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Now many people's need for marriage, in fact, just want to form a family, at the beginning there is no emotional need. But even if you get married by blind date, after marriage, if you are always polite with your other half, like a partner to live a life, then whose heart is also uncomfortable. So later, two people living together always hope that there are some feelings between them.
But at this time, we must think clearly in advance, when cultivating feelings with our other half, we must first understand each other, such as the other party's heart still has some past words, but also understand that they and the other party have not discussed this matter before, and the other party is not wrong, so when encountering this kind of thing, we must communicate, rather than directly angry and unreasonable.
Because in today's society, very few people only have a relationship experience, if you want to make your marriage smooth and smooth, you should be more tolerant, as long as the other party does not do something sorry for themselves, it is easy to communicate in everything. And if you didn't ask for it at first, and then you made unreasonable trouble, it would only ruin your marriage, and also ruin the other party's trust and good feelings for yourself.
Liu Ting and Zhou Yang know each other and get married, so the emotional foundation is not so deep, but this does not mean that Liu Ting can not care about Zhou Yang, nor do she care about her own family.
But after Zhou Yang got married, he seemed to have some regrets, and he also completely forgot that Liu Ting was his wife, not a confidant, and often pulled Liu Ting to tell some stories about him and his predecessor, and Liu Ting was full of annoyance when she listened.
However, Liu Ting also understood that Zhou Yang and his predecessor were college classmates at the beginning, and the two people were also considered golden children and jade girls in the class, and there were many people who blessed them. But the girls were more ambitious, and after graduation, they went to graduate school, and the two of them began to go to a different place.
And Zhou Yang did not approve of his girlfriend continuing to study for graduate school, because at that time, Zhou Yang's family had already arranged a job for him, and Zhou Yang had already decided to return to his hometown, so he hoped that his girlfriend could go back with him. Therefore, the two had different opinions on this matter, but the girls were not willing to rely on Zhou Yang, and they were not willing to marry far away, so they did not discuss too much with Zhou Yang at all, and they went to another city to study for graduate school.
Later, although Zhou Yang took a step back and did not break up with his girlfriend, he always felt that his girlfriend did not care about himself or think about himself, and the two people often quarreled because of this. When his girlfriend graduated from graduate school and wanted to find a job, because she refused to come to Zhou Yang's side, the two people completely broke up, and Zhou Yang broke up in anger and agreed to the blind date of his parents.
After Zhou Yang regretted it, the girl already had a new boyfriend, and the development was very smooth, and there was no room for Zhou Yang to intervene.
This has become Zhou Yang's regret, but also let Zhou Yang feel that he has a love that tears his heart and lungs but cannot end well, so even if he has a family with Liu Ting, he has not been able to let go of this relationship, and from time to time he will take it out to say it.
When Liu Ting cooperated, Zhou Yang sighed that it was over, and sometimes Liu Ting was more tired after work, too lazy to listen to Zhou Yang, sometimes in a bad mood, and would say a few words about Zhou Yang. Zhou Yang felt more uncomfortable at this time, and sometimes even compared Liu Ting with his predecessor, making Liu Ting even less fond of Zhou Yang.
Because of Zhou Yang's practice, Liu Ting also once had the idea of simply divorcing, but whenever she mentioned it to her parents, her parents advised Liu Ting not to be impulsive.
"Who doesn't have a past? If you can get to the end with the person you like, who will go on a blind date? So you're a little bit tolerant of this kind of thing, and you're not without an ex-boyfriend. He just can't get out for a while, you make more memories with him, and slowly it will be fine. ”
Listening to her parents' words, Liu Ting's impulse in her heart was slightly reduced, but in fact, Liu Ting knew the root cause of her parents' opposition, she was already in her thirties this year, and it was because she was old that she would go on a blind date, and she would rush to marry Zhou Yang.
