After Hehe fell ill, Fang Yinuo saw her ex-husband Xiao Lu, she was still an aggressive look, unable to speak well, making people feel unreasonable. Seeing the two of them sitting together, I thought of their suffocating marriage before, a mess, no one let anyone, no one would think about each other, all day long it was noisy.
After more than four years of divorce, Fang Yinuo's hatred for Xiao Lu has not diminished at all, even if her daughter is seriously ill, she still can't temporarily ignore the previous suspicions, and if she is slightly unhappy, she will have to vent her emotions.
The first marriage failed, Fang Yinuo summed up the lessons, and in the second marriage, she changed a lot. However, seeing her and her sister Xie Dan's mode of getting along, I knew that Fang Yinuo could not be happy in this marriage.
1. A woman who lives in her mother's house after marriage
Song Guangming is a barber shop, Xie Dan is a bank worker, both of them have income, but after marriage, they live in their mother's house, such a situation, there are only two possibilities.
The first possibility is that Song Guanguang can't afford to buy a house. Song Guangming spent 80 yuan to buy brine, Xie Dan immediately weighed the weight with a spring scale, she felt that it was too expensive, let Song Guangming return. When Xie Dan went to the vegetable market with her mother to buy vegetables, she would still carry a small spring scale with her and bargain.
Judging from these details, Xie Dan's life is not rich enough, he lives a very frugal life, likes to be calculating and calculating. After Hehe fell ill, Xie Dan also told his mother that he had no money, he could only take care of himself, and it was too much to spend money to raise children, which was true. Song Guangming, who is married by Xie Dan, will not have too good family conditions, otherwise he would not have "lived in a hermit" in his father-in-law's house.
A daughter who has no money and lives in her mother's house, she can't see that her parents are good to her sister-in-law, especially in terms of money. Because she lacks money, her parents do not spend money for themselves, and even give Fang Yinuo flowers, she is not strong in her heart, especially when she gives money to Hehehua, a child who is not related to the Xie family, she is even more uncomfortable.
The second possibility is that Xie Dan is distressed about his parents, does not want to leave them, and wants to live together all the time and take good care of them. In this way, Fang Yinuo's life will be even more difficult.
Fang Yinuo is a second marriage, and she also carries a child with the surname Xiao, and as long as Xie Dan sees her parents on the other side yinuo and Hehe are good, she will feel uncomfortable. Because she has taken care of her parents for so many years, but her parents are good to others, it will make Xie Dan jealous, and seeing that her parents are good to Hehe and ignoring Hui Hui, she also feels unbalanced in her heart.
Xie Dan was not satisfied with the other party's promise, and coupled with her jealousy, it was decided that she would not be too good at the other party's promise.
Second, can not see the above a promise, normal
Fang Yinuo divorced with children, Xie Tianhua is an unmarried young man, Xie Dan feels that his brother has suffered a loss, marry a divorced woman with children, it is not good to say out, the key is a lot of trouble.
Xie Dan was disgusted when she saw Fang Yinuo, she felt that her brother should be able to find a better one, no matter what Fang Yinuo did, she couldn't look at it well.
Fang Yinuo took care of her mother-in-law's hospitalization, and her mother-in-law's attitude towards her became better and better, and she began to like this daughter-in-law more and more, without the original disgust. This made Xie Dan particularly jealous, Fang Yinuo married for only a year, her parents began to like her, she has been busy at home for so many years, and she is not even above Yinuo? Her hostility towards Yinuo deepened.
Xie Dan is for Xie Tianhua's good, this is undeniable, Xie Tianhua also admitted that his sister is kind, for his own good. I think in reality, in such a situation, it is normal for the sister to persuade the younger brother, and it is inevitable to feel that the diaphragm should be in the heart.
Many people say that Xie Dan should not mix with his brother, I think it is not right, before his brother got married, it was normal for his brother to find a daughter-in-law, as a sister, to help the staff. Why do many people find it disgusting? It was because Shedan had gone too far.
Xie Tianhua obviously did not get married for Fang Yinuo, he has always liked Fang Yinuo, and has not seen the woman he likes more, Xie Tianhua has been dragging the marriage event. Fang Yinuo suddenly divorced, xie Tianhua felt that this was a good opportunity, and he would definitely not miss it again.
A woman who has been worried about herself for so many years, Xie Tianhua does not care that she is divorced, and it is lucky for him to be able to marry home.
Xie Dan initially opposed yes, Fang Yinuo married for more than a year, she often yin and yang weird should not be, Xie Dan's approach, it belongs to looking for trouble.
Third, changing a sister-in-law will also be mixed
Because Fang Yinuo married with a child, Xie Dan was not satisfied, and many people could understand. However, according to Xie Dan's personality, even if Fang Yinuo is unmarried and childless, a big sister like Xie Dan will not stop.
If she is a reasonable sister, she should think more from the perspective of her brother and not let her brother be embarrassed in the middle. Xie Dan often said that it was for her brother, for her parents, for the Xie family, but her personality told me that she was a woman who could not stop.
Song Guangming had no dignity at all in front of Xie Dan, and was often disciplined in front of the whole family, and Xie Dan did not give him any face. Fortunately, Song Guangming was willing to put up with her, not like her, but also at his in-laws' house, he could not quarrel with Xie Dan, otherwise, the two people's lives would not be able to go on at all.
