The ancient Greek philosopher Socrates once said something classic: "God has given us two ears and only one mouth, apparently in the hope that we will hear more and talk less." ”
People get too close to each other, and sometimes it is a disaster. There will always be friction between friends who get too close to each other, and colleagues who get too close to each other expose their weaknesses.
Even between husband and wife, if two people "meet naked", then all imperfections are exposed, and all freshness is gone.
So, wise women don't lose their balance in their contact with others. It is a rare confusion, it is a very reasonable saying, if you want to get its true meaning, you must practice in life.
Women with high emotional intelligence often learn to "ignore and not ask" in these few things.
Smart woman, but ask about the lover's past
When the two sexes get along, whoever is more active loses. Feelings that are too easy to get, the other party will not cherish as much as you expect.
Women are to have a certain sense of mystery, not to be seen through by others, and not to be lowered to dust.
Everyone has their own privacy, and if he's willing to talk to you, he'll tell you. If he doesn't want to go public, you also want her to have the right to keep her past.
Men are sometimes very affectionate, and women repeatedly ask each other about each other's past, but they just add to their own blockage. Knowing how your man once cared for and cared for another woman is really valuable to you?
Smart women know not to ask about men's past, when in love, we like to stick together, but when we get married, men and women's ideas will be different.
Feelings are always very delicate and sensitive, married women should learn not to care too much about their love, no matter how much they love someone, they must remain calm in everything.
Let's not talk about indifference in marriage, not random banishment. It's about holding something more practical in your hands in your marriage, like the economy, like a man's heart.
Smart women can straddle the love line, attack and retreat, can be settled in marriage, can also take a step back and a different two wide.
Smart women, but ask themselves right and wrong
Happiness is to look forward, do a good job in the present, in order to enjoy today's sunshine and warmth. Everything in the past, whether it is happiness or pain, has become a thing of the past.
Those independent and free women often have endured hardships, and no matter how others understand them, these will become a landscape of their own memory.
Make friends, water flowers and roots, and smart women know how to use their time and wisdom where they should be used.
Whoever does not speak behind his back, no one behind him. As long as we don't pay attention and don't spend time and energy on suspicion, no matter what you think in the minds of others, you can live your daily life comfortably.
I have to inquire about other people's evaluation of myself, and many times I find burdens for myself.
The other party's evaluation is high, you can't get any practical benefits, the other party's evaluation is low, and you still have to have your own heart. I wanted to explain it, but I didn't know it.
Life is like that, and there's no way we can make everyone like themselves. Years make people, give up those doubts that will not affect their lives, so that they will not live in a mess.
Don't be stubborn and confused, even if the road in front of you has seen the end, maybe turn a corner, you will see another world.
Not all right and wrong in this world have a right and wrong, and they can be sorted out. Instead of being speechless and unable to explain, it is better to be at ease and go your own way.
Don't ask when you are misunderstood, don't explain to people who don't understand you, don't argue when you are wronged, and clean yourself up.
Smart women, but ask about other people's private affairs
Language is often easy to get into trouble. People are precious, see through not to say broken.
Some people say that three women in a play, many women get together, often can't help but talk about some, Zhang parents Li family short things.
But what does other people's affairs have to do with oneself? Not talking about it casually and interjecting is the cultivation that an adult woman should have.
If you have time to talk about this, it is better to make more time to read books, to spend time with your family, and to care about your own life. Even if you go to see the scenery and taste the food, it is more decent and happy than peeking into the lives of others behind your back.
Of course, sometimes we don't want to hear these secrets, but someone sends them to your ears. So what we should do is not spread it, ignore it.
Only when a person has a scale in doing things, has a measure to speak, and can clearly distinguish what to say and when to shut up, can he be less coerced by right and wrong.
No matter how bad or good other people's lives are, they have nothing to do with themselves. It is most important for people to live, to live their own lives, and to spend their minds on their own families.
Smart women have their own little world, know how to maintain a sense of proportion and distance from others. However, asking about other people's private affairs is not only respect for others, but also to maintain their own face.
"Don't listen, don't ask" hides the middle way.
In the book "Zhongyong", the "middle" and "harmony" are expressed together: the undeveloped joys and sorrows are said to be in the middle; the hair is all in the middle, which is called the sum.
Doing the right thing at the right time, expressing the right feelings, not being rude, not losing attitude, not being extreme, is also the true meaning of "not listening and not asking".
Life is actually subtraction, to eliminate those useless things, to go light. There is no refusal of fate, and there is no luxury of fate.
The Buddha said, "Not seeing, not listening, not saying, not thinking, that is, not confused." ”
Simple things, think deeply is complicated, complex things, look down on it is simple. There are some things you really don't have to pay attention to, laugh and laugh, and these things will naturally drift away with the wind.
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[Wen | Wei Wei'an: the pen has temperature, for the voice of emotion, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]