Inadvertently saw such a post "Mother-in-law is not willing to help with the baby, what is it like?" ", the landlord's experience, obviously unpleasant.
In Chinese-style families, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seems to be a topic of discussion forever.
The landlord was married for three years, and thought that he was married to love and had a happy married life. Unexpectedly, the daughter was born, and the family conflict broke out.
When the mother-in-law learned that the landlord was pregnant, she was really happy, and when she learned that she had given birth to a daughter, her heart was still a little lost. After all, just a son, naturally want a grandson.
During the month, the mother-in-law's care is still dedicated. However, the relatives of the seven aunts and eight aunts often came to visit the door, and they did not know what to say, so that the mother-in-law's attitude suddenly changed.
The landlord and her husband are busy at work, and the children are handed over to the mother-in-law to take care of, and the mother-in-law is unhappy and finds various reasons to postpone.
The landlord is also very depressed, and the mother-in-law would rather go out to dance square dance and play mahjong than take the child. Ten years ago to see the mother-in-law, ten years later to see the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law to bring their own little grandchildren, this is a natural thing.
Those mothers-in-law who do not help their daughters-in-law with their children will sooner or later meet these "real" problems.
1. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law escalates
Looking at the mother-in-law of other people's families, treating their daughters-in-law so closely, but their mother-in-law is unwilling to bring their grandchildren, it is inevitable that their psychology will be uncomfortable.
This kind of dissatisfaction has accumulated in the heart for a long time, which will inevitably escalate the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and even break out family conflicts.
In fact, the elderly still like children, with children, can feel the vitality of life. In many families, sons and daughters-in-law are busy at work, and children are brought by mother-in-law, which can reduce a lot of burdens.
2. The problem of old-age care is difficult to solve
As the saying goes: "Ten years ago to see the mother-in-law, ten years later to see the daughter-in-law". The mother-in-law is no longer young, one day will become old, will be sick and bedridden, and always need the care of her son and daughter-in-law.
When the mother-in-law is young, she does not help her daughter-in-law to take care of the children, and when she is old and bedridden, it is difficult for her daughter-in-law to give meticulous care. This kind of estrangement between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to eliminate.
If you do not help your daughter-in-law to take care of your children, you are likely to face the problem of old-age care. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will definitely have some contradictions on the issue of pension, which is an inevitable problem.
3. The child is not close to the grandmother
Children are very simple, who often play with them, who often take care of them, kiss with whom. When the child is young, his grandmother does not take care of him, and it will be more difficult to get close to him when he grows up.
My own little grandchildren and granddaughters don't kiss themselves, and Grandma's heart is certainly not very comfortable.
Although taking care of children is not easy at all, the mother-in-law can also help the daughter-in-law as much as she can. People's hearts are all flesh, and the mother-in-law is good to the daughter-in-law, and I believe that the daughter-in-law will not forget.
When the mother-in-law is old and bedridden, the daughter-in-law's meticulous care believes that it will also make the mother-in-law tear up.
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not irreconcilable, as long as the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law care about each other and do not cause too many contradictions because of trivial matters, I believe that they can get along with each other.
They are all women, they have all been mothers, and their mothers-in-law have also come from their daughters-in-law. For many years, the daughter-in-law will also become a mother-in-law, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will have contradictions and must be resolved as soon as possible, so that the family will be harmonious and beautiful, and everything will prosper!