Asan said: "Our love is like the scenery you pass by, always moving forward, but the footsteps never stop for me." ”
In the world of feelings, there are too many idiot men and women. Everyone craves happiness, but in the end no one can predict the direction of a relationship.
I saw a post the other day, which discussed things that are very interesting, is it a handsome man flower heart or an ugly man flower heart?
Some people talk about the toxic theory of handsome men, the theory of handsome people's hearts, and some people are busy refuting them. Here's a point of view, with the most likes:
"Some people say that handsome guys are not safe, in fact it is wrong. Handsome guys have been chased since elementary school and junior high school, so they have their own requirements for their love partners.
Ugly men are different, because of the hardware relationship, they tend to be hungry, can have one count one, can catch one even if they take advantage.
And poor and ugly men can be willing to marry them to steal pleasure, if they encounter temptation is difficult to restrain. ”
If Li Jingjing had seen such remarks 10 years ago, perhaps his life would not have become what he is now.
Because the introduction of a sentence: "It doesn't matter if a man is poor or ugly, so that he cherishes you more, has less temptation, and can better understand how to be good to you." In a woman's life, blandness is a blessing. Li Jingjing accepted the pursuit of the blind date and entered a married life.
Li Jingjing works as a cashier in a private shop, and her husband works as a warehouse manager in a private company.
At the beginning of the marriage between the two people, Li Jingjing felt that his life was okay. Although the salary is not much, it is all self-supporting. Renting a cheap single room, no matter how late after work, two people are also going home to cook and eat, which does not cost much.
The husband also often said that being able to marry Li Jingjing as a daughter-in-law was a blessing he had cultivated in three lifetimes. Although the life of two people is bitter, it cannot be said that they are unhappy.
And this happiness only lasts until the birth of the child. After becoming pregnant, Li Jingjing was unable to work as a cashier, and the owner of the shop found a mistake in her, gave her two months' salary, and fired her.
At that time, Li Jingjing was five months pregnant, and her stomach was already showing. 10 years ago, Li Jingjing did not know how to defend her rights, and she was uneasy that her boss gave her double salary.
If Li Jingjing does not work, her man will not be able to support a family of three, even if Li Jingjing has cut back on food and clothing, and the things prepared for her children will be picked up and bought cheaply.
So, on the street corner, we can always see a woman with a big belly, selling some handmade gadgets on the ground, rain or shine.
Some people say that the hard days are over. Is this true? No, it's just that you adapted yourself.
As the children grow up and the costs are increasing, Li Jingjing advises her husband to learn some technology, even if he is a takeaway brother, making some hard money is better than the warehouse manager who has less than 3,000 yuan in hand now.
The key is that the husband has been a librarian for 6 years, and his salary has only increased by 500 yuan, allowing him to jump ship and cast a number of resumes. But now even if you have 1,000 more yuan and 500 more yuan, your life will be better.
But the husband is not willing to change to another type of job, nor is he willing to learn more about the relevant professional knowledge of warehouse management to improve himself.
Li Jingjing now goes to the supermarket as a cashier during the day and to set up a street stall on the street corner at night. She also wanted to pull her husband in and set up a stall across the street. But the husband felt humiliated and preferred to hide at home playing games and swiping videos.
Li Jingjing is now not like when she first got married, she wants to save up for a down payment on a remote house, and now she thinks about the rent not to rise again and to give her son's life not too far from the average.
All of this, Li Jingjing stood up, and she confessed her fate. Sometimes she often thinks that her life is not very bad, and there are many people who are not as good as herself. Thinking like this, my heart was a little more relaxed, but when I looked at my son, my heart tugged again.
What makes you quiet and unexpected is that there is no money, which does not prevent the "wrong heart". Ugly, can not stop the ambiguity of getting along day and night.
Li Jingjing's husband and a divorced middle-aged woman in the company who does noon work meals and engages in hygiene have secret feelings.
Li Jingjing got the conclusive evidence, and the first sentence she thought of was actually the introducer and her:
"It doesn't matter if a man is poor or ugly, so he cherishes you more, has less temptation, and knows how to be good to you." In a woman's life, blandness is a blessing. ”
What blessings have you enjoyed in the past 10 years?
Now, what blessing do you enjoy?
Li Jingjing wanted to divorce and wanted to make a big fuss at her husband's company, and Li Jingjing thought about it for a lot and a long time. As a result, she saw that it was time for her son to leave school, and she was busy cooking as usual.
It was as if the incident of her husband's infidelity had no impact on the family or on her life.
Looks are given by parents, but there are two kinds of poverty. One kind of poverty is bad luck, which is an objective factor; one kind of poverty is because one does not work hard, which is a subjective factor.
There is a saying called "don't deceive the young people poor", but this poor, we really have to open our eyes before marriage, to distinguish which one is more.
There is also a kind of even more terrible poverty, that is, "poverty of the heart." This kind of poverty is often insoluble.
In marriage, trying to make men good to themselves is a high-risk thing. "Good" is something that cannot be held or held, and the other party can take it back without the slightest effort.
And "poor-" men often have a small pattern and cannot become a big deal. They don't want to move forward, they don't want to challenge themselves. As a man you can go with the flow, but you can't escape responsibility. Unfortunately, "getting by" is often synonymous with their real lives.
"Poor-hearted" men tend to have low moral standards and lack self-control. Like Li Jingjing's husband, instead of trying to build her own family, she spends her mind on women outside marriage, and one day she will lift a stone and drop her own feet.
Unmarried girls, be careful about marriage and childbearing, don't marry a "poor hearted" man, he will drag you down, consume you, make you lose confidence in life, and even doubt yourself.
If man's mind is barren, his spirit will certainly not be rich, and this kind of "poverty", unlike the lack of money, cannot be turned over in a lifetime.
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[Wen | Wei Wei'an: the pen has temperature, for the voice of emotion, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]