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Do you think you can get married when you reach legal age? Is the delay in marriage between "leftover men" and "leftover women" really caused by "high or low"? not necessarily. Marriage means the birth of a family, which means that at least one of the prospective couples can afford the necessities of the new family, including food, clothing, shelter, support for both parents, and the upbringing and education of children after marriage. Therefore, physiological maturity, or age, marriage and family is not necessarily a matter of course, and a series of "2 +1" conditions such as whether there is the ability to assume the responsibilities of the new family and whether the new family can be happy are the basic conditions for measuring whether a person, including men and women of the right age, is suitable for marriage.
One of them: both physical and psychological
A person's physical maturity does not mean that the psychology matures at the same time. We know that "ma bao men and women" and "giant babies" belong to people who are not yet mentally immature and sound, but in fact, they also include extremely controlled people, doing things without a head and tail, often impulsive without considering the consequences, behavior is not controlled by the brain, and so on, which belong to the category of psychological immaturity.
For example, the TV series "Xiao Minjia" is being broadcast on Hunan Satellite TV, in which there is a rich son Xu Zheng, who at the beginning defeated Qian Feng, who had a crush on Liu Xiaojie for ten years with his family's money, a table of talents, and was good at pleasing women, and began to fall in love with Liu Xiaojie, who had just ended a marriage. After that, he began to ask Liu Xiaojie to alienate Qian Feng, and even began to interfere with Liu Xiaojie's communication with authors of the opposite sex (Liu Xiaojie is an editor by profession). Well, even if the precaution against Qian Feng is to prevent "backyard fire", then why control Liu Xiaojie's contact with the author's work? Xu Zheng's reason sounds like there is nothing wrong with it, Liu Xiaojie does not go to work and does not have bad money, because he has money at home. This is a manifestation of psychological immaturity, he thinks that the family has money and can sit and eat for a lifetime.
One of the characteristics of the "giant baby" is that there is no weaning.
Second: reliable life and career planning
Whether a person has the conditions to get married and start a family should not be judged solely from his family background and work status. Family background is not static, and it is not a new thing for the rich to go bankrupt overnight and become "negative tycoons"; poor and sloppy families may also chain "bun shops" to the north, Shanghai, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen. There is no permanent "golden rice bowl" for work. Rather, it is necessary to observe his words and deeds to see if he has a pragmatic life plan and work plan. This is particularly important, if a person has a reliable future plan, and can be very disciplined step by step to achieve, and is currently working hard, needless to say, this person has the basic conditions for marriage and family, because he is very clear that married life needs him to continue to work in a better and better direction, rather than empty talk.
Plus 1: Health "Three-Piece Set"
The "three-piece set" of health includes: healthy body, healthy psychology, and healthy habits. Of course, people with poor health and a little dark psychology, as well as people with bad habits or hobbies, can also get married and have a family, and the happiness index is low, this is not the content of this article, back to the point. Having a healthy "three-piece set" is beneficial, first of all, you can infect your spouse, such as "not eating after noon", going to bed early and getting up early, such as empathetic tolerance. These healthy habits and good deeds of kindness and kindness can also have an impact on the health of children after having children. "The upper beam is positive and the lower beam is not crooked", health can be infected and is very susceptible to infection.