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Children who do not show up when they grow up have these 4 signs from an early age!

When I was a child, I remember the most my parents said to us: "When you grow up and have a career, we will have no worries!" ”

Parents all over the world hope that their children can become dragons and phoenixes. However, a considerable number of children have not been able to fulfill their parents' wishes...

Why? In fact, whether the child grows up or not, there are these 4 signs from an early age, parents must pay attention to.

Children who do not show up when they grow up have these 4 signs from an early age!

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Children are dishonest and often shirk responsibility

As the saying goes: "Small victories rely on wisdom, and great victories rely on virtue." For a child, honesty is a virtue that he must cultivate when he is a child, and it is also one of the criteria for testing whether he has a good job when he grows up.

There is a news that a schoolboy is riding a bicycle and accidentally crashing into a private car. Although no one around saw him, he took a pen and paper, wrote a letter of apology and left it in the car. He not only took the initiative to take responsibility, but also left contact information, and was willing to use his own 200 yuan pocket money to compensate the owner for the loss.

After the owner saw the apology letter, he not only did not lose his temper, but was full of appreciation and encouragement. He did not blame the child, but felt that he was young, not only honest, but also dared to take responsibility, decided not to compensate, but also to be friends with the child.

In fact, this is originally a small thing; you know, in real life, there are countless people who make mistakes and run away. This child who left a note, the owner of the car who chose to tolerate forgiveness, gave us a vivid lesson.

Be honest and responsible, in order to get the respect of others.

However, if the child is not honest and shirks responsibility, it will hinder his or her own growth.

Some time ago, some parents left me a message saying: Children do not know when, developed a very dishonest habit, such as: playing late, but lying that they went outside to study, lying and saying that they went out to study, lying and justifiably, not blushing at all; after damaging or losing things, stealing food or bullying other children, they always like to find various excuses to defend themselves and shirk responsibility; play with toys, but say that the neighbor's children are playing badly.

The child's honesty and trustworthiness, seemingly simple, is actually related to the child's life.

Gorky once said, "Honesty is the best character in life." As long as you lie once, you need to make up for it with a hundred lies. This is a big hole that can't be filled, and the best solution is not to lie at the beginning! ”

The integrity of the child will accompany his lifelong growth. Therefore, integrity education, as part of personality education, cultivating a sound personality of children will be the quality and wealth that children will use throughout their lives, and it is also very important for children.

Children who do not show up when they grow up have these 4 signs from an early age!

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Children are afraid of hardship and have no perseverance and perseverance

Bitterness and sweetness are always relative; if you have not eaten the bitterness of the world, you will naturally not feel the sweetness of life.

In January this year, Yan, a classmate who was in his second year of high school, was criticized by his mother and gambled to buy tickets to work. Introduced by a taxi driver, he found a job working at a restaurant. The restaurant is packed and wrapped, but because the business is too good, he needs to clean the dishes and work 13 hours a day.

After working for two or three days, he regretted it and felt that part-time work was too hard. He contacted his mother and said he wanted to go back for the final exam. In fact, Yan was originally a bully, the first in the class and the fifth in the school in the last exam.

After having this part-time work experience, he truly felt: "It's still good to go to school!" He decided that reading was the most correct thing to do, and assured his mother that the next exam would be the first in the school.

It is precisely because of the hardships experienced that Yan understands the hardships of life and the importance of learning, so he grows rapidly and is reborn.

In his speech "Don't Suffer Hardship, What Do You Want to Be Youth", Ma Yun said: "When you don't travel, don't take risks, don't fight for a scholarship, but haven't tried life; hang qq all day, brush Weibo, shop Taobao, play online games, do what I can do when I'm 80 years old, what do you want to be young?"

Now there are many children, especially afraid of hardship, lack of perseverance and perseverance, as long as they encounter a little difficulty, they want to escape. Such a child, when he grows up, it is difficult to have a career. People who are afraid of hardship, do whatever they do, eat and be lazy, afraid of being tired, not working hard, and not being motivated.

I remember a news story like this: a mother, with hard work, raised her son, and her son soon had a job after graduating from college.

