Author/Pond Fish
Happiness when you are old seems to be really different from when you were young.
For example, at my age, I don't think I can live alone at all, and I can enjoy myself. From my current point of view, I rightfully believe that even if I am alone in my life, I can live very well. But a slightly older man told me that this was because I was still young and in perfect health, and anything I wanted to pursue could be achieved on my own. The loneliness I choose at this time is not that I am really lonely, but that I can have more choices, but I have chosen this one for the time being.
However, this is not the case when you are old, and when you really reach a certain age, there is no choice in many things, only the only option.
Moreover, when you get older, you will have a clearer feeling of loneliness and hilarity. The old man believes that after retirement, people who often do 3 things will have fewer and fewer blessings.
01. Have a conflict with your own children;
As a parent, in the old age, it is really an extremely irrational thing to have a conflict with your children, whether you win or lose, in the final analysis, you lose.
The old man said that when people are old, they must serve the old, do not think that they are still young, take it for granted that they want to intervene in the lives of children or even point out the lives of children, and even ask others to listen to your suggestions, an era of ideas, the ideas are different under the premise, they are also outdated, rest assured to do their own things.
There is a kind of old man, when they are old, they want to seek a sense of existence more and more, and even use the way of unreasonable making trouble, in a vain attempt to obtain an absolute authority in front of their children, thinking that I have given birth to you, and now that I am old, no matter what I do, you must follow me, follow my will, and if you do not obey, you will not be filial piety and start to quarrel.
Is this practice useful?
Mostly counterproductive.
Between people, any relationship needs mutual respect, even with some utilitarianism, family affection can not be avoided. Just like when we were young, because the economy and other aspects of the ability are not allowed, so each other should follow the advice of their parents, be disciplined by their parents, and later the children can be independent, they can do everything. When people are old, in fact, to some extent, they return to the childhood period, then the attitude of parents to their children at this time cannot be as domineering as when they were young, thinking that children must listen to themselves. On the contrary, parents at this time hinder the various factors of reality, but need to be more respectful of their children, after all, it is the children who have more right to speak at this time.
Therefore, if you have a conflict with your children, it is really more than worth the loss, not only will you not get the respect you want, but you may also make the child lose patience and the original filial piety, and make things worse.
02. Break with brothers and sisters;
Brothers and sisters, in terms of blood relations, are the closest people in this world, except for their parents.
In this life, there are many people who can intersect with you, but most of them are just passers-by, and if the brothers and sisters are not unexpected, they are people who can accompany you for a lifetime.
The old man said that as long as everyone is a person with a conscience, between brothers and sisters, there have been some contradictions or discord, it is not surprising, everyone has their own temper, in front of their relatives have said some inappropriate words, or done some inappropriate things, causing contradictions between two people, it is normal. But as long as it does not involve any major matters in principle, later everyone reaches a certain age, in fact, do not care too much, should be reconciled, everyone returns to normal relationships, and life can be easier and happier.
After thinking about it, the old man's words actually have a certain truth.
In my life, I have really seen similar things, obviously two people are brothers, but because of some small things, they do not interact with each other, they do not look at each other well, until the two people are old, they finally because of an opportunity to freeze the previous suspicions, and the relationship between each other at this time began to heat up unprecedentedly.
When you are young, everyone is in a lot of relationships, in fact, for many people, the feeling of family affection may not be so strong, but as they grow older, many relationships are a gradually decreasing process, at this time people's emotions will become unprecedentedly sensitive and fragile, and companionship is a very important thing.
Therefore, when you are old, don't break with your brothers and sisters because of some unworthy problems, any relationship is easy to break, but it is difficult to repair. Of course, if the other party is an irreconcilable contradiction caused by poor character and long-term development, there is no need to repair it, so as not to cause trouble for yourself.
03. Do not associate with your friends;
To be honest, I always see some people on the Internet, advocating solitude after getting old, saying that they don't need friends or the like, but the problem is that everyone likes to be alone and really enjoy a person's life, and I don't think it is necessary to ask yourself to follow the path of life that others say.
When you are old, how to pass your time is a problem.
When you are young, everyone is working, and there is a certain socialization every day, and when you reach a certain age, this socialization is weakened to a certain extent from all levels.
If you think that you are older and no longer associate with friends after retirement, you may feel some tranquility at first, but after a little longer, you will definitely need to socialize. No matter what age people are, as long as they can move and have some friends around, they will feel a lot happier.
Therefore, people who do not have contact with friends easily seem to be a little impulsive.
Everyone lives in the world, and the ultimate pursuit of things is nothing but the peace and happiness of life, but there are always many unsatisfactory things in life, so the mentality is very important at this time. Especially after people reach their old age, they can try to live in a way they like and put their mentality in order to obtain a more ideal state.
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