#亲爱的小孩征文 #
The hit drama "Dear Child" has been broadcast, this drama gives people the feeling that life is really bitter, fortunately, with the salvation of Hehe, everyone feels bitter and willing.
Life is indeed very bitter, Fang Yinuo has lamented many times in the play, "How difficult life is!" "So is this suffering given to us by Heaven, or is there more human factor in it?"
Today, we will take stock of the suffering of fang yinuo, Dong Fan, Lei Wen, and Xie Dan, to see what is going on and what will be the future direction?
To know who is the most suffering, we must first know what kinds of suffering there are in life.
The Buddha said that people have eight sufferings: birth, old age, sickness, death, resentment and bitterness, love and separation from suffering, seeking no suffering, and the five yin and fiery suffering.
01
Fang Yinuo's suffering: the suffering of unforgiving people and the suffering of saving children
Fang Yinuo was very bitter in her first marriage, especially after giving birth to Hehe, but this suffering was not so much given to her by Xiao Lu as it was caused by her own "rubbing sand in her eyes" and "being unreasonable", which made her suffer from resentment and bitterness.
Sister Yue's lack of professionalism makes her suspicious all day long, there are words that are not good to say, do the moon also have to go to great lengths to supervise the moon sister-in-law, so that the moon sister has to provoke her and Xiao Lu's husband and wife relationship, but also pick the son to leave, do not play with you, you love it.
After the mother-in-law came, Fang Yinuo not only hoped that she would take a good hehe, but also did not look up to her, did not communicate with her well, and made the family uneasy for smoking and other child-rearing matters, and he was still depressed.
He was also extremely impatient with Xiao Lu, and he was furious at a little, and finally because Xiao Lu made a big mistake, he made a lot of trouble, so that he had to get a divorce.
Until Hehe gave birth to leukemia, this main suffering came from worrying about the child, which was the greatness of maternal love.
However, Fang Yinuo was very lucky, when she needed it most, it was Xie Tianhua and his parents who accepted her and loved her and Hehe in every way, which she slowly learned how to love and tolerate.
In the end, Hehe's illness was cured, and Fang Yinuo also ushered in a new self and a new life, which was the kind of happiness and happiness that came from the bottom of her heart, and her stage of suffering had passed, because she had grown.
02
Dong Fan is a very wise woman, and she suffers the least.
The reason why Dong Fan rarely feels bitter is because she has strong empathy, empathy and compassion.
Xiao Lu was sad because she couldn't see Hehe, and she fought for his chance, because what she saw was not xiao lu not accompanying herself, but xiao Lu's deep fatherly love and sense of responsibility, and also saw the pain of a father who could not see his daughter.
Dong Fan's most bitter time was only for a while, that is, when Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo planned to have a second child in order to save Hehe, which was a woman's final bottom line.
She couldn't control herself to check Xiao Lu's WeChat chat history, and when she knew that they were going to open a room, she begged Xiao Lu to accompany her, and Xiao Lu said that there was something to do today, and she would accompany her another day.
Dong Fan was bitter because he couldn't ask for it. She had to text Xie Tianhua, but found that Xie Tianhua did not move and cried, and later wrote to inform Xie's family of Fang Xiao's plans.
Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo's plan to have a baby died prematurely. Dong Fan did not hate Xiao Lu, nor did he hate Fang Yinuo. In order to let more people pay attention to leukemia patients, she also specially interviewed Xiaoying in the same ward of Hehe.
During the interview, her heart was greatly touched, and finally she understood Xiao Lu, and her bitterness slowly disappeared, replaced by understanding, sympathy and love.
Dong Fan's suffering is only in an extremely specific environment, and once this extreme environment does not exist, she will not be bitter.
And this extreme environment is still very rare in life, so she is the kind of woman who does not feel bitter, her face often smiles into a flower, often a light for others, many people like her, and her life is the best.
03
Lei Wen's suffering mainly comes from her original family.
When she was young, her mother kept complaining because of her father's betrayal, and Lei Wen and ben had a lot of fun with their classmates outside, but when they returned home, they always heard their mother's insults to their father, and their mood could not get better.
Until she graduated from college and started her own business, she still hated her father, and every time she saw her father, she was either sarcastic or abusive, and she refused any man who talked about marriage with her.
This resentment will make most of her childhood and youth shrouded in darkness, without the innocence of a child, and missing the beautiful yearning of a girl for love.
Until that day, she saw a circle of friends sent by her mother: "This hatred often has to pay more power than love", and she slowly began to put it down.
At the moment when she saw Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu, who had been old and dead, and in order to save Hehe, the two understood and supported each other, she suddenly felt that it was good for the two to rely on each other.
So she talked to her father and said that she would get along with him in the future. Faced with his daughter, who grew up overnight, her father hid in the bathroom and cried silently.
At this point, the pain in Lei Wen's heart for many years has slowly melted, and it is not difficult for us to foresee that in many moments in the future, there will be scenes of their father and daughter enjoying each other.
04
Xie Dan: Ignore and do not forgive people, do not ignore and do not spare people, and the suffering will be endless
Fang Yinuo said that Xie Dan was a knife-mouthed tofu heart, which was not the case in essence. The Buddha said, "What you think in your heart, you will say with your mouth." People who say that others are bad must not be good people. ”
If Fang Yinuo can't rub sand in his eyes, it's at least because there is sand. But Xie Dan is different, even if there is no sand, she can conjure up sand, and she often looks at the bad side of the problem, even if the bad side does not exist.
For example, after Fang Yinuo married into their family, she often busied herself in and out very diligently, and she said that Fang Yinuo attracted people's hearts.
Xie Tianhua wanted to take Hehe to see Xiao Lu every month, and she said that she only cared about other people's children but didn't even care about her own nephew, which made Fang Yinuo feel very unhappy.
Her parents, husband, and brother spoke for Fang Yinuo, but she felt that they regarded Fang Yinuo as a family member, but regarded her as an outsider.
So Shedan's face is always a bitter and vengeful face, a face of green muscles bursting into hysteria.
Because of this, her suffering is the norm, and her hysteria is essential every day. Her suffering came out of her bones, so that she could never see the beautiful scenery, and also made the people around her miserable.
Fortunately, the rest of the Xie family is reasonable, and the positive energy of several people can compete with her negative energy, if she only lives with her husband and son, then these two men will live in hell every day.
At the end of the play, although Xie Dan also took out money for saving Hehe, her way of looking at the problem determined that she did not grow fundamentally, so she will be bitter all her life, and there will be no bitter day, unless she turns back to the shore and really changes.
05
The reason why a person feels bitter is because she is always picking on other people's faults, and generally never admits that she is wrong, even if she knows that it is wrong, she does not repent.
Life is made by oneself, and phases are born from the heart. The more tolerant people are, the more they love to laugh, and their lives are the best. The more provocative the person, the more ugly the face, and the most bitter life.