Now society advocates quality education, opposes corporal punishment, respects children's choices and freedoms, and gives children sufficient space and time. We also often see some articles that encourage you to "not hit the child", to "fully release the nature of the child" and "to give the child freedom and happiness"? Or "how many of those who are truly successful are college graduates"...
"The heavens of the wood, and even its nature." Education should respect the nature of children and let children develop freely. But in the practice of family education, respecting the child to give the child "freedom" has a "degree", if you have drunk the chicken soup below you may have been pitted.
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Bowl One: Happy Education
In recent years, Primary Education in China has begun to be brainwashed by Happy Education. Elementary school is so relaxed, and everyone is happy to leave school at 4:30. Reduce the weight of the school bag, do less homework, and give children more room to learn freely. Children should always praise and try not to criticize. Don't put pressure on your child to learn in happiness, and such an education looks really ideal.
Education is a challenge that requires a lot of hard work. The result of this "happy education" is that after six years of play, there is no courtesy, knowledge, ability and vision. One by one, their hearts are higher than the sky, and they feel that they are different, that they cannot be managed, that they cannot suffer, and that they cannot hear scolding.
I want to ask those parents who are reduced by their children, how many zeros do you have behind your family's deposits, so that you have the confidence to let your children play headlessly and brainlessly at the stage of basic education?
Who was the first to serve "happy education" chicken soup to children? I really should have caught a good beating. Look at Japanese education, look at the College Entrance Examination in South Korea, and then look at the European and American elites who study university courses in advance, saying that foreign education is easy, and it is definitely a random word that has not been investigated.
There are still many people advocating that the teaching materials reduce the difficulty, if the children can't even accept this difficulty, then what else can they do in the future? After school at half past four is also nonsense, parents who will educate will take their children home for counseling, but what about parents who will not tutor? Let the child go home and watch TV? Which is the burden reduction? Differentiation is to widen the gap in education!
Ordinary children go to school at four o'clock, and the children of the elite class have to pay extra energy to learn musical instruments and foreign languages, and use this as a stepping stone to a first-class university.
China's education system only sees people happy, but the mechanism behind it has not been considered. Originally, China's basic education was still quite solid, but this time, it was self-abolishing martial arts.
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Second Bowl: Unleash Nature
Once, when I was eating in a restaurant with friends, the children at the next table did not stop for a second, running around, ruining the quiet and beautiful atmosphere. I really can't look past it, and whispered to the mother: "Is it okay to let the child make a little noise?" Everyone thought it was noisy. ”
The child's mother said innocently, "Isn't the child's nature lively?" There's no way around it. ”
Uh, well, I silently stepped back with the expression of "What you said makes sense, I was speechless."
In recent years, it is common for people to regard the uncultured behavior of children screaming, rudeness, grabbing things, and defecating on the ground as the nature of children. More narcissistic parents will also regard this as the true nature of their children.
But don't forget, in addition to releasing the child's nature, parents should teach their children to abide by the basic bottom line in public. Since you are a member of this society, you must abide by social norms. Blind indulgence does not do any good for children, and freedom is always accompanied by rules.
Parenting is not only to abide by the public bottom line, but also to speak at a high level, but also from the heart of warmth, frankness, for the sake of others, is to give people the greatest goodwill to themselves.
Children have the right to be active, and those around them have the right to enjoy a quiet, comfortable and undisturbed environment. A bear child who puts his nature above the rules of society, his parents should first wake up. Only to release the child's nature, that is called willfulness, not to add trouble to the surrounding social people, is called the responsibility of parenthood.
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Bowl Three: Success has nothing to do with academic qualifications
Parents often drink such a bowl of chicken soup, college students are working for junior high school classmates, and primary school graduates are all bosses for doctors. Therefore, it is useless to have a high degree of education, and it is not necessary to work for people in the future. It doesn't matter if you can't go to college, maybe you will always become a wizard in the management world in the future.
Let's do the arithmetic problem, how many people are managing college students after junior high school? Count tens of thousands. How many people have graduated from junior high school? Hundreds of millions. So is the former rare? The level of education is proportional to success, and it is a small probability event to achieve fame without education.
And the people who can work hard in the world after graduating from junior high school must be the dragon and phoenix among the people, who have higher abilities and vision than ordinary people, and the vast majority of children have average qualifications. Telling children with such a small probability event that "it doesn't matter if you don't go to college" is not delaying your child's future?
I have a classmate who was seduced by this, and after graduating from high school, he only studied for two years before applying for a job, and he ran into walls everywhere. Most companies tell him that the bottom line in hiring is undergraduate. At that time, he understood that academic qualifications may not determine the height of the future, but they can definitely greatly improve the starting point of struggle.
I like to use such a rare event as My children are not highly educated, but they will be able to manage college students in the future from my comforting parents, and please savor such a passage: People who work the avenue often envy the rapid ascent of other people, complaining that they are too tired and slow, but never thinking about how many thorns and dangers are on the path, and how many people have fallen to pieces there. ”
For the vast majority of ordinary children, having a degree is like getting a talisman to enter society. If you don't go to college, you may not be able to become a boss, but it is certainly difficult to work for others.
The above are the three bowls of chicken soup that Chinese parents drink most often: quality education is happy, children's nature is to be obedient and free to play, and the future must be bright.
The objective fact is that children must say "no" to him from an early age, the public bottom line must be observed, the hardship of intellectual challenges is necessary, most children are qualified, and success beyond ordinary people is unattainable.
These are the above facts, and we must always take them out to remind ourselves. Chicken soup is good, don't be greedy. Face the reality, from time to time pour cold water, in order to be more sober. Only by paying attention to good proportions and grasping the scale can the parents' intentional guidance and the child's independent development achieve harmonious unity.
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