Text: Xi Xihuan
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It is rare to be sober in the world, especially after people reach middle age, because at this age, they have experienced a lot of ups and downs in life, and they will have a new perspective on people and things.
Therefore, for middle-aged people, it is not so easy to be emotional again, because there will be a lot of concerns, and words and deeds will be more cautious.
Some people say that middle-aged men rarely move their feelings, because they have suffered impulsive and emotional losses, so when they encounter emotional problems again, they will become "indifferent" a lot.
In fact, it is not that he has become cold and selfish, but that he does not allow himself to make low-level mistakes in his feelings because of impulsiveness or irrationality.
However, love often has this magic, and sometimes a person who can restrain will lose his original principles and bottom line and become the person who is willing to indulge the other party in his feelings.
Women have to understand that when a middle-aged man is conquered by you, he tends to have a clear performance in some aspects, such as "conniving" you to do something.
A person who really has you in his heart will not worry about you in all aspects, because he is willing to spoil you, so he is willing to break the bottom line and destroy the principle for you again and again, which is the performance of his love for you.
01 Indulge you to be willful with him
Once watched a movie where a woman fell in love with a middle-aged man who was notoriously ruthless, whether at work or in life, it seemed that few people around him could make his temper "soft" down.
When a woman first knows a man, she always thinks he is too old-fashioned and serious, so she tries her best to make him happy.
In the beginning, men always avoid women, neither rejecting nor accepting, which makes women more fascinated by men and even want to completely conquer men.
Over time, men seem to be used to women circling around him, although it is still the old-fashioned and serious look, but sometimes when women are not paying attention, he will secretly smile.
Slowly, a man's attitude towards women has changed, he is no longer a cold attitude, and occasionally he will take the initiative to ask women what they are doing.
The woman laughed, and she knew that she had stirred up ripples in his heart, not a way to never go into his heart as before.
Men began to indulge women's willfulness and pampering, sometimes women made trouble, men began to patiently coax her, and even suspended the work in hand for her.
The woman finally determined that the man was in love with her and was completely conquered by her.
In fact, it is not difficult to understand that when a middle-aged man who has always been calm and calm begins to indulge women's pampering and willfulness, and is willing to spend time and mind to make women happy, it means that in women, he has broken his own principles and bottom line.
For a man, the unworthy person will not waste time and energy, and only the person who can enter his heart will make him unconsciously indulge women's behavior again and again.
I saw a story shared by a female netizen on the Internet, she was moved by a middle-aged man, the man never thought about marriage after divorce, but the woman wanted to use her own actions to make the man change his mind.
Women have paid a lot, but men have always been indifferent, and even women's occasional spoiling and willfulness will be disliked by him.
The woman knows in her heart that if he really has a heart for himself, or is conquered by himself, he will not be so impatient.
This kind of indulgence of men to her finally made the woman give up, and she knew that she could not conquer this man.
Soon after, the woman heard that the man had a new feeling, and she saw with her own eyes how patient the man was with the woman, and how conniving the man was in the face of the woman's pampering and willfulness.
In fact, when a man is truly conquered by a woman, he will not feel that the woman's coddling and willfulness are very troublesome, but will like to enjoy the feeling that the woman depends on him.
So, if a woman wants to know if a man is conquered by you, it only needs to be clear if he is indulgent in your pampering and willfulness.
02 Condone your involvement in his life
Middle-aged men are attractive, and this charm comes from various experiences in life, even failures that have been tasted, or hurt.
For women, conquering an experienced man is actually very fulfilling, because when you let him touch your heart, it means that you are the woman he admires, which means that in his heart, you are the most special existence.
Middle-aged men will not be easily emotional, because he will always weigh the pros and cons when facing a relationship, will be cautious, not easy to emotional because of fear of injury, but also afraid that they can not be responsible for the end, so they would rather not touch this relationship.
So, the boundaries drawn by middle-aged men are clear, he knows who should be allowed to enter what range, and he also knows who to block out of the boundaries.
His calmness and composure will fascinate women, but when used to reject women, it will also make women feel discouraged.
The woman who can conquer the middle-aged man is different, he will not let the woman feel his alienation, but will continue to indulge the woman to participate in his life.
For example, he will like to listen to women's opinions when he encounters problems, although women may not really be able to help him in the end, but for men, as long as women are around, it is a kind of encouragement and comfort for him;
For example, he will like to listen to women's ideas when making choices, and even end up making decisions according to women's preferences, because women have already conquered him, so he is willing to coax women to be happy;
For example, he will allow women to participate in the bits and pieces of his life, willing to share the secrets of his heart with women, and willing to show the side of his embarrassment to women, which is not a man showing vulnerability to women, but he is willing to be the most authentic self in front of women.
It is not easy for a woman to conquer a middle-aged man, because she needs to let the man's heart have a slack mouth first, so that it can slowly enter the man's heart.
And the final conquest of men is often to make men willing to include women in their lives, no matter what plans, or arrangements, are willing to consider the existence of women, which is the performance of men's complete conquest.
It is not easy for people to encounter a relationship that can make them move their hearts in middle age, this is a kind of fate, when we encounter fate, we all want to cherish, then we need to pay well to get each other's heart.
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