Falling in love with someone you shouldn't love will have these feelings

Text: Xi Xihuan

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Many people say that the most painful thing in feelings is to love and not to be able to, and there are many fantasies about the future with each other in their hearts, but these plans do not get the other party's response, which is undoubtedly the most sad.

Love requires the courage to fight for itself, because many times, whether a relationship is worth it or not, it always needs to be worked hard to get the final answer.

However, not every relationship is suitable for this way, because sometimes you may fall in love with someone you shouldn't love, be tormented by a relationship that shouldn't have started, and when the relationship ends, it's you who is hurt.

In the best love, love should bring positive energy, may make you more confident, will make your emotions more and more peaceful, will let you correct a lot of your own certainty, and achieve a better self.

Only by loving the wrong person and starting a wrong love will you not get what you deserve, but will let yourself fall into the tip of the horn more and more, and even lose yourself.

Therefore, you and I must understand that falling in love with someone who should not be loved will have these feelings, even if the other party does not directly reject you, he is not suitable for you.

01 Less and less confident

Friend Chen Xin used to be a very unconfident person, in fact, she looks very beautiful, but because of the original family reasons, so she rarely gets the attention and affirmation of her parents.

When she was young, she studied hard, hoping to attract her parents' attention to her with excellent academic performance, and when she grew up, Chen Xin worked hard at work, she felt that she was good enough, her parents would not value sons over daughters, and would not only like her brother.

However, no matter how hard she tries to please her parents, it seems that it is difficult to get the affirmation of her parents, so she is becoming more and more closed to herself, and even in the end it is difficult to get along with each other normally even by making a boyfriend.

In the year of college graduation, Chen Xin fell in love with a man who was much older than her, the other party was in the empty window of divorce, and the man's stability and maturity attracted Chen Xin, so she plucked up enough courage to start pursuing men.

However, in the eyes of men, Chen Xin is like the sister next door, taking care of her can be, but love is not.

Chen Xin is very persistent, even if the man has explicitly rejected her many times, but she still did not give up, she said that love is her own thing, as long as she decides to love, she will not regret it.

However, in the process of her pursuit of love, her persistence and dedication gradually began to affect the normal life of men, so men began to deliberately alienate her.

Chen Xin was very hurt, and always felt that it was because she did not do well that men would hate her so much, so she often reviewed herself to men, saying that as long as men did not like it, she would change.

No matter how the man explained that the two people were inappropriate, Chen Xin did not listen to it, she only felt that she was not good enough, just like her parents did not like her when she was young.

Later, this one-way payment of feelings finally ended with the man remarrying, and on the day of the wedding, Chen Xin cried very sadly in the corner, which attracted the eyes of the people around him.

However, since then, Chen Xin has understood a truth, not that she is not good enough, but that she has not met the person who really appreciates her.

Falling in love with the man who should not be in love, because she can't get the affirmation and attention of the other party, so she is less and less confident, knowing that she is not wrong, but also to find a mistake to comfort herself, which makes Chen Xin begin to doubt herself.

Truly loving the right person will not have such a feeling, because two people who truly love each other will pay in both directions at the same time, even if they know that the other party has shortcomings, they will help him correct it for the purpose of making him better, rather than blindly abandoning and accusing, which will only hit each other's self-confidence.

The person you love is worth your efforts, he will see the shining points in you, maybe in the eyes of others, he will sincerely praise you, so you will become more and more confident, because you get more praise and affirmation, so you will be more dedicated to the relationship.

02 Becomes gained and lost

Loving the wrong person is a very tiring feeling, because the person you love does not love you and does not value your efforts to him, so he will unscrupulously consume everything you have done for him in this relationship.

And you will fall into a vicious circle, more and more insecure, he will not care about your feelings, will not care about what your emotional needs are, he only cares about what he gets.

When you give your all for him, maybe he still feels that it is not enough; when you change yourself a lot because of him, he will not be grateful, but will feel that you have not become good enough.

So you are more and more uncertain about his feelings for you, so you will become a gain and loss in this relationship, and his words and a look may make you think wildly.

Her friend Song Zilin used to be a very cheerful and bright girl, but after falling in love with the man that everyone opposed, she was like a changed person.

Song Zilin was very confident, even if she encountered great ups and downs and difficulties, she was never afraid, because she believed that even if she could not solve it perfectly, she would at least let herself learn to be relieved.

In the process of getting along with others, her self-confidence and optimism infect everyone around her, and friends say that whoever marries her is the greatest blessing, because it will not make life worse because of a woman's blind pessimism.

However, after Song Zilin fell in love with Zhao Xiang, she began to suffer from gain and loss, Zhao Xiang was sometimes in a bad mood, and the tone of his speech was cold, which would make Song Zilin doubt whether he did not love himself.

Zhao Xiang is very serious about his brothers' righteousness, even if he is very busy at work, he will find time to party and drink with friends, but he never cares about whether Song Zilin needs him when he works overtime.

People around her said that Zhao Xiang did not really love Song Zilin, but she had been convincing herself in her heart that Zhao Xiang actually loved her, even if he had many shortcomings, even if sometimes he was not very patient and tolerant of her, she also believed that she was not wrong.

People's hearts need to be carefully cared for, especially the heart of the person who loves you, Song Zilin loves Zhao Xiang again, and one day she will understand that she has never been able to enter his heart and become the person he loves the most.

All his gains and losses in this relationship are actually proof that he does not love her, because he does not care about her feelings, does not care whether she is wronged, so it will make her so uncertain whether her efforts are meaningful.

So, all of our rewards and affirmations stem from the sense of certainty that the person who loves the right person gives us.

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