In the mainland, the older generation has always been the "main force with the baby", especially in today's society, young couples are under greater pressure and have limited energy, and after the birth of the child, the older generation will be allowed to help with the child.
However, many elderly people now have more avant-garde ideas, have their own arrangements for their later life, and sometimes they are not willing to help with children.
Especially the mother-in-law, the location is more awkward, not as close as the child's grandparents, the old saying also says: "The daughter who marries out, the water that is spilled out", if the mother is always too active in the daughter's place, it is easy to cause contradictions.
Therefore, under normal circumstances, some mothers are unwilling to take the initiative to take care of their daughter's in-laws' affairs, mainly for fear of causing trouble to their daughters and causing discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
However, there is also a situation now, no matter how difficult and bitter, but also to help their daughter with a baby, this is not, not long ago there was a mother-in-law, said that no matter how difficult it is, she also has to help her daughter with a baby. Let's take a look.
"No matter how difficult it is, you must help your daughter with your children", the mother's mother tearfully advised, which won a lot of resonance
Aunt Liu's family is rural, and her daughter, after graduating from college, found her in-laws in the big city and settled down!
Some time ago, Aunt Liu's daughter Xuanxuan gave birth to a big fat boy, and the two families were particularly happy.
At first, it was Xuanxuan's mother-in-law who helped take care of Yuezi, but ah, this mother-in-law in the city, every day, her mind no longer served her daughter-in-law, but played mahjong, danced square dance, and sometimes delayed cooking for her daughter-in-law.
Over time, Xuanxuan is also hungry and full, a little unbearable, let his own mother, to take care of themselves, did not think, the mother-in-law also did not play mahjong, nor danced square dance, and their own mother-in-law started the ring.
Aunt Liu is in her daughter's home, she washes clothes and cooks, and sometimes she has to look at the faces of her relatives in the city, in order not to embarrass her daughter, these things Aunt Liu has never said.
Although it was difficult, Aunt Liu persisted until her daughter was out for a hundred days.
Someone asked Aunt Liu: "You are so bullied, why are you still helping your daughter with a baby"?
Aunt Liu said with tears: "Our family is my daughter a child, at that time they were all only children, and in the future, we have to count on our children to retire to the end, now we are working hard, it is not nothing"!
Hearing Aunt Liu's words, many people are caught in contemplation, yes, for the post-90s generation, they have been married intermittently and have children, and what is in front of them is that there are four old people on the top and at least one child below, and all of this needs to be borne by the two small families.
Maybe Aunt Liu also saw this, so no matter how much grievance she suffered, she also had to help her daughter reduce the burden.
So the question is, what is the current survival status of 90 couples?
First of all, the post-90s couples, most of them are only children, after marriage, two people need to take care of four elderly people, it is inevitable that the energy is limited, and sometimes there will be omissions, which is really not easy.
In addition, after the 90s, those who receive a good education are generally better at working in the city, and the housing prices in these cities are relatively high, and buying a house is the basic guarantee for our stable life, so once they buy a house, they have to bear a huge mortgage, to be honest, some small couples, married for many years, still rent a house, there are many examples.
Therefore, the pressure of life is really great, especially if you are saddled with mortgages and car loans, there are even cases of not being able to make ends meet, and then there is a child, the elderly at home have a headache and brain fever, it can be said that it is really a lot of pressure.
Therefore, the 90 generation is really not easy, this time, it is the time when there is an old, a small time, I hope that everyone can stand up, as long as you can spend this period, the future days are still very good.
I also hope that the older generation can help the young people more and help the children build their little families better.