Couples have been married for a long time, there is no passion in love, and even many couples have lived a life that is not good, want to leave and can't put down, sing and laugh with friends during the day, sleep in a bed at night, but the mind is not on each other's body, even if two people are alone, they can't say a few words.
In fact, since you are married and have children, why can't you live well? Will divorce really get the happiness you want? In fact, the child's heart is the most uncomfortable.
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Xu Mou, who lives in the countryside, and his wife Yu Mou married and raised a son, but in life, as the contradictions between husband and wife accumulated deeper and deeper, the two finally chose to divorce.
At the time of divorce, they distributed the property in the family in this way, and since the house they lived in was left by the husband's parents, the two agreed to divide the house among their sons, with the mother living with the son and taking care of the children, and the father and grandmother leaving the backyard to live on their own.
Soon after, Xu met his current wife, Lu Mou, and got married and lived in the backyard. With the passage of time, the son has grown up and reached the age of marriage, so the mother and son discussed rebuilding the house, and Xu as a father should also contribute, so Yu found Xu and asked him to pay some money.
The son wants to repair the house to get married, and it is impossible for the father to disagree, but the problem is that now he has a new family of his own.
After consultation, Xu did the work of his current wife, and the prerequisite was that after the house was built, he would have his own house. At that time, Yu said that as long as he paid for it, there would be no problem.
In fact, this is an action that Xu and Lu did not consider the consequences, and it also led to a dispute later, do you think that if the ex-wife and the current wife live together, will there be no contradiction?
Soon the house was built, and the son was successfully married, but the problem also appeared, and the son, driven by his mother, surrounded the back of the new house with a layer of barbed wire, completely isolating the Xu family living in the backyard.
Because when the house was repaired at that time, the old house and toilet were all destroyed, and now the toilet is in the new house, this layer of barbed wire completely allows the Xu family living in the backyard to have no place to go to the toilet, Xu wants to rebuild, but there is no place to build.
The so-called one-day husband and wife Bai Ri'en, in any case, the ex-wife's approach is also quite excessive, after all, the backyard is not only Xu and his wife, but also the son's grandmother.
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Seeing the operation of his ex-wife and son, Xu was not happy, so he found his ex-wife and son and asked them to fulfill the promise they made when they first built the house, but the son thought that this was the father who wanted to rob his house, because the original verbal agreement the son did not participate, did not know about this matter, when he returned home from outside the work, the house was almost completed.
Seeing that his ex-wife did not recognize the account, Xu was anxious, saying that if Yu had to say so, he would sue the court, after all, the construction of the house was paid for, even if you do not admit it, you cannot erase this fact.
In fact, in his son's heart, it is not that he does not want Xu and his grandmother to live in a new house, his idea is very simple, he just wants his father and mother to reunite together, and reject Lu Mou's stepmother.
Later, there was persuasion from others that it was unrealistic to want both families to live in a new house, and if they lived together, the former and the current one looked up every day and did not look down, how could there be no contradiction. So he proposed that either the ex-wife and son pay for the house, or Xu paid for the house, and how to take it over can be converted.
In the end, the son felt that he had other places to live, so he agreed to pay for the house from his father, and the father had no problem with this, and the two sides agreed on it.
Husbands and wives divorced, if they are in the absence of children, of course, each lives their own lives, and there is nothing. Once you have children, you need to be careful. If there were no feelings at the beginning, they would not come together, and since they came together, no matter what difficulties there were, the husband and wife should jointly assume the responsibilities of the family.
Couples do not have a good life in life, they put the problem down to marriage and partners, which is a selfish performance, as an adult, to learn to reflect on their own problems, if there is a problem between husband and wife in life, choose divorce, not only will affect themselves, the biggest impact is the children.
I hope that when you have the idea of divorce as an adult, you must think in many ways and choose carefully. At the same time, I also hope that the story of this family can bring a certain experience to couples who want to divorce and will divorce.