Text: Xi Xihuan
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There is no one who does not want to come to this world with blessings, the path of life is different, some people walk smoothly, no matter what difficult things they encounter, there will be noble people to help; but there are also people who walk rough and difficult, it seems that God has given him a lot of misfortune and suffering.
Therefore, when you see those who are proud of life, you will always feel that their blessings are very deep, and it seems that they will not encounter any difficulties easily.
However, a person's blessing is actually predestined long ago, and his words and deeds, and the way he treats people and things, are all doomed to whether he will be blessed or not.
And people with these characteristics are often doomed to have no blessings in this life, and do not have deep friendships when they meet.
01 Selfishness
It is said that human nature is selfish, but it does not mean that a person is right to live selfishly, and the most important thing in being born as a human being is actually kindness.
People who have goodness in their hearts are often more likely to get good rewards, and in the process of getting along with people, they will pay more, sacrifice more, and suffer a lot of losses.
However, he doesn't mind, he doesn't get upset about it, but feels like he's done something meaningful.
Truly kind people pay is not meaningless, invisibly to give help, tolerance and tolerance of others, have let him get more respect and attention, maybe in the future when he needs help, people who have received his kind help will take the initiative to lend a hand, this is not a kind of kindness in return?
But selfish people are different, they only care about their own interests, and even will do whatever they want to get, even if they hurt the interests of others.
There was once a friend who got along well with people on the surface and never easily argued with people, but over time, everyone felt that he was very unassertive, and most importantly, everyone recognized his nature, that is, selfishness.
Sometimes everyone goes out to a party together, saying that the fee is AA system, and when the party ends, everyone has paid the money happily, but the friend is missing, and someone calls him and learns that he has left home a long time ago.
It turned out that he was not very comfortable, afraid of sweeping everyone's happiness, so he left without greeting, and everyone whispered after learning the truth, everyone knew what he meant, but he wanted to avoid the money for the party.
Later, when everyone gathered again, they stopped calling him, but he always didn't know where to get the news, arrived in time, and then took advantage of the fact that it was not over to find an excuse to leave.
When getting along with colleagues, he interprets selfishness to the fullest, never willing to suffer losses, and if he sometimes feels that he has suffered losses, he will always be eager to find and make up for them.
After a long time, naturally no one is willing to deal with him, and the people who once regarded him as a friend no longer treat him sincerely, so his reputation is getting worse and worse.
In the end, he lost his job, and when it was hardest, he wanted to ask for help, and no one wanted to help him.
Selfish people will not be blessed, because they are not generous to others, they are not kind, then naturally they will not receive kindness from others.
A truly kind and generous person never thinks about problems when he looks at them, because he thinks about the overall situation, is more far-sighted, and his vision is not limited to the immediate interests.
Many people are smart and feel that they have gained immediate benefits, but they have lost long-term benefits, which is really not worth the loss.
Dealing with such a selfish person for a long time will only be consumed by him, not only can not accumulate spiritual wealth for himself, but will make himself more calculating.
Blessings are contagious, and the more you get along with people with good hearts and generosity, the more you will be infected by the positive energy in them, and you will invisibly do more good, which is actually accumulating blessings for yourself.
02 Like to complain
How can you be a human being without encountering difficulties? Everyone has their own life, and no one can achieve a smooth life path.
Some people always maintain an optimistic attitude even if they encounter a big storm, and they will feel that this is the test given to him by God, and once they have survived, they will be reborn.
Therefore, the storm of life is not unfortunate for him, but lucky, and he will seize such an opportunity to exercise himself well and let himself grow.
But some people are different, no matter what happens, even if it is just a small thing that does not go well, they have to complain, and they feel that they are the most unfortunate person.
However, complaining is actually the most meaningless, because in this world, no one can really empathize with what you have suffered, and even if you are really facing something particularly unfortunate, the sympathy and pity of others for you is only temporary.
If you don't want to get yourself out of it, you'll keep yourself affected by bad emotions, which won't help solve the problem at hand.
Colleague Sister Wang has a son and a daughter, although her husband does not make much money, but honestly takes care of the family, in the eyes of many people, she is also happy, but she herself does not think so.
When she went to work, she often complained to her colleagues in the unit that she was too tired to take care of her children at home, and she hated that her husband earned less money and was not self-motivated.
Every time colleagues advised her not to be in the blessing of not knowing the blessing, the husband took care of the family, hurt her, and often helped her share the housework, play with the children, not to mention that her children are actually very sensible and well-behaved, and the academic performance is good, there is really no place for her to worry.
But Sister Wang is like this, always paying attention to those who are not satisfied in life, what was originally some small things, but in her eyes, it was magnified into a great misfortune.
In the end, her husband was fed up with her complaints and dislikes, and finally filed for divorce, and Sister Wang woke up to the fact that she had not cherished the happiness she had always had.
Around us, in fact, there are many such people, they are actually just a very ordinary person, but they have a stable life, but they do not know to be satisfied and grateful, and they always cling to the dissatisfaction in life.
In fact, the most important thing for everyone in this life is to learn to reconcile with themselves and let themselves go, which is the wisest choice, and will win more blessings for themselves.
Many people will say that the blessing is given by God, born to be good, in fact, it is not the case, in addition to the different starting points in life, the rest of what you have is won by your own optimism and open-minded outlook on life.
We like to deal with people who have blessings, not just because we can get the positive energy and optimistic emotions we want from them, but most importantly, the people with blessings are also three views of righteousness, and people who know how to self-discipline and grow will benefit us a lot.
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