Women who take care of the family do not make money, women who make money do not care about the family, women who have children, want to be a good mother to accompany their children, or are willing to earn a little more money to improve their children's lives. A lot of women don't want to have children, even if they find it too difficult to make those choices.
Not working was disliked by the husband, the full-time mother decided to implement the AA system, and the husband and father-in-law changed in an instant
Qianqian is the mother of a two-year-old girl, she is also a full-time mother who does not work, and only her husband makes money at home. Qianqian's husband is a takeaway brother, although the work is very hard, but there are thousands of yuan of income every month, tens of thousands of yuan, the life is OK.
However, recently something not so good has happened to their family. Qianqian's mother was hospitalized with sudden cardiovascular and cerebrovascular disease, although it was not life-threatening, but the cost of surgery was also quite high. Qianqian has an older sister, and her sister consulted with her, and one person gave her mother twenty thousand yuan for medical expenses and made up the money.
However, when Qianqian and her husband mentioned this matter, her husband said, "Do we still have a mortgage?" Is it too much to take so much money? ”
The father-in-law jumped out directly and said: "My family married you and spent all the family funds, your mother's illness to spend money is also your family's business, don't want to exploit from my son again, you are still willing to ask for money, you married into our family, in addition to spending money, you have not earned a penny!" ”
Qianqian looked at her daughter in her arms, and her heart was full of despair. Marrying, getting pregnant, having children, taking children, doing housework, I am not a lazy person, I have undertaken to take care of children and all the housework, I did not expect that the hard work of these years is not worth twenty thousand yuan.
Qianqian said to her husband: "Since you have the final say on the money you earn, then I will also go to work to make money in the future, and in the future we will have the AA system, I have been with the child for two years, it is time for you to take the child, tomorrow I will go out to work." ”
The next day, Qianqian went out to look for a job, and her husband looked at her daughter, and she couldn't go out, she was dumbfounded. The child is crying, he can't come, the child is hungry, he can't cook. The family was in chaos, and Qianqian's husband quickly begged his wife for forgiveness, begged her to come home, and promised that her salary would be only half of her wife's salary in the future.
Some people look down on stay-at-home moms and feel that they live on men and have no woman's independence. There are also people who envy stay-at-home mothers, thinking that they don't have to work and are really comfortable at home. However, I think most stay-at-home moms don't go out to work because they have to. If conditions permit, they will not be willing to stay at home and live all day around with children and housework.
Stay-at-home mothers are known as the most dangerous professions, but in real life, there are a lot of women who have become stay-at-home moms, and some of them are highly educated.
First, the economic conditions have been met, and the mother can work at home without going out to work.
Just like Luo Zijun in the TV series "The First Half of My Life", many full-time mothers, because their husbands make more money, and the husband and wife are very loving, so they quit to be full-time mothers at home. This type of stay-at-home mom is the most dangerous, the times abandon you, and they won't even say hello.
Husband and wife relationships may be very good, but no one is sure that they will love you alone all their lives, and if your husband betrays you, you have nothing. Wanting to turn the tables like "Luo Zijun" in the film and television drama is simply a fool's dream. Therefore, women should not easily believe the words of men in love, and easily give up their careers to become full-time mothers.
Second, mothers attach importance to their children's education and want to accompany their children's growth.
There are many highly educated mothers who also choose to be full-time mothers, because they have their own knowledge and culture, and they know the importance of accompanying and educating their children. So when the child is born, it is better to give up his career and accompany the child's limited childhood. After all, the child grows up only once, and the mother does not want to miss it.
If such a knowledgeable and capable mother is like this, when the child grows up, they still have more opportunities to go out to work. Therefore, many full-time mothers with academic qualifications, even if they stay at home, have never given up the improvement of self-knowledge, and some can achieve making money while taking their children, and work and life are not wrong.
Third, the mother herself has the financial resources and confidence, and does not have to worry about the problem of the back road.
Some mothers have created a lot of wealth before marriage, or the mother's family has more financial resources, so after becoming a mother, they will be full-time mothers wholeheartedly, and they are not afraid of any changes in marriage in the future. Although money is not omnipotent, life is also inseparable from money, and the life of a rich full-time mother is more confident.
Therefore, if you are willing to be a stay-at-home mother, at least the financial power of the family is in your own hands, giving yourself and your children a guarantee of life.
But this is all for a small number of mothers, and most of the mothers are ordinary ordinary people, the husband's income and family finances are not as generous as imagined, usually they are reluctant to eat and wear and save money for their children, but in the end they have paid all they have become a yellow-faced woman, and they can't please their husbands and mothers-in-law.
Women don't have to be too capable, but they must be able to support themselves. Not to support the family, but for the happiness of yourself and your family.
I have a friend who is a student who is in love with marriage, and at that time I was envious of a large number of people, but occasionally we were shocked at a class reunion. Ben is a beautiful girl who has become a big mother, her clothes are still old and outdated, her face is speckled, her hair is like she has not been done for a long time, although she has been deliberately washed and dressed up, but compared with us, she is like a 40-year-old, and we were only thirty at that time.
Later in the chat learned that although her husband has a high income and the retirement salary of her mother-in-law, but her health is not good, she has to take medicine all the time, and she can only protect herself, half of her husband's salary pays a mortgage and car loan, and the other half is in addition to living expenses and socializing for the child, basically she wants to buy a dress or a skin care product to buy the cheapest child cream.
The tightness in life makes her and her husband desperately try to support, but the adult world is so easy, there is no matter at the friend's house, if there is a little thing, it is a big thing for her. So women must not let themselves get into this predicament.