The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth remains in the heart
A happy and happy family relationship is inseparable from the harmonious mother-in-law relationship, only the daughter-in-law for the mother-in-law to do their best, the mother-in-law treats the daughter-in-law as her own daughter, in this family, there will be fewer contradictions and problems. However, in many families, the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is filled in every corner, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have accumulated many contradictions due to years of getting along, and they have already had opinions and dissatisfaction with each other, and sometimes they will have fierce quarrels because of a small problem, which eventually leads to a situation of mutual indifference.
01 Years of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problems continue
After marrying her husband, Chen Xin realized how lucky she was to meet a good mother-in-law.
Chen Xin and her husband Li Bin entered the palace of marriage through self-talk, the year of marriage, Chen Xin was only 25 years old, at that time, she still had the initial wishes and beautiful vision for love, thinking that as long as the two people have love, they can withstand all the troubles of the world.
With this sincerity, Chen Xin married into the door of her husband Chen Bin's family.
Husband Chen Bin brothers three, he is the eldest in the ranks, from childhood to adulthood, he also plays the image of a big brother, for the two younger brothers, is also very caring, this habit has been retained until after marriage.
Before getting married, Chen Xin did not know too much about her husband's family situation, and for her mother-in-law, she had also met several times and did not have much understanding, until after marriage, she found that her mother-in-law was a very stubborn and difficult to communicate person. It is precisely because of her influence that her husband Li Bin has taken good care of his brother since he was a child, not that this is not good, but sometimes the husband has done something too much, once the brother's family needs Li Bin's help, he will immediately put down the family work and rush to the younger brother's house.
Chen Xin also blamed her husband many times, and her husband responded with a smile every time, so that Chen Xin could not lift a little temper.
Sometimes, the mother-in-law will also instill in her husband the idea of taking care of her brother, you are the boss of the family, you have to take more care of things, take more care of your brothers. At this time, Chen Xin would accuse her mother-in-law: My little uncles have already established a family, there are some things that Li Bin needs to take care of, and everyone is not small.
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law also arises.
In fact, as chen Xin, she did not prevent her husband Li Bin from taking care of her brother, but many things in the family were carried by her husband alone, which was both laborious and laborious, and his two younger brothers were happy and idle.
02 The mother-in-law lived in the old people after getting old
The years flew by, and in the blink of an eye, more than twenty years had passed, at this time Chen Xin and her husband had entered middle age, and the mother-in-law was also old, naturally, the mother-in-law's pension problem became the first thing that needed to be dealt with. Because Chen Xin and her husband work in a small local county town, it is not too far from their hometown, so they will visit their mother-in-law every three to five years, while the other two younger brothers are from each other and have their own families.
Therefore, in terms of distance, Chen Xin and her husband are the most convenient ones to take care of their mother-in-law.
Although chen xin and her mother-in-law have not treated each other for so many years, but now that her mother-in-law is old, chen xin has tried to let go of her previous prejudices. Chen Xin consulted with her husband, and Chen Xin meant that her family could take care of her mother-in-law, but the cost should be shared among the three families. But Li Bin does not think so, he believes that taking care of parents is a responsibility that the boss should fulfill.
Seeing that her husband was so stubborn, Chen Xin did not know what to say for a while.
So, in this way, Chen Xin and her husband took care of their mother-in-law for three years.
03After being accused by her mother-in-law, her daughter-in-law became angry
As a mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law should be grateful for being able to take care of herself regardless of the previous suspicions, but Chen Xin's mother-in-law does not think so, even if Chen Xin, as a daughter-in-law, does not do her best, she has always been unsatisfactory.
One year during the New Year, Chen Xin really did not expect that the mother-in-law would count her own poor care in front of the family, and do her best to pick her own is not, in this regard, Chen Xin felt very aggrieved, she still has several children to take care of, sometimes she is really lacking in skills, but after these three years, she is not idle for a moment, every day around the children and mother-in-law.
In the end, it was this return that chen xin was angry.
On the spot, Chen Xin replied: I have been serving you for three years and you are not satisfied, so good, in the future, I and your other sons AA system, take turns to take care of you, do not come to my house every time.
Li Bin looked at his wife from the sidelines, but also silently did not say a word, it seems that during these three years, he also saw through many things.
Hearing Chen Xin's response, the mother-in-law was a little flustered for a moment, and immediately changed her mouth: My good daughter-in-law, I am not saying that you are not right, I just want you to do better, and I am so old, don't have any insight with me.
Chen Xin looked at her mother-in-law coldly, and at this moment she had already decided in her heart that either several families would take turns to take care of her mother-in-law, or she would not ask questions.
Finally, after the Spring Festival of this year, Chen Xin's second brother stayed in his hometown to take care of his mother-in-law.
Since then, the three families have begun to take turns to take care of their mother-in-law, one family for a year, each of them does not owe each other.
Conclusion: When the daughter-in-law does not care about the previous suspicions to take care of the mother-in-law, as a mother-in-law, it is also necessary to understand the daughter-in-law's difficulty, after all, in addition to herself, she also has a family to take care of.
A harmonious mother-in-law relationship also requires both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to go at the same time, if only one party pays, the other party accepts it with peace of mind or even is not satisfied, this kind of mother-in-law relationship is doomed to problems.