A man's monthly salary is eight thousand, and after marriage, he gives his mother six thousand a month: you can't forget your mother just because you have married your daughter-in-law

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A man without an opinion is not only a disaster for a small family, but also a nightmare for his wife.

Couples enter marriage, which is inherently full of uncertainty and instability. And how does the man who has no responsibility defend his family?

The hero in the next case, in his long-term inaction, ran away from his wife and broke up the marriage.

Qin Yang finally got married at the age of thirty, knowing that he had talked about several girlfriends before and did not go to the end.

The root cause is still his inattentive mother, who every time he sees his girlfriend, he has to play a moth, so that he is almost thirty years old and has not landed.

When it comes to why you can get married this time, you have to blame the reason for the blind date.

In fact, his personal conditions are not bad, he has a house in a three-city city, and he also has an income of more than 8,000 per month.

Besides, he himself is one seven or eight years tall, and his appearance is also Sven, so it is not difficult to find a girl to marry.

It was only because of his mother's trickery that he could only marry in the end.

His fiancée, Zhang Na, is also nearly thirty years old and works as a cashier in a supermarket. Because the conditions at home were not very good, it was so delayed.

Therefore, when I met Qin Yang this time, the people in Zhang Na's family were still quite satisfied.

The two simply interacted for a few weeks to establish a relationship, and half a year later they were engaged with the consent of both parents.

Because of the rush of time, Zhang Na did not know much about Qin Yang's family.

He only knows that he is a single-parent family and has always been dependent on his mother. For the future mother-in-law, she has only met a few times and does not know much.

Therefore, all kinds of coincidences allowed her to only see the real face of her mother-in-law after marriage.

The wedding was done in a decent manner, and the two sides also agreed not to give a bride price and a dowry.

Life after marriage is about to begin, and Zhang Na is inexplicably a little nervous in her heart.

Because their two young families want to live with their mother-in-law, Zhang Na remembers her mother's teachings in her heart and should be filial to her mother-in-law after passing through the door.

But after marrying and living together, I found that her mother-in-law was really difficult to deal with.

First of all, the mother-in-law spent several days telling her about the rules of living in the family.

For example, you can't sleep in the morning, you can't put salt in the soup, and your shoes can't be randomly placed.

Zhang Na's parents are all responsible people, and she is naturally an honest girl, where have you seen this face.

Therefore, her strange request to her mother-in-law was nodded in agreement, and slowly her mother-in-law thought she was a bully.

Once Zhang Na came home late after working overtime, only to find that her mother-in-law and husband had gone out for a walk after eating.

There were no reserved meals on the table, just a pile of dishes that needed to be cleaned.

She held herself up and ordered a packet of instant noodles, and devoured it.

Zhang Na did not know that her mother-in-law came back and saw a table of confiscated dishes and chopsticks, and her face collapsed at once.

The old lady beckoned her son to the small room, and after muttering a word, Zhang Na was called to the living room by her husband.

While washing the fruit, the husband said, "Nana, the dishes on this table must be cleaned up quickly, otherwise there will be small bugs at night." ”

Zhang Na was suddenly a little angry, obviously she hadn't eaten a bite, so why should she wash the dishes?

Seeing that she did not move, the mother-in-law did not say a word and cleaned up the dishes. It was because of this move that it triggered a bigger contradiction in the future.

It turned out that the mother-in-law was also very angry when she washed the dishes, and she did not expect that the honest daughter-in-law would be so disobedient.

So in the days to come, she kept blowing with her son, not only letting him manage his own money, but also letting him hand over six thousand yuan to her as a pension.

As soon as this proposal was said, Qin Yang was a little embarrassed, knowing that he had a total of more than eight thousand a month, which made him a little embarrassed to give his mother six thousand.

When the old lady saw that Qin Yang did not immediately agree, she said in a serious tone: "Son, I used to ask you to give money to your mother, but I saved your wife's book for you." Now you look at the daughter-in-law is not obedient, these six thousand should be given to the mother's pension, I still not give you to save? You can't forget your wife just because you married your daughter-in-law. ”

These words really moved Qin Yang, and he agreed to the request for monthly money.

Sure enough, at the end of the second month, Zhang Na felt that this day was strange.

Because the husband not only did not pay her money, but also concealed his income.

After enduring for half a year, Zhang Na decided to figure things out, and there was a reason for this couple to live a life.

She took an opportunity to say to her husband: "Qin Yang, we have been married for more than half a year, I am still your daughter-in-law, and I am still respectful and respectful to your mother." ”

Qin Yang did not speak, indicating acquiescence.

