In order to increase the marriage rate, experts have persuaded women to let go of the mate selection requirements and accept men who are inferior to themselves

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The population is ageing and the marriage rate is getting lower and lower.

As a result, many people are worried about the current situation, especially some experts, who have been contributing to the increase in fertility and marriage rates.

For example, some time ago, the "warm quilt plan" was hyped up on the Internet.

It's just that the results of those proposals are all the same, which is nothing more than provoking the anger of a group of people.

Recently, an expert has put forward his idea, he feels that the marriage rate is too low because contemporary women are too strong.

Once a woman is highly educated, has a good job, a high income, and good material conditions, it is not so easy to accept the average man.

Women want to marry men who are stronger than themselves, but there are only a few really good men, so that a large number of older unmarried young women exist.

So experts boldly proposed that women should let go of the conditions for choosing a mate and have the courage to accept men who are inferior to themselves.

Experts also said that there are many outstanding women in contemporary times, and their own conditions are very good in all aspects, so don't cling to the conditions anymore, after all, there are very few men who are better than them, and not wanting to be low means that it is difficult to marry.

At first glance, it may sound reasonable, but when you think about it, this proposal is simply terrible.

Marriages where women are strong and men are weak are not so easy to be happy

It is not that women are unwilling to accept men who are inferior to themselves, but even if they marry a man who is inferior to themselves in all aspects, they may not be able to get happiness.

01 Women are born "Mu Qiang"

Women want their significant other to be stronger than themselves, so that she has a sense of belonging.

Women are not the same as men, men marry mostly for the sake of inheritance, while women usually marry to seek spiritual dependence.

Only men who are better than themselves in all aspects can give themselves the feeling of dependence, and men relying on women in turn will make women feel very uncomfortable.

Women need a sense of love and adoration, and if they don't get satisfied inside for a long time, the relationship is bound to go wrong.

02 Men's inferiority and self-esteem are a time bomb in marriage

Even if a woman is willing to marry and pay wholeheartedly for the family, she may not be able to exchange happiness, because everyone greatly misestimates men's inferiority complex.

In this world, there is such a man, they obviously can't do it, but their self-esteem is bursting, so they always want to complete their inferiority by suppressing women.

It is a very humiliating thing for them to feel that they are inferior to their wives, and the excellence of their wives makes them unable to lift their heads outside, and they feel that they are very faceless.

They are afraid that their wives have a sense of superiority in front of them, so they try to suppress them.

But women are so easy to be suppressed, so the contradictions between them will become larger and larger in the whole process, and in the end they will not be reconciled.

Marriages where men are strong and women can live very well, but marriages where women are strong and men are weak are often not good, which is why.

The wrong proposal will never solve the problem

Although many experts are offering advice, they have no idea what is the main reason for the low marriage rate, and the series of plans they propose are fictitious, after all, they are unrealistic.

First, experts have dissuaded the wrong person from the beginning

Experts are right, as far as the current situation is concerned, excellent women do have more than excellent men, although the top excellent men are more men and fewer women, but the middle range shows a state of more women and less men.

A very simple example, before the xuexin network has done statistics on undergraduate graduates across the country, the statistical results are that there are more women than men with bachelor's degree or above.

What does this mean? This shows that girls are getting better and better, while men are becoming more and more mediocre.

In such a situation, it is really difficult for women to find the right partner, so much so that some girls prefer to be single.

In order to solve the problem of singleness, experts have been advising girls to find men who are inferior to themselves, but no one has advised the current men to work their own, which is really the most ridiculous place.

No matter how good women are, they should also cater to men who are not as good as themselves, and men can stand still when they are useless, such thinking will never solve the problem, and it will also play a bad guide for contemporary young people.

Girls strive to make themselves good because they can meet better people, not to help others.

This is the most simple and easy to understand truth, and I believe that the experts who propose do not want their daughters to marry.

Second, the reason for the low marriage rate is that many men are reluctant to change

There is a kind of person in the network called the group of haters, and by implication, they are full of hatred for women.

As for the reason, of course, it is because they have not been able to marry a wife from the beginning to the end, from their 20s to their 30s and even to 40s, they have been single.

But they never looked for a reason in themselves, and they always felt that the reason why they were single was because women were too demanding.

Is this really the case? The answer is, of course, no, if it is really because women are too demanding, which has led to the existence of so many older leftover men, then why are the vast majority of men married? Some men with mediocre conditions also get married.

Men are unwilling to introspect themselves, unwilling to take on corresponding responsibilities, unwilling to work hard upwards, women can never see the reason from them, and the marriage rate can never change.

For everyone, the biggest significance of marriage should be to make life better and better, let the wandering people have a home, let the lonely people have the soul to rely on, let the people who have a bad life have a mutual support of the other half, rather than one party to help the other party to help the other.

If men had been lying on the ground like a pool of mud, there would not be a woman in the world who would have wanted to marry them.

Only when they can change, shoulder the responsibility on their shoulders, and have self-motivation can they give girls a sense of solidity and become a husband and father of people.

If men do not change, the marriage rate will never go up, after all, who lives is not to fulfill others.

Don't always advise women, most of the contemporary women are highly educated, have opinions and ideas, and they are not so easy to compromise.

If you have time, go and persuade men more!

I am Shadow, an original author who focuses on the field of emotion.