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The old saying goes: The moon bends to illuminate Kyushu, a few joys and a few sorrows.
In fact, we are in this society, and every family has a difficult scripture to read.
What makes us relish is nothing more than the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the relationship between concubines.
The heroine in the next case was forced to divorce by her hateful mother-in-law.
Since Xu Xia married Fang Hua, she had never seen her mother-in-law.
Because the mother-in-law of the marriage between the two did not approve of it, and even let them break up at one time.
Fortunately, the husband has been insisting, and finally married Xu Xia, but unfortunately the wedding has not been done.
Xu Xia didn't know that her mother-in-law was notoriously picky and difficult. Because the two juniors secretly married her, they did not talk to their son on the phone for more than a year.
Later, it was the husband who confessed to the mother-in-law in person and compensated for the mistake, and the mother-son relationship eased up again.
When Xu Xia learned that her mother-in-law was about to come to live at home for a while, she was subconsciously afraid in her heart.
Although she was married to her husband not long ago, she also heard about her mother-in-law's strength.
In order to perform better, she not only cleaned her mother-in-law's room, but also bought a new bed sheet and quilt cover.
I just didn't expect that after my mother-in-law came, I was still dissatisfied with her.
The old lady came on the weekend, and the little two got up early to prepare.
After breakfast, the husband drove away to pick up his mother, while Xu Xia prepared a midday meal at home.
When it was almost twelve o'clock, Xu Xia had prepared a table of dishes. There are pomfret and prawns, which are said to be loved by mother-in-law.
It was hard to wait for the mother-in-law to come, but as soon as the old lady entered the door, she had a straight face and was not very happy.
The little grandson enthusiastically shouted at grandma, but did not get the old lady's response.
It turned out that the old lady had some motion sickness on the road, and her heart was nauseous.
Xu Xia was a little overwhelmed with her mother-in-law, who was in a bad mood, but her husband was sending water and looking for medicine for her mother.
After a good ride, Xu Xia beckoned her mother-in-law to eat. But the old lady looked at the dishes on the table, and hurriedly waved her hand and said, "It's too oily, I'll talk about it after sleeping." ”
Watching the old lady enter the room without turning her head, the husband was a little unhappy. Turning his head, he asked his wife what was going on, and how he made a meal was not satisfied.
Xu Xia has some grievances in her heart, this is all her mother-in-law's love to eat, and she doesn't know that her mother-in-law is sick and sick.
But in the face of her husband's dissatisfaction, she did not quarrel, but silently went to the kitchen to cook some shrimp porridge.
After an hour of busy work, I finally delivered the porridge to my mother-in-law, who sat on the bed and ate it.
After washing the dishes, Xu Xia's mood was somewhat depressed. Seeing that her husband had been talking to her mother-in-law, she watched a TV series in the living room.
Because of the rest the next day, she unconsciously saw eleven o'clock.
And the mother-in-law immediately ran out of the room and said loudly: "Oh what time is it, you don't sleep others still have to sleep." ”
This movement frightened Xu Xia and immediately turned off the TV, while her mother-in-law was still muttering in her mouth when she left.
The husband's face behind his mother-in-law was a little embarrassed, but he quietly urged his wife not to think much and go to sleep quickly.
Everyone else slept well that night, but Xu Xia had a sleepless night.
In the following days, no matter how careful Xu Xia is, she will be picked out by her mother-in-law. Either spend lavishly, or the home hygiene is not good.
Even the little grandson was frightened by this grandmother at home.
The most infuriating thing is that the mother-in-law also learned to provoke a set of provocative relationships behind the scenes.
For example, it is clear that she has a bad stomach and has to drink thin porridge, but at night she tells her son that her daughter-in-law is reluctant to give her food.
Several times down, Xu Xia's patience was worn away by her mother-in-law little by little.
Although she had complained to her husband, each time he only briefly comforted her, and generally stood by his mother's side.