Zhang Na then said, "Then I will ask you where you spend your money every month, or how much you have saved." I don't ask you to give me the money, but I always have the right to know. ”

In the face of this interrogation, Qin Yang's heart was weak and he could not support it.

In a hurry, he actually called his mother in, saying that he had to ask his mother about the money.

At that time, the situation was all blindfolded to Zhang Na, and how the financial problems of their little two families had to ask their mother-in-law.

When the old lady saw her daughter-in-law inquiring about her son's income, she said with a straight face: "Nana, when you first got married, your family conditions were not good, because it was because you obeyed your duty that you let you marry Qin Yang." How to learn to calculate our family's money now. ”

After Listening to it, Zhang Na understood where her husband's money had gone, and it turned out that they were all supervised by her mother-in-law.

After learning that her husband gave her mother-in-law a monthly pension fee of six thousand, she was even more angry and wanted to stomp her feet.

She asked with a temper, "Mom, your son is now raising you with his salary, and if I get pregnant in the future, who will raise my son?" ”

The old lady was choked up and couldn't speak, put on a stinky face and left in a huff.

She pulled her husband and talked for a long time the next day, hoping that Qin Yang could get rid of her mother and support their little family.

But Qin Yang couldn't listen to Zhang Na's words at all, and he had always been perfunctory.

Sure enough, in the next month, Qin Yang still transferred six thousand to his mother, and he secretly took another thousand to his wife.

Zhang Na looked at the thousand yuan and couldn't say what it was like in her heart, seeing that Zhang Na didn't accept it, Qin Yang smothered her head and said, "Don't be angry about my mother's six thousand pieces, we are all family, don't be so calculated." ”

Zhang Na recalled the bits and pieces of marriage and couldn't help but sigh a little.

It is not that she does not regard her mother-in-law as a family, but that her mother-in-law has always regarded her as an outsider.

The tricky and eccentric demands can be tolerated, and the provocation of the husband can also be tolerated, but the pension of six thousand yuan is difficult to accept.

This means of cutting off the economy is undoubtedly strangling her throat.

When she saw her husband as overwhelmed as a little child, she knew that no one could protect her in this marriage.

So she formally filed for divorce, and her husband did not agree at the first time.

Qin Yang turned to his mother again, but the old lady did not like this disobedient daughter-in-law for a long time, and she was very supportive of her son to divorce.

In the end, they divorced, and Zhang Na gained maturity and calmness in this marriage.

And Qin Yang could only continue to live in the arrangements his mother had given him...

The small couple in the case, divorce is not only the interference of the mother-in-law, but also the husband's incompetence and lack of opinion.

This tells us that marriage not only needs to be independent of both parties, but also to keep the following two requirements in mind.

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One: On the issue of marriage, women should choose more carefully.

The quality of marriage can directly determine the fate of a woman.

Therefore, every girl should remain calm before marriage and have a deep understanding.

The reason why the heroine in the case encountered such an unreasonable family was because she did not have a detailed understanding before marriage.

After a blind date, you think that the conditions are appropriate, and you can quickly marry and create a family.

As everyone knows, only time can test a person's quality, and understanding a person's family style is by no means an overnight thing.

Therefore, on the issue of marriage, women should choose carefully, and do not rush to marry without simple comparison conditions.

You should know that marriage is not only two people living together, but also represents mutual support and companionship in the future.

Therefore, the maturity of personality and good family style may be more important than material conditions.

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Two: Men have no opinion, which is more terrible than no money.

In marriage, men without opinion are their partner's nightmares.

All the sources of unhappiness are brought about by the husband who is not responsible.

This kind of thinking giant baby seems to be able to listen only to his mother's words, and he is accustomed to being dominated by life.

The hero in the case not only condones his mother to bully his wife, but also agrees to the demand for income.

Even under his wife's bitter pleading, he did not want to go against his mother's wishes.

Even the final divorce was completed with the support of the mother.

Marrying such a man is undoubtedly sad, because even with his wife, he will be manipulated together.

Think about it carefully, the original man who has no opinion is actually more terrible than no money.

Because there is no opinion, no matter how rich you are, it has nothing to do with you, he has long been accustomed to letting others arrange everything.

This terrible logic of thinking may not be able to stop it by doing everything you can.

Hopefully all girls can get away from such families and find a husband who is truly responsible.

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Finding a responsible husband is not an easy task.

Sometimes in the middle of the roundabout, or in the marriage planted a heel.

But don't be discouraged, because every experience is a growth.

Text/No Pen