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As the saying goes: "Send a thousand miles to the king, and you must say goodbye in the end." ”
No matter how big a noble person you meet, he can only cross you for a ride, and the rest of the road is still to be walked by yourself.
There is a saying that goes: "A divine doctor cannot save a person who wants to die." ”
So, when you're in your fifties and you're still not getting anything done, you first have to learn to rely on yourself, instead of going around looking for connections and always whispering for help.
It is reasonable to say that a person has hurriedly walked through fifty years, half of his life is over, he should have certain achievements, and the second half of his life can sit back and relax. But not all of them are so lucky. People with bad luck abound.
You are just one of a large group of poor people, don't panic, complain, learn some ways of self-transit, you may not be a big tool late, but you can lay a solid foundation for the second half of your life.
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First, get the simple things up and you're halfway there.
In the I Ching, there is such a gua xiang: walking with caution.
Shoes mean "shoes, footsteps". If a person can walk lightly, even if he steps on the tiger's tail, there will be no disaster.
The ancients said, "Go where you go." "It means telling us that we should start from the simplest things and stick to them, which is a very auspicious thing." The original meaning of "plain shoes" is simple shoes.
People are mixed in society, really like walking on thin ice, and if they are not careful, they will produce various contradictions and eventually hurt themselves. So people in their fifties who haven't succeeded, it's not that they don't work hard, it's that they've tried, but they've failed.
There is a principle of action, the core of which is "do it, you are half successful".
Carefully comb through your life experience, do what you think is the easiest, and your life will change.
One of my cousins, Lao Zhang, worked at a local company when he was young, with an easy job and a mediocre salary. He always wanted to jump ship, but he never jumped out, and slowly turned into a frog in warm water.
When Lao Zhang was forty-eight years old, the company went out of business and he had to start over. Only to find out that there is no skill, nor is there any network outside the system.
Fortunately, Lao Zhang usually likes to paint, so he combined painting with the technique of boiling sugar and set up a candy stall in front of the school. He made sugar into beautiful butterflies and inspirational words, and his life gradually improved.
Look at the peers who work with Lao Zhang, because they have to look for jobs everywhere, they are in trouble.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, as long as it is profitable, you will do it, even if the income is small, you can stabilize your position and make yourself not too flustered.
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Second, being able to be a person is more important than being able to do things, and good character is also wealth.
There is a saying in "The Ferryman": "Time goes forward all the time, there is no end, only the intersection." Ferryman, it is you who crosses, it is me who stays, and the people who come ashore run to each other to end every relationship that has to be completed. ”
Many people think that self-transit is to rely on yourself, do not expect anyone.
The real situation, not so. Self-transit also includes "mutual help, mutual benefit" Someone to spend a while with you, to walk a little bit, this is "networking".
There is such a story: in 1999, the young song Yang went to the United Kingdom to study with a dream.
Because the family conditions were not very good, he had to save money and squeeze in a small house with other classmates.
One day, Song Yang met an old man Hans. Hans very warmly invited him to be a guest, and also let the room out and gave it to Song Yang for free.
Hans lived alone at an early age, his mother died early, and he had no relatives or friends.
In 2007, Song Yangxue achieved success. At the same time, Hans also came to China and became Song Yang's "grandfather".
Because Hans is very kind, he is rewarded with kindness and has a dependence on him.
Although not everyone's luck is so good, good luck must be inseparable from their own kindness.
Fifty years old, with no job and no savings, seems really bad. But you still have "love", you can also touch others, you can help others as much as you can. If you persist in doing so, you will get the love of your children, the love of society, the work, and the bread.
Stop complaining, start smiling, and then put your heart and soul into your work, and you will find that the world is really warm. That's where you get forward.
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Third, opportunities are always left to those who are prepared, accumulating thick and thin.
The I Ching reads: "The path is tandem, and the ghost is zhenji." ”
No matter how far a person goes, he must look at the path he came from, repent, accumulate, and then actively adjust and change.
What did you do in the first fifty years? It should not be a confused account, but from the bits and pieces of life, find what you can use.
If you really don't find yourself with any experience to use, then you start now and try to study.
The literary scholar Feng Menglong wrote in the book about a man named Xian Yutong, a Guangxi native who had been reading until he was fifty years old, but he did not take the exam and missed many opportunities in a row.
At the age of fifty-seven, he passed the scientific examination, entered the official field, and then rose all the way to become the prefect.
Reading books does not make a person succeed immediately, but it can make a person have the potential to succeed and explode at the moment of sufficient strength.
Aristotle said, "The ultimate value of life lies in the ability to awaken and think, not just to survive." ”
As long as you are not lazy and support yourself, it will certainly not be a problem. But if you have to prepare the conditions for the elderly, then you must make good use of wisdom, and it is better to do it than to do it skillfully.
According to your own situation, learning a skill, reading some aspects of the book, although life starts a little later, but it is still too late.
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Mr. Hu Shi wrote in "My Mother": "I gradually understood that the most disgusting thing in the world is like an angry face; the most vulgar thing in the world is like putting an angry face to others." It's worse than scolding. ”
After fifty years, you still have nothing to do, don't complain at all, don't think you're cornered. Instead of getting angry, it is better to calmly analyze life and reflect on yourself.
Be a person, don't worry, the good drama is behind.
Take action, small things are also big things.
Helping others, everyone can get help.
Improve yourself and become famous in one fell swoop.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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