So I am really not very rational because of this divorce now, and in addition to the ex, the other Zhou Yang is not bad. Therefore, after Liu Ting seriously thought about her parents' words, she also wanted to have a good talk with Zhou Yang, let Zhou Yang take his ex to the past, and then the two of them would live a good life.
However, when Liu Ting wanted to understand and then returned home, she accidentally bumped into Zhou Yang looking at the photos of his ex, and Liu Ting found that Zhou Yang had such a deep regret for his ex, and at the same time she was angry, but also had a trace of sympathy.
So Liu Ting was not angry this time, and deliberately pretended not to see, but when Zhou Yang was not at home, Liu Ting took the photo, enlarged it, and spent 2,000 yuan to frame it, and then hung it on the bedroom wall of the two people.
When Zhou Yang came home from work in the evening and saw this scene, he was naturally very angry, but Liu Ting was not weak-hearted, nor did she admit that she was deliberately retaliating, "Don't you think you have regrets with your ex?" So I hang up the photos now, and you look at them every day, when do you think you've seen enough? Let's just live well. If you feel like you'll never get past this hurdle, then we'll divorce you outright. ”
Feeling Liu Ting's frankness, Zhou Yang was shocked, and he struggled for half a day, and finally only held out one sentence, "You are really cruel." ”
In the days that followed, Zhou Yang always seemed to consciously or unconsciously avoid the topic of his predecessor, but Liu Ting no longer allowed it, always deliberately chatting with Zhou Yang about his ex, and once Zhou Yang said something important, Liu Ting pulled Zhou Yang to repeat it again, but did something completely different from Zhou Yang's predecessor.
And the effect of this is also very obvious, slowly, the memories of Liu Ting and Zhou Yang have replaced the memories of Zhou Yang and his predecessor, and Zhou Yang no longer compares Liu Ting with his predecessor. He also gradually got used to the identity of Liu Ting's husband, often cared about Liu Ting, and also took the initiative to create surprises.
Until a few months later, when Zhou Yang took the initiative to take off the photo and also threw away the one he had left with the big photo, Liu Ting knew that she really did the right thing.
After dealing with the memories, Zhou Yang also solemnly apologized to Liu Ting, saying that he had been a little impulsive because of marriage before, so he had a little regret after marriage, and would continue to recall the past. But now he and Liu Ting have cultivated a real husband and wife relationship, and he has no nostalgia for his ex.
Liu Ting also felt very happy, and after that, she no longer took up this topic in advance. And Zhou Yang also really walked out completely and began to communicate with Liu Ting, and the two became a loving couple that everyone envied.
After the birth of the two people's children, looking at Zhou Yang's loving appearance for the child, Liu Ting lamented that she did not divorce because of a momentary impulse. And Liu Ting now also understands that when she and Zhou Yang were married, there was no emotional basis, and it was inevitable that when the two people had any friction, they would regret it or recall the past, but marriage and love are not the same, as long as she and Zhou Yang can be family-oriented in the future, even if it is happiness.
For many couples who are blind date and flash marriage, it may be that the marriage in this life is respectful and polite, but two completely different people living together will inevitably have friction, and there is no feeling at this time, even if it is not careful because of politeness, the heart will not necessarily be tolerant.
And many such marriages are actually too bland and meaningless, and there are many grumpy people who will file for divorce or export hurt when they feel bored, but this is not the original intention of everyone to get married, so whether it is in love and marriage, or blind date marriage, we should try to live a good marriage.
Zhou Yang and Liu Ting are good examples, the two people may not have thought of what to marry first and then love, nor have they thought of completely replacing each other's previous deep feelings, but since the two people live together, they must find a way to integrate themselves into each other's lives, otherwise the two people will be very sad in this life.
And many couples who always quarrel in life should also learn from Liu Ting, there are problems, solve problems, as long as it is not a matter of principle, husband and wife should be more tolerant. But to be a person, you must also have certain limits, learn to stop the loss in time, only in this way can the marriage and yourself be happy.
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