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Some people say that what is wide in the world is the ocean, what is wider than the ocean is the sky, and what is wider than the sky is the love of parents.
Everyone wants to have a good family, a happy and happy family, but the constant quarrels between the couple affect the child and make the child suffer from autism.
Ms. Hu cried and told the mediator that the problem between the husband and wife had caused the child to have autism, and she was very helpless and especially hated her husband.
Ms. Hu said she did not want to continue living with her husband.
Mr. Zhang said that first of all, we must consider the children, if the children have no problems, listen to their wife Ms. Hu and divorce.
He said that unless he and his wife did not meet, they quarreled as soon as they met, so it was very detrimental to the children to continue such a long-term quarrel.
The mediator saw that Ms. Hu was still hesitant about divorce, and did not even say the word divorce directly, but Mr. Zhang did not hesitate to say that she had lost confidence in the marriage.
Ms. Hu said that she has long known this attitude of her husband, and it is also her husband's attitude of not caring about marriage that has always made her feel depressed.
But for the sake of the child, she also endured, until the child went to kindergarten, she was told that the child had a problem.
The kindergarten teacher told Ms. Hu that the child did not communicate with her classmates at school, often walked around the classroom alone, sometimes hit people, and when the teacher went to stop him, he would fall to the ground and hit the ground with his head.
Hearing the teacher say this, Ms. Hu was extremely frightened.
She said that the child had always been carried by her in-laws before, and the couple did not know about the child's situation, but when they visited, they found that the child did not talk much.
The teacher's words made Ms. Hu pay attention to it, and took the child to check it out and found that there was a slight autism.
Speaking of this, Ms. Hu could no longer hold back the tears of heartache, she said that after hearing the news, her heart was very uncomfortable, especially helpless.
But Mr. Zhang said that during the examination, the answer given by the doctor was suspected autism, and in his opinion, the child seemed to be unable to listen to what the adult said, did not want to be bound, and there was nothing wrong.
Listening to her husband Mr. Zhang say this, Ms. Hu felt that her husband did not attach importance to the child, and the child became like this because he caused it.
Ms. Hu thinks that the child is something wrong, but Mr. Zhang thinks that the child is just a personality problem, which makes Ms. Hu very angry.
Ms. Hu said that at the end of the year, she and her husband had a verbal altercation over economic issues, and his husband did not say a word, secretly took the child back to his parents, in order to force her to go out and make money.
Mr. Zhang said that as long as his wife went out to make money, the contradiction between them would be resolved.
But Ms. Hu felt that the child was only two years old at that time, and she was reluctant to have a child.
In the end, Ms. Hu still did not have a husband, and could only put down her children and go out to work.
What makes Ms. Hu angry is that the mother-in-law who originally said that she was good would take the child together, and every month after she left, the mother-in-law left to take the little uncle's child, and her child was only left by the father-in-law.
Ms. Hu cried and said that the father-in-law would always leave the child to be taken care of by others, or let him play alone, so the child often talked to himself.
She said that when she went home to see the child, she saw that the child's face was dirty, and she couldn't stop the pain in her eyes.
Ms. Hu continued that because her father-in-law was engaged in yellow eels and needed to put the cage in the middle of the night, Ms. Hu thought that her father-in-law was likely to leave the child alone at home.
She later also found that when the child was in a confined space, the child would be afraid of the dark and make a big noise.
In Ms. Hu's eyes, she believes that her husband will only earn money, and it is important that the children do not earn money.
Ms. Hu questioned her husband Mr. Zhang on the spot, the place of work is not far, have you come back to take care of the children?
In the face of his wife's accusations, Mr. Zhang only said that he had said that he had said that he would take the children well, and the father also gave assurances.
He said that after seeing the video sent by his wife, his heart was also very sad, and he only thought about the money at that time.
Ms. Hu went on to say that she often dreamed of her children and was worried that something would happen to them, so she went back to visit them.
When she went back, she found that the child and his grandfather were not at home at four or five o'clock, and she looked all over the village, and as a result, the father-in-law handed the child over to an old grandfather to take and went to the river to catch fish.
Seeing her father-in-law do this, Ms. Hu was aggrieved and angry in her heart.
Ms. Hu said she could not accept the lack of attention paid to her children by her husband and his family.
