Writer Rebbs said:
The child throws a tantrum at you because he wants you to go inside him and solve the problem, and we should be happy.
Having a tantrum baby in the family is not all used to being used to by parents, so some parents are really "wronged".
Baby tantrums is not willful, he is actually sending a distress signal to the people around him, in order to help him solve the current dilemma, so we adults can not see the child's tantrums on the brain to determine that the child is now "disobedient, unreasonable trouble", rational parents should first find out the real reason behind the baby's tantrum.
Children of different ages have different emphases, each baby's emotional point is different, we must try to be a careful parent, learn to distinguish some of the unique emotional characteristics of their children.
Provide you with some significant emotional signals for children of 4 different ages so that moms and dads can better understand their babies.
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Babies aged 1-2 lose their temper: self-awareness is slowly budding
At this stage, the baby will slowly understand what the "self" is, and he is still quickly learning how to use his autonomy, so they will say more and more: "mine", "I don't do", "don't", "no"...
Because the bud of self-awareness and his own abilities sometimes don't match, he will lose his temper once he does not achieve his goals.
If you can, the parent gives the child more autonomy within the allowable range, he will have a great sense of accomplishment.
A 2-3 year old baby loses his temper: breaks his sense of order
Shoes must be placed in the original place;
After drinking the water, the cup should be put back in place;
Toys should be placed in the designated place;
At this stage, the child is not only building his own inner order, but also very sensitive to the external order, and the baby in the sensitive period will feel safe and happy inside when he gains a sense of order.
If parents take their children's attachment to order as unreasonable and take forced suppression, this method will undoubtedly hurt their children.
3-4 year olds lose their temper: want more autonomy
The nearly 4-year-old child put the clothes backwards, the mother wanted to help him change over, the baby had to not let it, no matter how the mother explained that he just did not change.
When he wore it for a while, he also felt uncomfortable before he ran to the room and spent half a day to take off his clothes and put them on, this time he happened to wear it right and then he couldn't do it...
Children between the ages of 3 and 4 are doing more and more things on their own, and they crave more control, expressing themselves by throwing tantrums when their needs are not met.
Parents can try to give their children more autonomy, don't always do it, give them the opportunity to learn and grow, you will find that the little people can also burst out of great energy!
Children aged 4-6 lose their temper: some setbacks
At this time, the child's self-esteem is getting stronger and stronger, and he even wants to control everything, do everything he wants to do well, and lose his temper when it backfires and encounters setbacks.
Of course, it is not good for children to lose their tempers frequently, but parents should learn to identify the reasons behind the temper and then try to guide them.
Hundreds of years ago, Wang Yangming once said: Bad emotions are not enough wisdom.
We must be wise parents, in the child every time the tantrum parents make sufficient efforts, the child will learn to recognize their emotions and relieve themselves in your patience teaching again and again, in the long run, the child's emotional intelligence is absolutely not low.