The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth exists in the heart
What was it like to spend time with your mother-in-law for the first time? I believe that many people have their own ideas to say.
In fact, after marriage, the most headache for women is the way to get along with their mother-in-law, after all, the first 20 years of the two were a pair of strangers, not familiar with each other, which has a time overnight, can be the most intimate "mother and daughter".
Sometimes, even if you want to express an intimate attitude to your mother-in-law, but the feedback you receive in the end is always unsatisfactory, after all, as a family, there will be many trivial things in the family that hinder the pace of closeness between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and perhaps because of a misunderstanding or a move, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be re-caused.
01 After marriage, there seems to be an invisible wall between her and her mother-in-law
Chen Xin and her husband are college classmates, fortunately, the two of their hometown is in the same city, so after graduation, after a discussion between the two, they decided to return to their hometown to work in the city.
Later, with the support of the family, Chen Xin and her husband owned a house of their own in the city, and the marriage between the two was determined.
Before getting married, Chen Xin had seen several faces of his future mother-in-law, at that time, because he and the mother-in-law were relatively strange and not familiar with each other, so the degree of communication was not deep, for the mother-in-law, Chen Xin only had a general impression.
Until she married her husband, Chen Xinhe had a deeper understanding of her mother-in-law.
Because the house of the two people at that time was off-plan, when they got married, the house had not yet begun to be renovated, and it was impossible to live in the short term. Therefore, after Chen Xin got married, she lived with her mother-in-law for a while in her husband's hometown.
However, it is precisely because of this period that Chen Xin has a general understanding of her mother-in-law.
Even if Chen Xin tried her best to get close to her mother-in-law, her mother-in-law's attitude towards Chen Xin was good, but somehow, Chen Xin always felt that there was an invisible wall between herself and her mother-in-law, and there was always some estrangement between them.
However, when Chen Xin told her husband about these things, her husband thought that Chen Xin had thought too much.
02After moving to a new home, one summer vacation, the sister-in-law came to live for a few days
Soon, Chen Xin and her husband's new house was renovated, and the two could not wait to move into the new house.
Chen Xin originally thought that from then on, perhaps the time spent with her mother-in-law would be greatly reduced, but she did not expect that later Chen Xin had a child, and her mother-in-law also moved into this family on the grounds of taking care of the child.
For the kindness of her mother-in-law, Chen Xin also gladly accepted.
However, it is the close contact between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and after a period of time, Chen Xin and the mother-in-law have accumulated a lot of contradictions.
From this moment on, Chen Xin understood why he always felt that there was an invisible wall between himself and his mother-in-law, and it turned out that all this was traceable.
Later, as the children grew up, the mother-in-law returned to her own home in the countryside.
One year, Chen Xin's sister-in-law was on summer vacation, and her mother-in-law had a temporary affair and needed to go to a long distance, afraid that she was not at home, and no one took care of her daughter, so she handed her daughter over to Chen Xin and asked her to help take care of her for a period of time.
For the arrival of his sister-in-law, Chen Xin is also very welcome.
However, during that time, Chen Xin was very busy at work, sometimes he could not return home late at night, and he did not have time to cook, so he gave his sister-in-law some living expenses, told her that there was food downstairs, and he wanted to eat anything to buy.
At that time, the husband was also aware of this matter, and the husband also understood that his sister was not young, and during the day, he could take care of himself, as long as there was someone back at night.
After the 03 mother-in-law returned, her daughter lost weight
In this way, the sister-in-law lived at home for a long time, until the mother-in-law came home after busy things, and she had time to pick up the sister-in-law.
On the day of her mother-in-law's arrival, Chen Xin also took a special leave of absence and prepared a table of hearty dishes at home, just to let her mother-in-law eat at home.
However, unexpectedly, the mother-in-law saw the first side of the sister-in-law and said: Daughter, how are you thin.
Chen Xin, who was on the side, was not embarrassed to hear this sentence, as if the mother-in-law was complaining that she did not take good care of her sister-in-law.
At this time, the mother-in-law then said to the sister-in-law: Go, mother will take you to eat delicious food.
After saying that, the mother-in-law ignored Chen Xin and got up and planned to leave.
In fact, for these days to slack off the sister-in-law, Chen Xin also has guilt in her heart, but the sister-in-law at home, although he did not accompany her at home, but did not grievance the sister-in-law, on the contrary, the sister-in-law was a big circle fatter than when she first came, but in the mouth of the mother-in-law, the sister-in-law was thin.
Until this moment, Chen Xin suddenly realized that perhaps her mother-in-law's move was just to embarrass herself.
In this regard, Chen Xin decided not to be patient anymore, and she said directly to her mother-in-law: Since you think that your sister-in-law is thin, I did not take good care of it, and you should not come in the future.
After saying that, Chen Xin closed the door.
After closing the door, Chen Xin and her husband had a phone call and told her husband about the beginning and end of the matter.
After the husband listened, he fell into a long silence, and after a long time, the husband said: Xinxin, this matter does not blame you, mainly because our mother is too difficult to get along with.
Until this moment, Chen Xin understood from her husband's tone that the reason why it was difficult to get along with her mother-in-law was that everything existed for a reason.
Conclusion: As a daughter-in-law, if you unilaterally approach your mother-in-law, but you can't get the feedback you want, then after a long time, your daughter-in-law will naturally no longer be full of her mother-in-law. On the contrary, if from the beginning, the mother-in-law did not treat the daughter-in-law as a daughter, then there will be many contradictions and misunderstandings between each other.
Therefore, how to get along between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, how to establish a good mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship model, should be the main issues that every mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should think about.