For family education, there is a simple and rude sentence circulating on the Internet: "The big treasure is raised according to the book, and the second treasure is raised by the pig." It can be said that this is the "experience" of parents for the parenting of their children after the liberalization of the two-child policy.
Although this sentence is a bit rough and crude, it is not without reason. Every child has its own personality and characteristics, as a parent, you can not follow the book to transform the child, but should respect the child's nature, let the child grow up healthy and happy.
Therefore, in family education, parents should respect the child's natural growth law, understand the child's behavior and actions, and appropriately guide and develop it.
However, at present, there are also cases, parents in the critical period of children's oral language learning, forcing children to recognize words, calculate, draw, practice, etc., thinking that this is quality education. As everyone knows, the results of this kind of pedagogy that violates the nature of man's natural growth will only be futile. The real quality education is to cultivate children's comprehensive ability to cope with society, is to individual autonomy, personality independence and spiritual freedom for the purpose, to learn the fun, thinking, however, there is also this situation, parents in the child's oral learning critical period, forcing children to recognize, calculate, draw, practice, etc., think that this is quality education. As everyone knows, the results of this kind of pedagogy that violates the nature of man's natural growth will only be futile. True quality education is to cultivate children's comprehensive ability to cope with society, with the purpose of individual autonomy, personality independence and spiritual freedom, with the fun of learning, the creativity of thinking, the pleasure of the spirit and the health of the mind as the purpose of education.
I personally believe that the education of parents can be divided into three categories: one is to understand education and have a sense of responsibility; the other is to understand education but have a sense of responsibility; and the other is to understand neither education nor responsibility. Among these three types of parents, parents who do not understand education but are responsible are the most likely to raise children who fail. Why? Because they do not understand the real need for education, do not know how to respect the natural growth laws of children, and have a sense of responsibility to urge children to grow up and become talented, no matter when, they may be urging children to study well, study hard, and become the strongest among people in the future. In this way, it is easy to violate the child's natural growth attributes, cause the child's rebellious psychology, and eventually lead to the child's growth and the parents' expectations and goals.
The Tao fa is natural, and we must respect the characteristics of things themselves when dealing with them. Family education is the same, according to the child's natural growth law to educate, according to the characteristics of the child to cultivate, in order to let the child grow better, in order to let the child's advantages and strengths better play.