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Some people say that women have 4 chances to turn over in this life, each opportunity is extremely important, if you have missed the first three opportunities, you must seize the last one.
1. Parents
The origin of the original family, the starting point of the parents, is a woman's first chance to turn over.
Once in a variety show, I watched such a video:
The children stood in a row, and the host asked: "Parents are all bachelor's degree or above, please take a step forward." ”
Only a few children took a step forward, and many more were in place.
The host also asked: "Parents have the ability to take you on a trip abroad, and then take a step forward." ”
All the way down, only one child stood at the end, more children, all left in the middle of the road, and more children, did not set off at the origin.
The original family of the parents is the starting point of the woman, and in real life, most of the parents are ordinary people, and the families with an annual income of more than 100,000 are even fewer.
When parents graduate from school, because of the trivial pressure of life, parents who can read books alone and parents who can accompany their children to read books are even rarer.
After all, 70% of adults will not work hard after graduation, and their efforts are to do their best to eat the hardships of life for life, and they are not willing to eat the pain of learning.
If your parents can't be your chance to turn around, then you have to see clearly and come out of your original family.
2. Read
Yesterday in a group, a friend said such a heart-wrenching remark.
There is a 19-year-old little girl, for the so-called love, and her boyfriend went south to work, originally thought that sentient beings could drink water, but later found that life was so bitter.
What a naïve and romantic age 19 is, what a youthful age, when a 19-year-old girl, not in the university classroom, but has joined the struggle of life, she has given up, the second chance to turn around in her life.
Reading is really too important for girls, at the age when they can study well, read well, get admitted to the university of their choice, go to see the really good circle and life, and go to see the kind of hard work, this is the real broadening of horizons.
And many girls, early to give up their own opportunity to study, early to give up their own life, the second chance to turn over, when she really wants to study, but found that there is nothing she can do.
3. Marriage
The importance of marriage to women is self-evident, so there is the proverb that marriage is the second reincarnation of a woman.
A woman who has not read much, a woman whose parents are also very ordinary, how many rights and opportunities does she have in marriage, and what rights and opportunities can she choose?
Most women, before they get married, don't know the importance of marriage, or even understand the importance of choosing a good man.
Because in love, as long as the man loves himself, he has never considered it, to examine the man's character, the man's ability, the man's plan for the future, and the man's original family, which is the focus of two people's marriage.
In the video, you will often see the current situation of such a woman, who dropped out of school early, did not read much books, and when she went to work outside, she thought she had met a so-called lover.
And the man's means of pursuing her are also extremely ordinary, sometimes even just a lollipop, sometimes maybe just a flower, sometimes just because two people have eaten a meal, the woman is moved, feel that the man is very good to himself, think this is the love that he wants the most.
After marriage, the man continued to work outside, and the woman returned to the man's hometown and gave birth to 3 or 4 children in one go.
Men's hometowns are so poor, the houses are dilapidated, their parents don't have much ability, men don't have much ability, except for sending 1,000 yuan a month to women for living expenses, men can't come up with other things.
In this way, women lose the 3rd chance to turn over, a woman who does not study hard, a woman who does not grow up on her, will only meet men of the same level as her, so this type of woman has nothing to complain about.
Because life is your own choice, you obviously know that your parents are ordinary people, you have to work harder, but you give up; you know that reading is a better way out of your life, but you can't eat the pain of learning, and enter the society early; if you don't get married so quickly, not so quickly because men marry your little favors, if you use these times to grow, read books, and learn skills, then your life will still be different.
4. Self-awakening
If a woman, after marriage, can self-awaken, can see the truth of life clearly, and know the importance of relying on herself and strengthening herself, it shows that this woman is not hopeless.
Some women, in the face of their own chicken feather marriage and life, choose to admit their fate, choose to complain while tearfully insisting, but never thought to change.
The book says: "Self-awakening is the most realistic and reliable method of counterattack." When a woman sees the nature of poverty clearly, she will begin to become rich and mature. However, in fact, most women are not enlightened, choose to be mediocre, and live and live a lifetime. ”
If you have lost the first three opportunities now, please do not feel sorry for yourself and do not give up on yourself.
You still have one last chance to seize, no matter how old you are now, no matter what state you are in now, when you really want to be better inside, when you really want to change inside, all the material and happiness you want is already projected in the outer world.
A woman who wants to change, no matter what age, is never too late; a woman who really wants to change, as long as you start acting, you have already won 70% of the average person.
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