Which is more important, like or suitable, many people who are caught up in the choice will ask themselves. Many people may choose to like without hesitation, after all, how many people have met, may not be able to like each other, but as long as the right people are serious about running in, sometimes they will become likes. So, when we are faced with choices, we often ask ourselves what kind of choices we like and are suitable for?
Many emotionally rich people use their experience to tell us that what suits may be more important than what they like. Why? I thought about this question carefully and repeatedly, and got several answers that are worth thinking about.
First, the time conditions are not appropriate
I believe that many people have had such an experience, that is, the right time to meet the wrong person, or the wrong time to meet the right person, in fact, this feeling is often derived from liking but not appropriate. Because, in this time of relationship, you need to pay a lot of cost to maintain, even if you really catch up with her and are together, but you can't guarantee that this feeling will last. This situation is generally considered to be an inappropriate time.
The second and third views are inappropriate
After many couples are together, they will consider the question of whether there is resonance in the value of the three views. Why many couples who are together are separated is largely because of the discord in the three views, so it will directly or indirectly lead to the inability to be together for a long time.
There are also many people who like each other, before they have begun, they have done a lot of homework on each other's three views of value, similar to hobbies, values, outlook on life, etc. to make a systematic prejudgment, or according to their own understanding of him, made a perceptual cognition. The end result is that it is not suitable to walk together. If you reluctantly walk together, it is likely that you will be separated because of the contradiction in the three views, and if so, it is better to be friends.
Third, like but not suitable, need to spend energy to maintain each other's relationship
Many people will give priority to what they like and what they like. In their words, if you can't choose the person you like to be with, even if you are a god, you will not be happy. So many people are given priority in liking this thing, but often sometimes liking is really not necessarily suitable, and many people who like each other do not go to the end Why?
The first is because like this thing, both parties need to pay for each other, and in a state of balance, if one day this balance is broken, then the relationship will collapse. Therefore, in the maintenance of relations, both sides need to work together to go further.
Secondly, they are unwilling to make concessions in some things, stubbornly believing that as long as they pay what they should pay, there is no need to make such a big concession, after all, when two people are together, their own comfort is the most important. If two people are together and they can't be comfortable with themselves, then what is the point of being together?
Finally, even if everyone has a firm belief and wants to stay with each other, in the end, it cannot withstand the erosion of external pressure for a long time. Many people are limited by family reasons, pressure from elders, and ultimately do not come together. Some people will also give up the former Sea Oath Mountain Alliance because of long-term concessions and cannot withstand external temptations. As a result, the results are not happy.
Fourth, like the same to face the door to the door
The older generation often says that the door is right, in fact, it is the problem of suitableness, and sometimes there is a certain truth. Together there must be a favorite ingredient, can not say that it will be done, it does not matter, even if the person who will be ready, will first consider like, but this like is the number of suitable hundred percent. Now many people's blind dates, must first consider the eye edge, the eye edge is also a kind of like, look at the like will consider whether to be together, after being together will consider whether it is appropriate, and then will go to the palace of marriage.
Fifth, like + suitable to do a good match
Why are many people so picky about emotional things? That's because they know what they want, and sometimes it's a spiritual pursuit to be absent or indiscriminate. More and more people understand that it is far more important to fit than to like. How much difficulty it is to meet a person, I believe that people who are still waiting now know that it is easy to like a person, but it is really not easy to like the right person. Some people need to spend many years to find a person they like to have the right person, while someone can only find what they like, but it is not suitable. Therefore, although like is necessary, but suitable for more important, like and suitable people, is destined to be able to last forever, suitable people can also be, but like is not necessarily, people who understand understand.
Probably the vast majority of people, like me, once thought that as long as they like someone, as long as they are together, whether this person is suitable or not, they will become suitable for a long time together. However, after really being together, I found that liking is only the first step, and fitting is the key step. Two people who are not suitable, no matter how to run together, will always have differences in pace, and there will always be contradictions. And this contradiction will accumulate day and night to form a stubborn disease, and it will also lead to it becoming a separate fuse. Therefore, if you meet the right one, in the case of not hating, sometimes you can cultivate to become a favorite, and you can't miss it when you meet the right person, otherwise, you are really afraid that you will not meet.