As a parent, the biggest wish is that the child is excellent.
But behind every good child, there is a pair of self-disciplined and good at supervising the child's parents.
On the road of educating children, do not expect children to be self-conscious, because every self-conscious child is the result of strict supervision by parents from an early age!
Sometimes, without pushing a child, you never know how good he is!
I don't know when it began, many parents began to advocate "happy education" and began to "respect" their children more and more.
Children are not good at learning, mischievous all day long,
Parents say: "It's okay, as long as the child is happy, don't let learning wear out the child's nature." ”
Children learn piano halfway and don't want to learn,
Parents say: "It's okay, we have to respect the child's preferences, interest is the child's greatest motivation." Children don't like it, and no matter how much they push it, it's useless. ”
The result of such "enlightened" parents is that the child has a happy childhood, but the rest of his life is full of stumbling and regret.
Education is never happy, it is the boring of learning day after day, it is the tediousness of repeated practice.
I remember participating in a party, a colleague around looked at the young people who performed various talents on the stage, and said with emotion: When I was a child, I also learned the violin for a while, but I had no patience, and I gave up in a few days.
If a child wants to learn anything, it is impossible to rely on the shallow word "like".
Because no matter how deeply you like, you will be exhausted in the practice day after day, and the next road can only rely on persistence and perseverance.
There has never been an overnight, easy success, only accumulation of persistence.
Now, when the child wants to withdraw, you say that it is good to be happy, and when the child wants to give up, you say that happiness is good, so the peers are desperately moving forward, and your child is standing still under your indulgence, and the distance from others is getting farther and farther.
The so-called happiness education for children has become the culprit for children being far away from others.
Life is a step by step, take this step to have the next step.
Interest is practiced! Thank you Dad for forcing me to practice!
This is what Lang Lang said when he recalled his own growth path.
The piano prince Lang Lang, is the continent's premier young pianist, also belongs to the world's top pianist, is the wave of people standing on the tip of the pyramid.
Lang Lang's current success is inseparable from his diligence and persistence over the years, and also from his father's strict requirements and "persecution".
In the movie "Lang Lang's Song", Lang Lang recalled the hardships and setbacks of learning the piano, and at first he also played a retreat and was also full of resentment towards his father.
Under the "persecution" of his father, Lang Lang finally came out of the shadows, continued to study, and later achieved great success, becoming the piano prince Lang Lang as we now know it. The daughter of Yu Minhong, the founder of New Oriental, began to learn piano from an early age, won the first place in the "Vancouver Children's Piano Competition" at the age of 7, and took the piano level 10 at the age of 8.
His wife felt that her daughter was talented in the piano and wanted to train herself to become a pianist, so she greatly increased the time for her children to practice.
But I didn't expect the child's enthusiasm for learning the piano to plummet, and said to Yu Minhong: "Dad, I don't learn anymore, I have no interest in the piano." ”
Listening to her daughter's words, Yu Minhong said something serious: Baby, when you grow up, everyone will have a lot of lonely times, if I and my mother are not around you at that time, if you can have a piano and music to accompany you, you will not feel lonely, because you can talk.
Whether or not to continue, you decide for yourself, this is the consistent principle of your father to you.
A week later, he took his daughter to a concert.
After the concert, Yu Minhong was moved by his daughter's affection and reason, and described to her daughter the importance of music to life and the pity of sudden abandonment.
After listening to her father's words, her daughter not only did not give up the piano, but more consciously practiced.
After that, she played the piano better and better, and won many awards.
Robin Sharma wrote in "For Whom Do You Weep When You Die":
It's not that you don't want to do something because it's hard, it's because you don't want to do it that makes it difficult.
Any learning process goes through a boring phase. At this time, parents do not "force" their children, so that children "do not want to learn and do not learn."
Then, the child can only stay in the stage of shallow taste and stop, and cannot experience the joy of deep learning, let alone great achievements.
Forward-thinking parents know how to force their children at the right time, and encourage their children to persevere before they choose to give up.
Tao Xingzhi once said: To teach people, we must start from an early age. Children are like seedlings, they can sprout and grow well, and if they are not raised well, they are doomed to die from an early age.
In the most critical decade before the age of 18, parents must not indulge their children, do not delay the growth of their children in the name of love.
"The Son does not teach, the Father is at fault." Poor education is the fault of parents.
The child is a blank piece of paper, you don't push him, some things will never grow on him.
Children with both talents and skills are forced to learn the piano and dance from an early age;
Children with top grades are forced to study hard from an early age.
Behind every good child, there are fierce parents.
Children's potential is "forced" out.
When children are confused, the most important thing parents should do is to inspire their potential and force children to work hard.
Remember: strict is love, leniency is harm, and connivance is destruction.
We always hear people say with regret:
If when I was 5 years old, my parents forced me to dance, would it be me on the stage now?
If my parents had forced me to go into the water when I was 10 years old, wouldn't I be able to swim with my friends now?
If my parents had forced me to go to school when I was 18 years old, wouldn't I be mixed up like this now...
I once read a Weibo: a post-00s girl works part-time in a shopping mall in Qingdao during the summer vacation. This is her third job, the previous two jobs have been a total of four days, "the leader said I was not suitable." She said that she is now 17 years old and has the pressure of life, it is not easy to earn money, and she regrets that she did not study well.
What makes us regret when we grow up is often not what we have done wrong, but what we have not done.
Children, when they are young, they do not work hard, and when they grow up, they can only give praise to others.
Therefore, as parents, we should teach our children to learn to persevere and self-discipline, and we should force our children to do so.
Because if he doesn't push his child, he may never know how good he is.
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