A woman like Xie Dan has a strong personality, has to be unreasonable, and can also speak three points without reason, without considering the feelings of others, nor will she consider the overall situation.
If Xie Tianhua did not marry Fang Yinuo and marry other women, if Xie Dan was not satisfied, she would also find stubble, even if she was satisfied at first, and then had opinions about her sister-in-law, she still had to find stubble, and she would definitely not hold it in her heart.
Xie Dan's temper is not good, to her parents, she often speaks sarcastically, to her brother, speaks more directly, is unhappy, and will throw her face, to Song Guangming, she has not had a smiley face, to Hui Hui, she can not be calm, often fierce son.
Therefore, Xie Dan has problems with her own marriage and family life, has not learned to operate marriage and family correctly, plus likes to be nosy, who Xie Tianhua marries, this big sister will make her sister-in-law uncomfortable.
Fourth, Fang Yinuo's grievances seek perfection
Fang Yinuo experienced a failed marriage and married Xie Tianhua, she herself knew that Xie Tianhua had "suffered losses", and she also knew the Attitude of the Xie Family towards her. As a result, Fang Yinuo changed, she learned from the first marriage, put away the sharp edge, and became a different look.
Hehe fell ill, Fang Yinuo went home to make breakfast, in order to please her sister, she specially cooked powder for Xie Dan:
Sister, I cooked you a powder, less oil is not fat!
Xie Dan asked her if she had put capers, and Fang Yinuo said that she had put them, and also brought a small bowl of capers to put on the dinner table, telling Xie Dan that it was not enough to add more.
Seeing this, I felt very surprised, Fang Yinuo has become too much, this kind of flattery is really too obvious, and Fang Yinuo, who was often served by people before, is completely different.
She will accompany her mother-in-law to the hospital, wash her mother-in-law's clothes, help her in-laws cook, wash and dry clothes, in the Xie family, Fang Yinuo lives carefully, and she will strive to become a good daughter-in-law recognized by the Xie family.
The in-laws have a good temper, and their hearts are quickly subdued by Fang Yinuo, Xie Dan is different, no matter how hard Fang Yinuo tries, she has opinions on Fang Yinuo, and often sarcastically ridicules Fang Yinuo in front of Fang Yinuo.
According to Fang Yinuo's character, can she endure it? No. However, she endured, hearing Xie Dan say that he was not good, Fang Yinuo not only did not get angry, but also took the initiative to find ways to ease the atmosphere and resolve the embarrassment, Xie Dan saw that she had a weak personality and did not dare to compete with herself, so the irony of the other party Yinuo became more and more blatant.
Fang Yinuo was in the Xie family, for herself and her children, she had already lived carefully, and Xie Dan's hostility made her life even more uncomfortable, and she put up with it all.
Marriage is a long-term thing, Xie Dan is living in her mother's house, her sister-in-law will live together for decades, if Xie Dan has been targeting her, then Fang Yinuo's second marriage will not be good.
Coupled with the fact that hehe treatment needs to spend a lot of money, Xie Tianhua will be dragged down, and it will drag down the entire Xie family, Xie Dan is even more unwilling, even if Hehe finally heals and spends so much money, Xie Dan will remember it in his heart for a lifetime, and will think that Fang Yinuo owes the Xie family all his life.
5. Equality
I think Fang Yinuo is a bit overcorrected, married to Xie Tianhua, she has changed too much, in fact, there is no need, how to do, as long as they are worthy of Xie Tianhua, filial piety to their in-laws, worthy of their conscience.
If Xie Dan is good to himself, he is also good to her, and if he is not good to himself, there is no need to deliberately please her. Fang Yinuo has always labeled herself as "unworthy of Xie Tianhua", she is very unconfident in the Xie family, and her life is too depressed.
Xie Tianhua is willing to marry Fang Yinuo, he should accept her past, if he often talks about the past and can't let go of the past, fang Yinuo is useless no matter how much he pleases. Sometimes, you look down on yourself, others will look down on you even more, you have no shame, do not go against the grain, others will know that you are not good at bullying.
Xie Dan is not easy to get along with, Fang Yinuo should move out to live, if you are afraid that Xie Dan said that he is not filial piety, and choose to live with her for a long time, his life will only be very depressed.
As a sister, Xie Dan should also change it, the management of the management, the help of the gang, the persuasion of the persuasion, not to add chaos, to understand more about the feelings of others, sometimes good intentions will also do bad things.
At last:
Seeing Fang Yinuo's life in the Xie family, I really feel very emotional, Fang Yinuo will also look at the face of life, and when she meets the strong Xie Dan, she will not be strong.
Xiao Lu has changed a lot now, and he also knows his shortcomings in the first marriage, and wants to make up for his daughter, Fang Yinuo does not agree, and the two sentences are not compatible.
Fang Yinuo said that Xie Dan was unforgiving in his mouth and his heart was not bad, so I thought of her treatment of Gao Caiping's child Xiao Lu, Gao Caiping's heart, and her and her children, Fang Yinuo looked down on her former mother-in-law, Xiao Lu was not bad, but she was not good at words, but Fang Yinuo hated Xiao Lu thoroughly.
It is really a thing that reduces a thing, Fang Yinuo's flattery and understanding of Xie Dan, if half of it can be used in the first marriage, how good!
If Xie Dan focuses on his own married life and understands the advance and retreat, will the life of the Xie family be more harmonious?
Author: Muzi