Singleness has long become a very common phenomenon.
Not only are many people in their twenties just single, but many men and women who have passed the age of thirty are still alone, not only not married, not in love, and not even have a target around.
Not young, still single, twenty years back, people are completely incomprehensible, and there is no way to accept it.
I just feel single, it must be because there is something wrong, it must be because I can't find it.
At present, because of the development of the times and the diversity of ideas, even if you are single, you will not be regarded as different.
People will be more receptive to being single and more able to see this as a choice, a way of life.
Yes, being single, that's not a problem, it's not a big deal, and these people who happen to be single, both men and women, actually live in a similar state.
A man, very peaceful to live.
Perhaps in the eyes of many people, a person alone, a person facing everything, it will seem quite lonely, it will seem very pitiful, and it will always seem particularly difficult, single people, but may not have such a feeling.
For many days, when others always need someone to accompany them, need someone to help themselves make ideas, and need someone to give themselves a support, they have long been accustomed to facing everything alone and solving everything alone.
For them, whether it is eating alone, sleeping alone, making decisions alone, it is not a difficult task, all of which they can do well and do not always have too many expectations of others.
Their lives are really not so bad, but everything is relatively orderly.
When you work, you try to make money, and after work, you eat something delicious and do something you like.
Compared with being with a person, sometimes they feel more sweet, as if they have the whole world, and sometimes they feel so painful, as if they have been abandoned by the world, and their state is only particularly stable.
Basically, there will not be much great joy, and there will not be too many moments that make you sad, just living quietly, feeling the world, and feeling what belongs to you.
It seems that something is missing, and it seems that such a day is still quite good.
Longing for love, but also afraid to love.
Come to think of it, no matter who it is, more or less, in fact, it will still want to have a good love.
I also hope that someone can do something with themselves and share their own bits and pieces.
Single people, they will hope to have such a person, occasionally clamor for love and marriage, but also let others introduce themselves to the object, but when someone really comes closer, they will instinctively resist.
Deep down, you don't know how to get along with each other, and you will feel that you are probably not suitable for love, not worthy of being loved by anyone, and no one can really treat yourself with your heart and give yourself the kind of feelings you want.
On the one hand is longing, on the other hand is worry, worried that after the arrival of a person, it will disrupt their own life, and there is no way to give themselves what they want, and then, even if they meet someone who feels good, they don't know how to take the initiative to fight.
Being single for a long time and not getting too close to any of the opposite sex makes them dare not easily enter a relationship, and a person has not yet begun, and has already imagined various bad possibilities.
It is never possible to reach out and grab anyone, and once the person who is close to him has left, he will only breathe a sigh of relief and secretly rejoice.
For no reason, for love, they really don't have much courage, just special cowardice, just special caution.
Not sure later, but not pessimistic.
Every single person, they actually know very well, the older they are, the more difficult it will be to find a satisfactory partner.
If you don't look for it all the time, if you can't find it, you may really never find it in the future, and you will always be single.
They are very aware of this, and they will also have a little worry, thinking that if they have been single, after they are old, there will be no one left around, and at that time, their situation may be relatively bad.
When you are young and single, you can take care of yourself, the problem is really not big, after getting old, in case you can't support yourself, in case you are sick, no one to share it for yourself, how painful it should be.
Sometimes, they have such concerns, but they don't think about it all the time.
The road ahead is long, they will feel that maybe one day, they will be able to meet a love they want, they will also feel that even if they can only do so after they get old, it is also a matter of the future, and on that day, they naturally have a way to face it.
No one knows what tomorrow will look like, and since that's the case, they don't want to bother about it all the time.
I just want to feel every day in the present, I just want to make some plans for the future as much as possible, and I just want to follow my heart at this moment and feel the current years.
The real situation of single men and women at the moment, a person, in fact, is not bad.
Even if I sometimes envy those couples and people who are already married, but more time, I just like my own free life and don't want to be easily broken by anyone.
It's not that you don't want to get married, it's just that you don't want to get married casually, it's not that anyone can do it.
Every single person, especially those who can be single for a long time, they don't want to love, but for the definition of love, they are much higher than the average person.
The love they want is that they really appreciate each other, and the other party really identifies themselves.
Together, it is very lonely and sad to be able to be of relatively high quality, rather than casually making it up.
No one will reject happiness, and if they don't see happiness, many people will simply not want to try.
Text/Tan Meng
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