Hello everyone, I'm a big brother! Recently, a parent friend left a message to the big brother, saying that because of the child's education problems, he often quarreled with his grandparents and husbands, and he regretted it after the quarrel, but many things really did not know how to deal with it, and they had their own ideas.
Indeed, the eldest brother also deeply understands that on the issue of education, there will always be disagreements among family members. Heated quarrels are also inevitable. That big brother today on a few particularly obvious problems, and parents and friends to talk about how to deal with the "tricky" problem.
Under the double reduction, should we advocate happy education?
With the continuous landing of the national double reduction policy, happy education has also been valued again, some parents feel that children at different stages as long as they master the ability of this age group, there is no need to promote seedlings, as long as the child is healthy and happy, when they grow up and mature, they will naturally master. There are still many parents who believe that the effort is still to work hard, reduce the burden, and continue to put pressure on their children through other forms, and cannot be said to give up.
Here, the big brother wants to say that learning is a boring and painful thing, if you blindly emphasize happiness, it is a departure from the original intention of learning, if you fail to let the child develop good learning habits, it is actually a laissez-faire for the child, which is an irresponsible performance of parents.
To cultivate children's independence, or to solve problems quickly and with the help of parents everywhere
This problem will be in almost every family, in order to let the child get up quickly, parents dress, in order to eat quickly, parents will come to feed, in order to quickly complete homework, parents get started to guide. However, some parents think that this is not good, and it is necessary to cultivate the child's ability to be independent, and the more this is the case, the stronger the child's dependence and the more grinding.
In this case, the family members' home should communicate more, can not use quarrels to solve the problem, win the momentum and lose the feelings, and also cause adverse effects in front of the children.
Big Brother wants to say that the different education methods of family members are actually for the good of the children, and it is more to find a balance. In fact, it is very important for the cultivation of children's habits, if you simply seek speed and ignore the cultivation of habits, it will not be worth the loss.
Learn more about educational concepts and knowledge
In fact, there are many solutions to how to educate children, depending on whether family members are willing to learn from scratch, such as reading books, taking professional courses, participating in parenting training, etc., so that the educational concept between family members will gradually converge, when the educational direction of family members' homes is consistent, it will become simpler when educating children, and children will not be overwhelmed by multi-headed command.
Of course, learning and borrowing is not a rigid set, each child is different, the way of education is certainly very different, and what is useful to others is not necessarily useful to your children.
It is normal for family members to have differences in educating their children, but rational parents will turn contradictions into opportunities to promote growth and grow up with their children.
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