Premarital cohabitation seems to be more and more recognized by people, and the marriage of Fengzi has also become a forced act of marriage union, but for women, pregnancy is not a passport for marriage, does not mean that the road ahead of marriage is unimpeded, and does not represent the recognition and blessing of both parents.
We have seen the tragic experience of many pregnant women and unmarried children, children are originally the crystallization of love, surrounded by the blessings of both men and women to the world, on the contrary, if this love is not recognized and blessed, then this love will inevitably go particularly difficult, whether it is a woman or a man to bear the psychological pressure brought by public opinion and family indifference.
29-year-old woman Xiaoyan (pseudonym) has been pregnant for almost 9 months, May is the due date, if it is placed in an ordinary family, Xiaoyan has long been the focus of care in the family, but she and her boyfriend Xiaowen (pseudonym) have lived in a rough house rent in the county for more than half a month, and the source of all this is XiaoWen's parents, who even disregarded the reality that the daughter-in-law is about to be born, insisting on driving Xiaoyan out of the house.
In desperation, Xiao Yan and her boyfriend could only come to the county town to find the cheapest rough house as a temporary foothold, looking around at the two people's residence, a very narrow wooden bed and a rice cooker, in addition, there was almost no furniture and electrical appliances, Xiao Yan slept on a wooden bed, and her boyfriend Xiao Wen hit the floor.
The two eat the simplest meals, life is also carefully calculated, compared to other pregnant women like the stars holding the moon like care, Xiao Yan's encounter has to make people feel sad, but also let netizens feel curious about what they have encountered to fall to this point.
Xiao Yan and Xiao Wen met in online games, the two met offline after the determination of love relationship, love has been 4 years, before the two have been living in a rented house, relying on part-time work to maintain their lives, life is also relatively poor, until Xiao Yan is pregnant, the two people pay attention to the future of marriage and family issues.
Xiao Wen led Xiao Yan back to his hometown in the countryside, the family was noisy and crowded on the first floor, the boyfriend's parents were alcoholics, for Xiao Yan, the so-called daughter-in-law, just because Xiao Yan was 6 years older than her boyfriend Xiao Wen, they were very unwelcome, even if they were about to become grandparents.
After each drink, the two old men began to point out Mulberry and insinuate, humiliating Xiao Yan in every way, asking her to get out, and the 6-year-old woman made them unacceptable, and it was even more humiliating to the whole family, they would not accept Xiao Yan as a daughter-in-law.
Humiliated Xiao Yan stayed in the man's house for a long time and then left angrily, at that time she had a big belly and nowhere to go, fortunately, her boyfriend Xiao Wen did not give up on her, and the two found a cheap rental house in the county town to temporarily settle down.
Stir-frying and cooking rice are in the rice cooker, because Xiaoyan is relatively close to the due date of the pot, she can only lie flat and rest in this harsh environment, there is no table for eating, because there is no suitable stool, the posture of eating makes her abdomen feel extremely uncomfortable.
After seeing the encounter of this couple who suffered a bitter fate, netizens have expressed their opinions, some people suggested that Xiao yan beat up the child, after all, it is difficult to maintain the marriage that cannot be blessed by the parents of both sides, keeping the child is to increase hidden dangers to their future, some people think that the feelings of 4 years have fallen into this way, Xiao Yan did not polish her eyes, she has an unshirkable responsibility, more people are sympathetic to Xiao Yan's encounter, and condemn the practice of the boyfriend's parents.
However, Xiaoyan responded to this that she admitted that she really deserved it, and she did have responsibilities in this relationship, but the matter has come to this point, through the pregnancy test, she learned that the child is very healthy, when she always feels that the child is moving in the stomach, she is really reluctant to beat the child, insisting that the child must be born.
Just thinking that the road ahead is so difficult, boyfriend Xiaowen is so cowardly to her parents, she feels very sorry, bluntly saying that if there is a chance to choose again, she should not choose her boyfriend Xiaowen again, but there is no if there is no if there is anything in the world, and the road she chose will be finished on her knees.
At the time of imminent potting, the woman's family knows what happened to Xiao Yan, they are distressed that Xiao Yan is hindered by the face of the family and does not tell the family the actual situation, in order to help Xiao Yan solve the current difficulties, the woman's family has sent someone to pick up Xiao Yan back to wait for production, at the same time, Xiao Yan also calls on girls to marry people must polish their eyes, and carefully identify the man's original family, which is related to the happiness of the woman's life.
Xiao Yan's encounter is certainly painful, but the practice of accusing the man's parents is only to vent his inner dissatisfaction and express his regrets, which does not seem to have any effect on solving practical difficulties, and the reasons behind all this status quo are worthy of real analysis and interpretation.
The two fell in love for 4 years, and finally because Xiao Yan was pregnant, she had to go to the man's house, but she did not expect that the man's parents were not willing to accept her, and 4 years of youth was exchanged for a cruel reality, and the price was too painful.
Although the longer the love talk, the more you may understand each other's personality, deepen each other's feelings, love is a matter of two people, and marriage is the negotiation and compromise of two families, therefore, since the talk is about love based on the premise of marriage, then it is more important to pay attention to understanding each other's family and the views of each other's family members in the process of love, so as to make a decision early.
Xiao Yan in the 4 years of love time, did not have a deep understanding of each other's family situation and ideas, and is in the case of pregnancy had to be taken home by the boyfriend hurriedly, with their own lifelong happiness to gamble on the view of the man's parents, the risk is indeed too big, I believe that if you make a decision early, then there will be no pregnancy month is too large and extremely passive state.
But the matter has come to this point, Xiao Yan herself regrets or blames herself for what she should be doing, in marriage and love, especially for women, there is not much opportunity for trial and error, once the choice is wrong, it is likely that you need to pay a lifetime of price to bear, only once life will be destroyed, when in love, more understanding of each other and their families can help to make rational judgments, muddled love may make you need to pay for it for a lifetime.
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