She said that the little uncle is a doctoral graduate, the family has a certain economic foundation, can ask someone to take the child, but the mother-in-law wants to leave his child to take care of the little brother-in-law's child, which is obviously eccentric.
But Mr. Zhang does not think so, he thinks that his wife is not in the right state of mind.
Mr. Zhang accused his wife of complaining that her parents were good to her brother.
Ms. Hu explained that her children are still young, but the little uncle's children are already older, and her children need to be taken care of more.
She said that when the little uncle's daughter-in-law was pregnant, the mother-in-law took care of it without saying a word, and when she was pregnant, she was unwilling to take care of her mother-in-law, which was obviously biased.
Mother-in-law help is human affection, and it doesn't matter if you don't help. Ms. Hu asked her husband to find a job in his hometown to take care of the children, but her husband was unwilling, and the little uncle and mother-in-law also let her husband go out to work.
Ms. Hu said that if this is happening now, the in-laws also have a certain responsibility.
Mr. Zhang accused Ms. Hu of considering the other person's family and whether they have the ability to do so before marrying.
After experiencing a failed marriage, Ms. Hu was introduced to Mr. Zhang and wanted to know more about it, but Mr. Zhang proposed to get married as soon as possible on the grounds that she had no children in the previous marriage, and promised to be good to her.
At that time, Ms. Hu thought that Mr. Zhang was a reliable person, so she reassured herself and married Mr. Zhang.
But after she became pregnant, she regretted it.
Ms. Hu said that her husband never gave gifts on her wedding anniversary, and after she became pregnant, she chatted with other women and sent red envelopes.
Later, after the birth of the child, her husband has always been out of the country to work, and she is alone at home with the child.
Recalling the hardships of the child's fever and injury when she was alone with the child, Ms. Hu felt extremely aggrieved and helpless.
She said she could understand that her husband needed to go out to work to earn money, but she hoped that he would send some money back, or come back to help herself during her injury, and she would feel better.
But the husband did not, and when she called for money, he rejected her on the grounds that someone else needed it.
Since then, her husband has rarely called home, which makes Ms. Hu feel that her husband does not care about their mother and son at all.
In the face of his wife's accusations, the husband impatiently said that his wife was always like this, and he would also give his wife money.
In the face of Mr. Zhang's attitude, the mediator spoke, and she told Mr. Zhang what to do when he encountered this matter.
Mr. Zhang said that he did not do it, but once his wife gave her money, she would not admit it, he was sick outside, called his wife to seek her concern, but the wife said: You are dead, it is none of my business.
Ms. Hu explained that it was because her husband did not care enough about her and her children that she did not care about him.
Ms. Hu continued that her husband would never take the initiative to help him share the housework at home, let alone care about himself, and he now asks himself to care about her.
Ms. Hu said that I especially hate him and I want to get a divorce.
Listening to Ms. Hu say this, the mediator asked a crucial question, what about the child?
So the mediation was suspended, and the mediator and the psychologist decided to observe the child's situation first.
At the beginning, the child began to get out of control, throwing things around and scratching Ms. Hu's hair.
Ms. Hu said that the child's mood is related to the environment and the emotions of the people around her, and when she and her husband took care of the children some time ago, the children had a significant improvement.
Back at the mediation site, the mediator asked Ms. Hu if she was ready to take the child by herself?
Ms. Hu was silent, and the mediator continued that she was also distressed to see the child like this, and she must first consider the cause of the child's illness.
Later, the mediator accused Mr. Zhang that he had always given the impression that he was avoiding the important and avoiding the important, and that the child saw every day was a sad-faced mother, an irresponsible father, and two people constantly arguing, which brought a certain psychological impact to the child.
The mediator believes that the economy and efforts of two people must be greater than that of one person, and both people should look for their own problems, communicate with each other friendly, and run the marriage.
Only two people holding hands can save the family and give the child a good living environment and a good future.
Listening to the mediator's words, Mr. Zhang made a reflection, the child became like this, and he had an unshirkable responsibility as a father.
A good family education environment, like the warm breeze in spring and the gentle sunshine in winter, moisturizes the child's heart and bathes in robust seedlings.
Without sufficient sunlight, moisture, soil, air, plants will not survive, without a good family environment, the child's body and mind will also be affected.
As parents, you should take responsibility for yourself, create a harmonious family relationship for your children, and let your children grow up in love.
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