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A person does not easily show his true thoughts in front of outsiders, so if we want to truly understand a person, we often observe his life from the side through other means to judge the true character of the person.
In today's highly developed technology, the circle of friends is a good platform.
People often use the circle of friends as a platform for their own social venting, sharing what has happened recently, or some real thoughts and insights in their hearts.
If a girl has a crush on someone, she will often observe the other party's circle of friends, Weibo and other social platforms, and want to know more about his life and heart.
Some people even say that women in love are like Sherlock Holmes, and they can analyze and judge the true preferences and personality of a boy based on many inconspicuous small details.
However, in real life, not all boys have such a rule to look for, if you meet a boy who rarely sends a circle of friends, how to be good?
For those girls who want to expand their friendship, try not to try to pry these boys who don't like to send friends, because you can't afford it.
First, they are very real
The reason why such people don't like to send a circle of friends is because they are more willing to focus on real people and things. After all, the online virtual world is virtual, and the things that can be shared can only be the side that others are willing to let you see.
There are even many things that are beautified and processed to become completely inconsistent with the original factual situation.
This kind of boy does not like to wander in the virtual world, to appreciate those made up flowers and willows, they are cold and warm self-aware, and they will not put their lives on the surface and let others judge them.
Such a man loves life very much and at the same time lives a very stable life.
Someone once asked on the Internet, why do modern people dislike sending circles of friends more and more? There are many reasons for this, but the answer that can be unanimously accepted by everyone is still that I don't want my life to be commented on by irrelevant people. There was also a man who shared his true story.
This man confessed that he is a person who does not like to send a circle of friends, and shared some wedding photos taken in advance before the last circle of friends or before getting married.
And this circle of friends he was not willing to send, but his wife hoped that he could show himself and disclose his identity to relatives and friends.
From the perspective of caring for his wife, he released this dynamic with some reluctance. In fact, from the wife's point of view, sending such a circle of friends is nothing more than hoping to get the blessing of her husband's friends and praise from others.
But the truth is a little far from what they imagined.
Many people in the comment area joked that he was ugly and that he was able to marry such a good-looking wife. Such an evaluation was nothing more than a kind of harm to him, and he had been expecting to share his good news with others, but he was ridiculed, and his state of mind has changed since then.
Since then, he has never been willing to post a circle of friends related to his life, and he is unwilling to let others easily comment on his life.
In fact, there are many men who have the same idea, they don't need the attention of others, because they already have a very strong sense of self-existence and value identification.
The lives of such boys are usually more stable and steady, and most of them are married or have a very stable relationship. So they don't want to make their lives transparent and enjoy the feeling of being down-to-earth. If you want to attack such a man, it is impossible to succeed.
Second, too rational
Boys are usually rational creatures, and they prefer to analyze the situation one by one when they encounter problems.
Such boys are sometimes referred to as straight men by girls, because when faced with emotional life, they often behave very thickly and cannot understand the real feelings of girls, or the subtext contained in their words.
If girls tell them a little bit about how uncomfortable they are today, the boys will usually be very blunt, telling them to rest or drink more hot water.
Such a moodless way of chatting usually makes girls lose interest in them, and naturally they will actively give up the idea of continuing to develop with these boys.
Third, attach importance to privacy
At the same time, this kind of boy is also very concerned about his privacy and does not want his own affairs to be known and understood by too many people. Most of those things that can send a circle of friends have already happened, whether it is happy or unpleasant, it has become a foregone conclusion.
Therefore, they do not want this matter to cause them unnecessary trouble on the platform of the circle of friends.
Of course, these men who pay too much attention to privacy either already have a very deeply loved woman and want to protect her well from being arbitrarily evaluated by others.
Or it is an overactive wave, afraid that if you post too many circles of friends, it will reveal its original form and affect its future emotional path.
Of course, from the perspective of personality, it is difficult for such a boy to open his heart to a girl he knows on WeChat. In summary, a boy who does not like to send a circle of friends is difficult to be easily provoked by girls.
If they really want to enter their world, girls should frankly express their sincerity and have a face-to-face communication with boys.
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Author | Tommy
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参考资料：Vogel, D. L., & Wester, S. R. (2003). To seek help or not to seek help: The risks of self-disclosure. Journal of Counseling Psychology, 50(3), 351.