Ending song: Wang Yilang - Like a Fish
People often ask, how long is love talking, what is the degree of feelings, and two people are suitable for marriage?
To be honest, there is no standard answer to this question.
Because each couple loves each other in a different way.
Some people have been in love for four or five years and are still patting drag, and some people have been together for a year or two and have obtained a license and held a wedding.
The length of time of understanding is not a measure of the depth of feelings.
But what is certain is that every couple who goes from love to marriage, they have gone through various tests together, and they have made decisions after careful consideration.
No matter how long you are in love, as long as you can do the following three points, getting married is actually not a very difficult thing.
The three views are the same, and getting along is not tired
Like a guy, you might start out just because he's good looking, or on the day they met, he just happened to wear a white shirt you liked.
The facial features can indeed make people feel good, thus opening a relationship.
But deciding how long you can get along together is a matter of two people and three views.
As this saying goes:
"The five senses decide whether they can be together, and the three views decide whether they can go on."
The so-called three views refer to your views and attitudes towards things, your understanding and feelings about life, and whether you can reach a consensus on the planning and future of this relationship.
Of course, consistency does not mean that it is exactly the same, exactly the same.
For example, you like to be lively and like to eat and drink with your friends. But he likes to be quiet and wants to be at home alone chasing dramas and playing games.
This is not a disagreement between the three views, but the living habits are different.
He can accept your fuss, and you can understand his mavericks.
It is an understanding of inclusion and complementarity.
But if he doesn't want to go out and doesn't let you go out, he thinks you're dressed up every day, and he doesn't let you have too much contact with your friends, thinking that you are not serious.
This is the disagreement of the three views.
Only with people who agree with the three views can we not get tired of getting along.
What you say, he can understand and understand.
Even if you disagree sometimes, you can seek common ground while reserving differences, appreciate and tolerate your ideas, and not argue.
The consistency of the three views is the premise of feelings that have not been tired for a long time.
Evenly matched, pay each other
"Jane Eyre" said:
"Love is a game, and we must always be inseparable from each other and evenly matched in order to rely on each other for a long time." Because an opponent who is too strong is exhausting, and an opponent who is too weak is tired. ”
Love is like a balance, and only when both parties have the same amount of time, energy, companionship and sincerity can the balance always remain balanced.
Once one party gives too much more than the other, and the other side turns a blind eye, or even takes it for granted, the balance becomes weightless and unbalanced.
The love that can truly lead each other to grow together, the love that evolves with the years, is always honest with each other, paying and growing with each other.
Even intimate lovers don't give what they deserve.
Only when both parties are aware of this problem and cherish the other's efforts can they maintain their feelings for a long time.
It's not about who gives a little more, it's about whether you see what I'm giving, and whether you're giving.
After all, all kindness and love are mutual.
Align with each other's plans for the future
The biggest regret in love is not love.
It's that you want to have a future with him single-mindedly, but he doesn't have you in his plans for the future.
You've already thought about the happy scene of marrying him in the future, holding his hand to toast the guest's wine, but he left you halfway and left you alone in the middle of the road.
There is a saying in the movie "If Yun Knows":
"Those who are left halfway, bitter."
Good love should be two people in step with each other, moving in the same direction and goal together, hand in hand.
You want to marry him and start a family. He also wants to spend the rest of his life with you for three meals and four seasons.
Her friend Tachibana has been with her boyfriend for more than two years, and her plan is to get married before she turns thirty, fearing that the longer it drags on, the greater the risk of having children later.
But the boyfriend feels that his career is still on the rise, and it is too early to marry at thirty. Thirty-five years ago, he hadn't even considered it.
In her vision of the future, he is all in his figure.
But in his plans for the future, she wasn't his priority.
After several arguments, the two decided to break up peacefully.
From the process of falling in love to getting married, there will be many obstacles and difficulties.
What we need is someone who can walk side by side with ourselves and overcome these challenges in the same boat.
The road to love is never smooth, but love can meet all difficulties.
How long it takes to be in love to get married, there is no fixed pattern and answer.
As long as the two people who like each other are mature and gentle enough, as long as the two hearts that like each other are closely connected and guard each other.
Whether it is early or late to get married is actually not a matter.
Because marriage is not the end of love, but the beginning of love.
Even if they are married, they are just another form of continuing to love each other.
If you want to get married, you may wish to think about whether you have the ability and determination to do the above.
Finally, I hope that Heaven will not embarrass any pair of people who love each other, and what they are worried about will never happen.
Click "Watching", I wish all lovers, can use marriage as a bridge, love as a support, to reach the other side of happiness.