However, every month he worked, he quit his job, always complaining about the heavy work tasks, getting up early in the morning, working overtime at night, feeling too bitter and tired, and couldn't stand it. For two years, my son was at home at ease, either playing games on the Internet or using his mother's small salary to spend time in society.

In response to his mother's accusations, he said with great vigour: "It's too hard outside. ”

Such an answer has caused many parents to fall into deep thought. Children who have not suffered since childhood lack the understanding and perception of the world, lack the persistence and perseverance to reach the goal, and lack the determination and ability to resist setbacks.

I know that there is a question: "Is it still meaningful to exercise children to suffer hardships at the moment?" ”

A netizen's reply is meaningful, he said: "Suffering, in a certain aspect, is to let it do things that you don't like, but to do a relatively great thing, in addition to interest support, are boring, or cyclical work; exercise and hardship, more is to exercise a habit of suffering, exercise a quality of encountering difficulties and face difficulties, exercise a kind of unremitting strength." This is the most fundamental purpose of suffering. ”

When young, children should try not to be afraid of suffering; those who are afraid of suffering for a while often suffer for a lifetime.

Children who do not show up when they grow up have these 4 signs from an early age!

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Children love to take advantage of small things

Loving to take advantage of small things is the beginning of making big mistakes; therefore, parents should urge their children to change their bad habits of loving to take advantage of small things as soon as possible. Otherwise, when they grow up, such a personality is bound to bring unnecessary difficulties and even bad luck in their lives and work.

Not long ago, the news that an 18-year-old female college student used a courier loophole to commit fraud caused a hot discussion.

The thing is this: when Zheng took the courier, he found that the courier brother always put the package in the school janitor's room, and the janitor did not verify and register the person who took the courier. Therefore, Zheng took advantage of this loophole, and after receiving the package many times, claimed to the courier company on the grounds that he did not receive the package, and made a total of more than 2700 yuan in fraud profits.

It was not until the courier brother discovered the abnormal alarm that the scam was debunked, and she also broke the law and was sentenced to 5 days of administrative detention. When he heard the police announce that he would take administrative punishment for himself, Zheng cried regretfully.

She did not expect that her greedy little cheap would be exchanged for such a big price.

There is no free lunch in the world, and people who love to be greedy and cheap can only get big losses!

"I don't know what a gentleman is, but everything is willing to suffer; I don't know what a villain is, but everything is easy to take advantage of." 」 Those children who love to take advantage of each other, often lose the big picture of life.

Children who do not show up when they grow up have these 4 signs from an early age!

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Children have difficulty controlling their emotions

When children are young, they love to lose their temper, which is not terrible; the terrible thing is that as a parent, you don't take your child's tantrum seriously. Even, some parents believe that the bigger the temper when the child is a child, the more he will grow up.

Not really! Children who love to lose their temper will not only not have a chance when they grow up, but they will also hurt others and hurt themselves.

Parents must guide their children, let the children not lose their temper, and help the children to restrain their bad behavior of throwing tantrums; only in this way can the children have a happy and happy life.

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Raising excellent children is loved and well-loved by parents

The educator Makarenko said: "Do not think that education is only when you teach and command your children, in every moment of life, even when you are not present!" "Parents are a mirror of their children, and if they want their children to grow up, parents must lead by example and set a good example."

Some time ago, an 8-year-old bear child, damaged school property, the mother punished himself to pick up garbage to earn money to pay" news caught fire. The little boy is 8 years old this year, usually more mischievous and mischievous, and often damages school public property. This time to break the class card, the teacher asked for compensation, the mother decided to let him pick up the garbage to sell money, to compensate himself.

When asked by a reporter how he felt, the boy said: "I spent a whole morning (picking up garbage), my feet became sore, it was really difficult to make money, and I would never destroy public property again." ”

The child's mother said her son was too naughty and mischievous. She had scolded him many times before and helped him make up for it many times. However, the son belongs to the typical "bear child", and these methods are useless. So, this time I want him to come out, collect garbage to make money, and compensate him for the damage to the school property, so that he can experience the hardships of making money.

There is such a mother, this child, how lucky. The family is the first lesson for children, and it is also the starting point for children's growth.

Parents who truly love their children must create good qualities for their children.

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