Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has caused many people headaches, some mother-in-law is very good, treating daughter-in-law like a daughter-in-law, some mother-in-law taking daughter-in-law as a family, when there is a need, it is a family, and it is not necessary to treat each other coldly.
This makes many girls unable to accept, because most girls think of their mother-in-law as a mother before they get married, and the family loves each other.
However, after going there, I found that it was only that you took her as a mother, she did not treat you as a daughter, and the daughter-in-law entered the man's family, and it was inevitable to integrate, and the process would be very uncomfortable.
Some daughters-in-law are difficult to accept, feeling that they have married the past and left the original family, but the in-laws do not regard themselves as a family, in fact, for two people like the mother-in-law who have no emotional basis, it is better not to be a family.
Distance produces beauty
Some people feel uncomfortable, the mother-in-law does not regard herself as a family, in fact, have you ever thought that improper family is not a good thing for you.
You can keep your distance at ease, if the mother-in-law is very kind to you and very close, but you are not used to it in many ways, what then what?
Be so good to you, say it is definitely not OK, people around you will definitely feel that you are arrogant, do not say that you are uncomfortable, that can only be held in your heart.
And the mother-in-law is good to you, then you usually have to worry about the big and small things of the in-laws' family, and you can ignore the affairs of the brothers and sisters of the in-laws.
Usually, there is no need to deliberately pull into a relationship with them, the mother is long and the mother is short, just need to celebrate the New Year's Festival, and fulfill the responsibility at the time of the time.
In fact, it can save you a lot of worries and chores.
As for what do you think is uncomfortable not to treat you as a family, what is actually uncomfortable? Usually you go to work, nothing more than go back at night, if you feel that they are different from your husband, it is normal, although your mother is better to your husband, but it is only because it is far away from them, they hope to be good to the son-in-law, so the son-in-law will be better to the daughter-in-law.
Everyone's way of doing things is different, if there is really something, your parents must still be partial to you, but you usually spend too much time with your mother-in-law.
Want something delicious, buy it for yourself, or your husband buys it for you, and don't always want others to be good to you, if you are good to them every day, they are not good for you, then you can also take back your love later.
What matters is not whether the mother-in-law treats you as a family, but the husband.
If your husband is on your side in everything, it is actually not so important whether your mother-in-law is good for you, and if your husband helps you, your mother-in-law will not treat you as a family member.
If your husband doesn't take you as a family member, unless you are a smart mother-in-law, it's basically the same.
If you want to live comfortably after marriage, you still have to straighten out the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Many people take mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as a goal, in fact, the beginning is wrong, if both sides are good, it may be easy to achieve the goal, but most of them are difficult.
It is good to treat each other with respect and respect, and we must regard them as our own, but in fact, to some extent, we are also embarrassed by each other.
The relationship between two people is gradually established, in this process, feel compatible, all good, then try to get closer, if there are many different places, let each other go, everyone meets and makes love, usually do not need to ask too high.
Really treating a person who has not been with each other, and even looks at someone who has many shortcomings, as his own, as a mother, there must be a party who tolerates a lot.
It is very important for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to be aware of each other's relationship in the family.
Let go of each other and go with the flow
People and people need a sense of boundaries, even you and your partner must have their own space to live well, it is impossible to stick together 24 hours a day, especially with your mother-in-law.
Although you are close to your mother, but you also quarrel from time to time, just do not care, if you really want to be like a family, mother and daughter, I am afraid that there are a lot of trivial things every day.
For example, living habits, daily habits with children are different, when a family may fall, really this can you accept it?
The so-called family, not only a good other, but also to bear the bad side of the other party, no emotional basis of the two people, in the accumulation of small things, in fact, it is difficult to do, close as a family.
In the end, the relationship is even worse, so instead of asking the other party to treat you as a family, it is better to be polite and let each other get along naturally and easily.
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