Marriage is a one-way street, and there is rarely a chance to get the regret medicine. Therefore, we must have a respectful heart and a cautious attitude toward marriage.
Marriage is a salvation for some and a disaster for others. It depends on who your partner is in your marriage, and it also depends on how you run the marriage.
The most feared thing is that someone who is happy in marriage is not satisfied. People always lose something, or have a comparison, before they know how to cherish.
Zhou Qiang originally had a happy marriage, and although his wife Xiaohui looked ordinary, she was a woman with an inner show. The elderly in the family and his own small family are arranged to take good care of, which makes Zhou Qiang have a lot less worries.
But the more comfortable the life, the more dissatisfied the person is, the more plain life is, and the more man breeds his heart. Zhou Qiang and the woman outside the marriage have an affair and urge his wife to divorce.
In the end, the marriage divorced, but the woman outside the marriage only played with Zhou Qiang and did not intend to marry him at all.
The mistake was made, and Zhou Qiang became a lonely man. But his A Q spirit is very in place, he thinks that he is free now, he can do whatever he wants.
Zhou Qiang ate, drank and had fun for half a year, and felt that a woman was still needed in the family.
So, Zhou Qiang began to go on a blind date. He feels good about himself, and he feels that if he doesn't say that he won the victory, it is also a good year, and it must be hot.
Zhou Qiang's first blind date, a native of the city, an only child, a graduate degree, and a stable monthly salary of nearly 10,000. I hope that the other party is more than 180cm tall, has a full house, has a car, and has a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan. The New Year was separated, and their parents were treated the same as the father's parents.
These hard conditions, Zhou Qiang, who was full of confidence, did not meet them at all. At the same time, he is also dissatisfied with "equality between men and women", and every new year before, his ex-wife set up a large table of meals. If you are alone with your parents for the New Year, who will do these tasks?
The second blind date, the girl has a bachelor's degree, not from the city, and has a younger brother who is in the second year of high school. The man is required to have a house and a car, a dowry of 200,000 yuan, and be responsible for the tuition of his brother. If the younger brother chooses to study for a doctorate in the future, he will also be responsible for the end.
Zhou Qiang thought to himself, this girl's conditions are also average, and some aspects are not as good as her ex-wife. When he married his ex-wife, the bride price was 50,000 yuan, and the down payment of the house was paid by the two of them together. Now this business is not a good deal.
Zhou Qiang was a little displeased in his heart, and a friend advised that the times were different, and then you and your ex-wife fell in love first and then got married. Blind dates are not the same, they all look at the conditions first before falling in love.
Zhou Qiang thought that he was also a second marriage, so he lowered some conditions, not the first marriage.
What he did not expect was that the third blind date was not only married but also brought a four-year-old son. Moreover, women do not have stable jobs, and their homes are also out of town, is this not obviously a rhythm of eating and drinking themselves?
One by one, zhou Qiang found that he had no advantage in the marriage market. After that, a friend introduced him to two more, and the conditions were not very good in Zhou Qiang's eyes.
This friend's unintentional words stung Zhou Qiang's heart: I only introduced you after looking at the match.
At this time, Zhou Qiang vaguely felt that it was too hasty to divorce his wife.
Girls with good conditions cannot afford to be worthy of themselves, and the requirements for bad conditions are not low. Especially those girls who are not in good condition, always hope for others, want to make the man in the marriage pay for his own life and the original family.
When he and his ex-wife were married, the bride price was given to the friends around him much less, and the ex-wife brought the bride price back as the starting capital of the small family.
The house is also two people jointly pay for the down payment, and jointly repay the loan, in the usual days, the housework, the old man is also taken care of by the ex-wife.
The ex-wife was reluctant to eat and wear, and saved up all the money, saying that it would cost a lot to have children in the future, but the two people had not yet waited for the crystallization of love, and they went their separate ways.
Speaking from the heart, Zhou Qiang occasionally felt that his ex-wife was "cheap" before. But now he found that his wife was the priceless treasure in his marriage.
After Zhou Qiang forced his ex-wife to divorce, his ex-wife blocked his WeChat, and Zhou Qiang now suddenly and eagerly wanted to know the news of his ex-wife.
He invited the two people's former friends to dinner, pretended to be casual, and asked about his ex-wife.
That friend was also very interesting, and directly turned to the circle of friends of Zhou Qiang's ex-wife and handed it to Zhou Qiang.
The more Zhou Qiang turned back, the tighter his brow wrinkled. The heart was like a knife, like being slapped.
The ex-wife was married three months ago, the newlywed husband is a doctor, the white wedding dress, the diamond ring, the banquet, the smiling faces of friends and family, the villa for the honeymoon, the spacious and upscale new house for two people... Everything stimulated Zhou Qiang.
Zhou Qiang knows his ex-wife, and he can see that his ex-wife is really happy and happy. The woman who was once useless in his mind seemed to have extraordinary charm at this time.
Everyone needs to be responsible for their own choices, whether life is bumpy or happy, there is a fateful arrangement, and more is their own choice.
People are self-aware, and the most feared thing is that they do not know satisfaction, and they always look at this mountain and look at the mountain high. In the so-called pursuit step by step, the most precious thing was lost.
If you don't know what the essence of marriage is, don't easily enter marriage, where there are so many passions in life, at your fingertips.
Marriage needs to use your heart to feel the beauty in the plain, to understand and cherish the other half of the marriage, and to meet people who are good to you and treat you sincerely, you must know how to be grateful.
A bad marriage will make two people who hate each other look vicious and drift apart; a good marriage will make people who love each other become happy with each other, and the road of life will become wider and wider.
The relationship between people is too fragile, even if it is a husband and wife, no one will always stand in the same place waiting for you. Once you make the wrong choice and fail the other person, you can't go back.
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[Wen | Wei Wei'an: the pen has temperature, for the voice of emotion, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]