdays, it is completely possible to reduce exchanges and reduce disputes, right?
But Shi Yuan obviously did not intend so.
What he wanted was for Hua Yongyu to accept Gu Qingyu, and he wanted Gu Qingyu to see his mother's illness, how to endure and understand more.
This kind of thing, once compromised, the follow-up can only be to continue to compromise, or one shot and two scatter.
According to the development of the plot, we do see that Gu Qingyu's marriage with Shi Yuan has just begun, and it has already reached the point of separation.
Although there was a reason for Shi Yuan's own incompetence and inferiority, why was it not his mother who was a demon, and the consequences of his request for Gu Qingyu to endure?
epilogue
Gu Qingyu's marriage with Shi Yuan is actually like a family.
And not an orphan, you can directly skip the family to get married, nor is it a young man, an impulse to cut first and then play, two middle-aged people, where is the impulse and courage, so regardless of the disregard?
Young people do not understand things, can also be said to not understand the pain of marriage, most of them come from the family's parents are short, sophisticated, but can middle-aged people like Gu Qingyu and Shi Yuan not understand?
Gu Qingyu married not Shi Yuan, but Shi Yuan's family.
In the same way, shi Yuan married, why is Gu Qingyu one?
In this marriage, Shi Yuan did too little, or rather, he took the initiative to do too little.