After all, in order to get married, I have already hurt my mother once, and it is difficult to ease the relationship, and naturally I don't want to have anything to do.
However, Xu Xia has become more and more dissatisfied because she has been targeted by her mother-in-law many times.
At the end of last month, because her unit salary was delayed, she thought of finding her husband to get a thousand yuan to respond to the emergency.
But as soon as she finished speaking, she was heard by her mother-in-law who was hiding nearby.
The old lady said brazenly: "Why are you still looking for money from my son, don't you have a job?" Now who is easy in this market, how do you open your mouth. ”
Xu Xia's face turned red, and her unclear husband also followed his mother's words at this time: "No, she did not ask me for money, or you can rest assured that she will not give it." ”
These words made Xu Xia's heart break, and she shed tears that night under the covers.
The married mother-in-law did not approve of it, and did not do the wedding, but now the only husband has also made a mistake, which is the last straw that crushed her.
A week later she filed for divorce, and her husband was naturally strenuously opposed.
He originally thought of consulting with his mother about countermeasures, but he wanted his mother to say triumphantly: "Oh, the divorced son gave him property, and later recognized the ancestors and returned to the emperor to pick it up." It was she who was indebted to her, making her think she was an onion. ”
As soon as he thought of his son, Fang Hua was very reluctant in his heart. Treating his mother's bad idea, he said soberly this time: "Mom, you are not worthy." If you don't want your grandson, I can't leave my son behind. ”
After the storm of divorce, Fang Hua saw through his mother's cold-bloodedness and horror.
Several times, he went to his wife to apologize to her and promised to send the old lady back to her hometown.
Xu Xia was originally determined to divorce, but when she saw that her husband had brought her son, she suddenly softened her heart.
In the end, she agreed to reunite with her husband, but only if she had to send her mother-in-law away.
Fang Zheng was grateful that his wife could forgive him and sent his mother back to his hometown at the first time.
Although the old lady was still crying and making a lot of noise, her mouth was still angrily scolding her son for asking her wife not for the old woman...
The husband in the case woke up in time and sent his mother back to his hometown.
This tells us that families not only need mutual understanding from all parties, but also keep the following two principles in mind.
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One: The biggest confusion of parents is to interfere in their children's lives.
When each child works as an adult, parents must learn to gradually let go.
It is important to know that cultivating children's ability to be independent is one of the important responsibilities of parents.
After all, frequent interference in children's lives is not only to make themselves upset, but also to the children are not much good.
Especially after the children get married, they must gradually learn to let go.
Don't be like the mother-in-law in the case, who interfered with her son and daughter-in-law and almost destroyed her son's home.
And this kind of parents do not pay attention to the scale of people and are accustomed to doing whatever they want.
Therefore, when dealing with children, no matter how big or small, I like to insert a lever. I wish the whole family revolved around him, but he was obedient.
Their confusion lies not only in ideological selfishness, but also in personality unsoundness.
So for such elders, remember to keep your distance and don't affect your life and family.
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Second: The biggest confusion of the husband is the "bias" between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law.
In addition to the hard work in the career, men must also maintain the stability of the rear in the family.
Therefore, on the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, men should not feel that things do not matter to themselves and hang high.
Because most of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions revolve around the role of the husband.
Therefore, what the husband does determines the key to family harmony.
The most important point is that as a husband, you must not be biased on the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The most appropriate approach is to deal with contradictions in a fair and just manner and in a convincing manner.
Once the eccentricity is unreasonable, the balance of the family will tilt and the distance between relatives will become farther and farther away.
In the end, the man could only be caught between his mother and his wife, unable to move.
To know that men's emotional intelligence and sanity can also play the greatest role in family activities.
Not only can family conflicts be easily resolved, but also can be turned into jade.
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In fact, many times, it is difficult for us to know the true meaning of family.
But we are still happy to work tirelessly, just for our own happiness and happiness.
Hopefully, no matter what kind of role you are in the family, you can love what you love, and may you wish.
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