"Zizhi Tongjian", is the first chronicle of China compiled by Sima Guang of the Northern Song Dynasty, which occupies an extremely important position in the History of Chinese Official Cultivation, with its beautiful writing, vivid narrative, and high literary value, and is listed as the best writer of historians along with the "History of History"
First, both listening is bright, and partial belief is dark. —— Zizhi Tongjian. Tang Dynasty
Perception: It is better to be loyal to the ear than to act, and to listen to some different opinions in order to distinguish between right and wrong and make correct judgments; if you only listen to unilateral words, you will be biased and cannot distinguish between right and wrong.
Second, love is not the way, and it is appropriate to harm it. —— Zizhi Tongjian. Jinji
Feeling: Parents love and protect their children is not wrong, this is human nature, but also pay attention to ways and methods, if the way is not right, love and love become coddling, it is counterproductive, it is precisely harmful to children.
Third, not stupid, not deaf, not writer. —— Zizhi Tongjian. Tang Dynasty
Feelings: As the saying goes: "It is difficult for a clean official to break the family affairs", things in a family, it is difficult to say who is right and who is wrong, as long as everyone tolerates each other and tolerates each other, things will be over in the past. Therefore, if you want to be an elder, you must pretend to be deaf and dumb, turn a blind eye, and not be too serious about everything.
Fourth, if a wise man is rich, he will lose his will; if he is foolish and rich, he will benefit from his fault. —— Zizhi Tongjian. Han Dynasty
Feeling: If he is a virtuous person, after he has more wealth, he will wear down his will and become unenterprising. If he is a stupid person, after he has more wealth, he will be provided with more opportunities to make mistakes. Therefore, more money is not necessarily a good thing.
Fifth, do not be afraid of remembering, but fear of lateness. ——"Continuation of the Governance of Zizhi Tongjian. Song Ji
Perception: People are not sages, and they occasionally have evil thoughts in their hearts, which is also normal, and there is nothing to be afraid of. However, we must be enlightened in time, recognize evil thoughts, cut off evil thoughts, and do not let evil thoughts become evil words and evil deeds.
Sixth, the poor do not learn to be thrifty, and the humble do not learn to be respectful. —— Zizhi Tongjian. Wei Ji
Perception: Everything has advantages and disadvantages, such as poverty also has the benefits of poverty, the children of poor people do not have to learn to be frugal, in such a family environment, naturally understand frugality; the children of lowly people do not have to learn to be humble, because there is no status, naturally they will become humble.
7. Only the virtuous can serve others. —— Zizhi Tongjian. Wei Ji
Feeling: Even if you are rich, high in status, and powerful, you may not be convinced. Only a wise, virtuous, selfless person can truly convince people.
Eighth, the current affairs of the people care about Junjie. —— Zizhi Tongjian. Han Dynasty
Feeling: At this time, at another time, those who can recognize the trend of the times and conform to the trend of the times are the real heroes Haojie.
Ninth, it is difficult to say good deeds, and it is difficult to do good deeds. —— Zizhi Tongjian. Tang Dynasty
Perception: It is easy to say that it is easy to do good deeds, and everyone will say that because moving the mouth will not lose anything, and it will also fall into a good reputation. But it is difficult to do good deeds in a down-to-earth manner, because that would involve personal gain and loss.
10. From good to good, from evil to collapse. —— Zizhi Tongjian. Wei Ji
Perception: It is not enough to learn well for a thousand days, and it is more than a day to learn badly. It's harder to get people to learn from good people than to climb a mountain; but to learn from bad people is easy, as quickly as a landslide.