Usually when we praise a person, we will say "both ability and political integrity", so no matter how talented a person is, it is also necessary to take virtue as the first.
"Zhou Yi" has clouds: "Gentlemen carry things with thick virtue" Be a person beforehand, and be a person before morality. Only people with good character can stand on a long-term basis.
If you are with people with bad moral character for a long time, you will inevitably be close to Zhu and close to ink and black, and be affected by him.
Usually only people with good character know how to tolerate all things and can stand the test of time. In life, we have to deal with all kinds of people, and who we are with is really a very important thing.
The friendship of gentlemen is as light as water, and the real friendship is a little innocent and a little shallow. As a human being, do not associate with people of poor character, let alone associate with evil people and walk with cunning and thin people.
Only in this way can we avoid being dug by others, and can life be safe and steady.
As the saying goes, Lu Yao knows the horsepower for a long time, and a person with bad character, even if he tries to hide it, but after a period of interaction, he will always show his feet in his words and deeds.
And usually people with poor character like to say these words when they open their mouths and shut their mouths, which is a warning.
Slanderous gossip
Zeng Guofan wrote in his family letter: "It is often said that what is right and wrong must be non-human. ”
The gossip in life that has nothing to do will produce many incidents in daily life. Especially when encountering people who love to manipulate right and wrong and spread false statements, they will muddy the good waters.
People who often like to say bad things that slander people and stir up dissension must be wrong in their hearts. He is extreme, stubborn, unable to tolerate some normal people and things, and is willing to see others embarrassed and troubled, and take pleasure in it.
Such people often have no mouth, and they speculate on the minds of others with their own opinions, and it is the purpose of their lives that they cannot see the good of others.
This kind of person is good at reversing black and white, they can make the false true, so the three become tigers, and when the lie is repeated countless times, it causes irreparable consequences.
But they forget that the real can't be fake, the fake can't be true, and some distorted facts will one day be restored to their original state.
And people who like to stir up dissension, watch the fire from the other side, and make something out of nothing, getting along with them will definitely be entangled in right and wrong, and their lies will ignite and set themselves on fire sooner or later.
Hurtful words
In the "Augmented Sage Text", it is said: "A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June." ”
Language is the most influential thing and the most lethal weapon. A person's physical wounds can be healed, and after a wounded heart, it may take a lifetime to heal.
There is a small story recorded in the Zizhi Tongjian, which tells that during a dinner party of the ministers, Kou Zhun's beard was stained with soup, and Ding Zhi immediately stood up after seeing it and wiped it clean for him.
Not wanting to Kou Zhun, he sarcastically said, "As a minister of state, are you wiping my beard for me?" Combined with the situation at that time, this sentence was full of irony, and Ding Zhi instantly blushed.
Since then, Ding Shu has also joined the camp opposed to Kou Zhun. Perhaps Kou Zhun felt that this sentence was not a big problem, but because of this irony, it led to Ding Zhi's defection.
In life, we often have bad moods, but the more so, the more we have to control our mouths. Some harsh words do not seem to leave a trace on the surface, but they leave an indelible shadow in people's hearts.
Language is a double-edged sword that protects and hurts. Mature people pay attention to proportions in their speech, and there is a bottom line in doing things, so it is also a way out for themselves.
False big empty lies
Zeng Guofan once said: "Anyone who deals with people, if there is no true intention, is not enough to touch people." ”
No matter how serious the person is, in the midst of constant lies, he will also wake up. If a person frequently deceives others and elevates himself with false and empty lies, he will eventually be spurned by the people around him.
There is a story recorded in the "Yu Ion" that a merchant in Jiyang fell from the boat while sailing, he was not accustomed to water, and quickly grabbed a hemp pole and shouted for help.
And promised that whoever could save me would give me a hundred taels of gold. A fisherman came and rescued the rich merchant. When he came ashore, he gave the fisherman ten gold and planned to leave.
The fisherman said that he was not convinced, but the merchant replied with a straight face: "You are a small fisherman, you can't earn these ten gold in your life, you should feel fortunate." ”
So the merchant returned to the ship. Unexpectedly, the boat overturned in place, he shouted for help, the fisherman did not want to save him again, and eventually the merchant sank into the river.
We will encounter such a person in our lives, always drawing a big pie without any basis, but when it is implemented, it makes him as uncomfortable as cutting meat. Even if he has this strength, he will continue to push back and not fulfill his promises.
Chattering grumbles
Zeng Guofan has a saying that says: "If you complain about the heavens for no reason, the heavens will not allow it; if you are special to others without reason, people will not obey." ”
Self-righteous people always complain about the people around them, and they always feel that they are right. Everything in their own lives is not smooth, Huai Cai does not meet, etc., are all others who have eyes and no pearls.
In fact, when people are alive, everyone will have bad times, depending on whether you can look at it with an optimistic attitude. And those who are always full of anger and full of negative energy will always be the losers of life.
They like to grumble, throw tantrums, complain, but they never look for a reason in themselves.
Their behavior never takes into account the feelings of others, their own lives are not good, and the people around them do not think well. They don't feel happy in their hearts, and they don't have enthusiasm for life, so they want to pull everyone around them into the water.
Gentlemen have no virtue to complain about self-cultivation, and villains have complained about others.
Good people don't complain, they know that if they want to live a better life, they can only make themselves better first.
And often with people who like to complain, they will also be influenced by him. Complaining doesn't change anything, it just breaks your mind. Knowing how to regulate your emotions and stop complaining is the beginning of a person becoming excellent.
The way of speaking is also the way of being human.
People live, there are always shortcomings, and character can make up for the deficiencies. And what you say, it represents what kind of person you are.
And in our lifetime, if we want to reduce the number of mistakes, we must stay away from people with poor character.
If you are unfortunate enough to have a deep friendship with them, it will bring you a life-changing impact. After noticing, be sure to withdraw in time.
People must know how to filter and purify their circles in their lives, and it is really important who they are with. To find those people with good character as friends, you can be affectionate and not be disappointed.
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