Educating your children well is your most important cause

Nowadays, many parents are busy with work and career, throwing their children into school, not caring about anything... The good or bad of children is a problem of teachers. This concept is clearly wrong! No matter how good the school is, no matter how good the teacher, in the child's heart, the position of the parent can never be replaced. Educating your children is not only the teacher's business, but also the most important cause in your life!

1. The teacher cannot guarantee your child's good conduct. Whether a person's grades are good or bad, character is the key! Morality can compensate for the defects of ability, and ability can hardly cover up the defects of morality. A child's character is largely related to his tutoring. The teacher is only a preacher and a solver, but the parent is the influencer of the child's life. Parents' words and deeds are always greater than the teacher's 45-minute classroom education.

2, the teacher can not give your child good habits. Children who grow up at mahjong tables and in front of televisions are definitely very different from children raised by parents who love to read. Why many parents watch TV while urging their children to read seriously, they often receive a strong rebellious psychology. How can they force children to do things they can't do on their own? Most of the children raised by parents who are proactive and have good living habits are small adults who love learning and can reasonably arrange their time, and parents will save a lot of heart in education.

3, the teacher can not give your child the interest in reading. Many parents complain that their children do not love to learn and read, but they do not ask themselves whether they love to read? Children's interest in reading is cultivated from an early age, and it is time to start reading at the age of two or three, rather than waiting for school to let the teacher cultivate the habit of reading for your children, you have more books at home, and more children read. Parents play a good role model, and children will follow suit. The gap in reading from an early age will be manifested in the later level of knowledge, cognitive ability and writing level.

4, the teacher can not help you cultivate the child's will. Teachers give more to children is textbook knowledge, good living habits, reasoning, strong will, these are to rely on parents to cultivate. These can only be cultivated by parents from an early age in their daily lives. If you ignore it, your child may have good grades, but the will is weak and cannot withstand any setbacks, so emotional intelligence education is also very important.

5, the teacher can not give your child a long-term sense of happiness. A person's original ecological family has a great impact on his life, and children who are loving, harmonious and growing up in a loving environment are destined to be much more psychologically sunny than children who grow up in families with unsound families or noisy all day. A good teacher may be able to influence children for three or five years, but the influence of parents is a lifetime! Parents are always the child's first teacher and the child's eternal role model, please be a competent parent!

The following points, if you rely on the teacher alone, it is really a delay for the child:

1. Writing and pen holding posture. If you go through the whole process of your child's growth, you will realize that writing beautiful words is a very valuable skill. There are so many students in a class, the teacher does not have the energy to correct the students' pen holding posture one by one, and does not have the energy to motivate each child to practice words.

2. Clash of rebellion. When your child reaches the fourth or fifth grade, he will dare to talk back to you, which may be the habit of grandparents, or it may be that you are not used to doing the rules. Do not give in to your child on issues of principle. Starting at the age of five or six, if you are reluctant to say "no" to your child, when you are a teenager, you dare not say "no" to your child. Don't complain that your child is disobedient, because you buried hidden dangers when your child was a few years old. Students are often afraid of the teacher, but the child is not afraid of you because you have not made rules for children to respect and fear.

3. Treat "happiness education" correctly. Anyone who blindly pays attention to happy education in childhood without principle, when he grows up, his children will become more and more disobedient, incompatible with the class and the collective, and there will be a lot of pain in the growth process; all children who have been rules and disciplined since childhood will have self-confidence and have a lot of happiness in the future. Happy education is not something you can do as a parent, the child has accepted your happy thoughts from an early age, but in the big environment, the child has no like-minded peers, no teacher's encouragement and praise, so that he is actually not happy, but will become lonely and rebellious.

4. About Internet addiction. Children have Internet addiction, the responsibility lies in the parents, parents lack of vigilance about the child's behavior, once the child slides into the abyss, what is brought to the parents is endless grievances. Children from a young age to control the time to play with the computer, when the child cries and shouts to play with the computer, once you accommodate him, it is equivalent to feeding the child a mouthful of poison.

5. Face reality and meet the test. Any parent who complains about the pressure of their children's homework will also feel that they are tired of studying and learning. Tell children that test-taking education can change their fate, what is this pain in the wind and rain, so that the children raised will be stronger. Students all over the world, if they want to study well, they all need to study hard. Learning is far easier than making a living, and trust your child to adapt.

6. Management of child details. Some children are sloppy and sloppy with their homework, and some children always think of catching up on homework at the last moment. These bad habits are inadvertently "cultivated" by parents. Parents should pay attention to observing their children's concentration, motor coordination and interpersonal skills from the time of childhood. Helping children find the root cause of learning difficulties is the real measure that can help children.

7. Abide by traffic rules and cultivate safety awareness. No matter how many times the teacher has instructed them, there are always students who violate traffic rules on the way out of school. The education of children's safety rules must start from the doll. Parents do not run red lights, do not hold a fluke mentality, encounter children running around, must be strictly reprimanded. Especially parents who ride electric vehicles, not running red lights, is to set an example for their children.

8. Give children a harmonious environment for growth. Children's boredom, truancy, and jumping off buildings seem to be children's business, but in essence, parents have deviated from the cultivation of their children from an early age. The harmony of the family is more important than any education; the learning atmosphere of the family is worthy of several excellent teachers. Don't complain in front of the child, don't argue in front of the child, don't slander others in front of the child, don't talk to the elderly in front of the child, so that you can cultivate a physically and mentally healthy child.