Text/Coriander
After two men and women have been together for a while, if they feel that they are suitable for each other, they will determine the relationship.
In the past, there was a custom of blind dates, and most parents would meet first to see if the other's children were good.
Now marriage and love are free, generally after free love, and then go to see the parents of both sides. As parents, most of them will not interfere with their children's marriages, thinking that children like it.
However, there will also be parents who have a say and a veto in their children's affairs. These parents are relatively authoritative and have an absolute say in the family. Especially as a mother, I prefer to take a scrutiny attitude towards my future daughter-in-law or son-in-law.
Not long ago, there was a girl who was tragically divorced by her future in-laws. It was the man's mother who firmly disagreed with this family affair. Someone asked the mother: Why did she not agree to the child's marriage? Why?
The mother spoke of her impression of the girl and said that she would not agree to their marriage no matter what, unless the child disobeyed. But what he did not expect was that the man finally agreed to withdraw from the marriage, saying that in fact, his impression of his girlfriend's first visit to the house was not good.
So, why did the girl come to the door for the first time and destroy the original beautiful marriage? Let's look at the three points summarized by the man's mother.
★ Speak
It is said that when the girl first came to the door, she was very rude in her speech. Maybe the girl is used to being rich at home, or the cultivation is not good, anyway, as soon as she enters the door, she sees the man's home decoration in general, and the facial expression in an instant is not very good-looking, and the speech is also very direct and hurtful.
At that time, there was still the boy's grandmother in the family, and in front of everyone, the girl asked her boyfriend: "We will not have to raise your grandmother in the future, right?" ”
The boy's mother was stunned after hearing this, and then said: "You can rest assured, Grandma has us to raise, and you don't have to bear it." ”
The girl said, "It sounds good now, don't wait for us to get married and regret it." ”
The boy's mother did not speak again, but her face was obviously not good-looking.
From here, the girl's way of speaking is indeed unpleasant, and it can also be seen that this is a not very kind girl. Because, before you have passed the door, you are so disgusted with other people's families, after you are really married, how can you be filial to the elderly?
Therefore, she disgusted the boy's mother, which was also a normal reaction.
★ Sitting posture
Also, the girl entered the man's house and sat directly on the sofa of the main seat. This is also very taboo. Don't say that you are not the daughter-in-law of others, even if you are, in front of the elders, there is no reason for you to sit on the throne.
Not only sitting in the main seat, it is said that the sitting posture is also particularly casual. The first time we meet, the average person's idea is that they want to leave a good impression on their elders. But this girl did not know whether she was not satisfied with the man's family, or whether she was free to get used to it, without the slightest restraint of etiquette.
Above the main seat, she took off her shoes and sat cross-legged, ignoring her boyfriend's hints. Later, the boyfriend quietly reminded her that she was not happy, saying: "I like how comfortable and how to sit, can't I?" If you still have restraints in your house, why should I come? ”
After that, she ignored her boyfriend's whispered advice and insisted on her sitting position.
At this time, the boy's mother spoke up: "It doesn't matter, you can sit as much as you like, don't be constrained." ”
When the girl listened, she was even more energetic, and glanced at her boyfriend: "Your mother doesn't care about me, are you sure you want to take care of me?" ”
The boy glanced at his mother and did not speak again.
★ Eat
At noon, the girl stayed at the man's house for lunch. The meal was made by the boy's mother, and it was ready to greet the girl to eat.
The girl was also very happy to see the meat and dishes she liked to eat. When you sit down to eat, you just eat the meat and dishes you like, and you don't care about the eyes of others.
Generally speaking, people who come to the door as guests will consciously eat only the dishes in front of themselves, and will not be rude to clip in front of others. But this girl is not, as long as it is her favorite dish, she quickly stretched out her chopsticks, even the meat plate in front of her grandmother.
It is said that the boy's father never spoke, but halfway through the meal, he left the table without a word.
The girl was still eating, and while eating, she asked her boyfriend: "Why didn't your father eat?" ”
The boy's mother smiled and said lightly, "It's okay, he's full, you can eat more if you like." ”
The girl really ate it herself.
After the meal they left. As soon as the girl was sent home, the boy was called back by his mother's phone. Then, there was the resignation.
However, after many people understand the experience of the matter, they all say that this marriage should be retired, and such a woman cannot be married.
Dear friend, do you think it is reasonable for the girl to be divorced? Welcome to leave a comment.