Life is precious, and love is more expensive. In a long and short life, people will always experience unforgettable love. Some people slowly accompany you to old age, some are vigorous and then return to plain happiness, and some are lucky to meet and then end up dismal. Who we can meet and who we want to meet are not something we can decide, but who to choose and what the outcome is, perhaps we can decide. Therefore, it is very crucial to choose a mate. So, why are honest people not welcome when choosing a mate?
First, do not understand romance, it is difficult to meet the needs of mate selection
The reason why honest people are not popular may be that they cannot meet the needs of girls for romance. Now many girls hope that their other half, in addition to meeting their material needs, can also satisfy their spirits. For example, boys can share the troubles of girls, can make them happy, can have appropriate romantic arrangements in ordinary small days, and can appear around them anytime and anywhere when they are most needed.
While not all of these requirements are necessary, basic romance or humor is certainly one. The most romantic thing we often say can think of is to grow old with you, and this requirement may be achieved by individuals. Therefore, in this era of increasing materialism and spiritual abundance, simple thoughts and honest actions should be unreliable, or it is necessary to meet the basic needs of the other half and sublimate each other's feelings.
Second, the days are dull, and they can only act and do not know how to speak
Nowadays, people hope that their other half can speak the Tao, not only to make themselves happy, but also to make the people around them obedient. It is necessary to have both verbal charisma and decisive action. In the world of honest people, the issue of principle is too heavy, so they will stick to the convention, unwilling and will not easily break their own bottom line. Although it is very good to say that such a person is very good, in front of the people you like, you will become deliberate and old-fashioned, and you will not know how to think flexibly. If the charm of the other half does not make you change yourself, then they are not confident that they can live a good life in the future. After all, life is too dull, and this is not much different from a person's life.
Third, it is easy to be bullied
Honest people are more likely to be bullied in the eyes of others. Because honest people are relatively down-to-earth, they will not have other ideas and will not easily betray a person. Therefore, honest people will have their own principles in terms of doing things, and will not easily break their own principles and bottom lines.
Although these principle issues are relatively good, in the eyes of the other half, they are diametrically opposed, because honest people are relatively easy to bully, so they will always encounter a lot of unnecessary troubles, and it is easy to suffer losses. When the other half sees that he is being bullied, he will be inexplicably angry, hate his honesty, be easily bullied, and will not get benefits and suffer losses himself. Therefore, in daily life, it is easy to have disputes and contradictions, and it will become a big problem over time.
Fourth, what you say is what you say, and you will not fight for it
Honest people on the issue of principle, do not know how to fight for their own want, it is easy for others to say what is what. Therefore, when arguing with the other half, it is easy to default to the other party does not like themselves, or what the other party says is what it is, which leads to a cold war or in the absence of default, there is a spiritual difference and break up.
Therefore, it can be seen here that honest people do not understand the problem of fighting, if the other half wants to leave themselves, in exchange for people who are not honest, I believe that they will not let him leave, no matter what way they will coax each other. Instead of using a silent way, sticking to their own principles and bottom lines, silently listening to what the other party says is what it is, and will not try to fight and retain.
Fifth, only action will not sweet words
Honest people may prefer to use actions to prove their likes, and will also use actions to express what they want, rather than using their mouths to sweet words and make vows with each other. In their world, they cannot violate their own principles, nor will they violate the truest ideas in their hearts, what to do is planned and arranged, and they will not easily break it, nor will they easily change themselves.
Therefore, when they meet someone they like one day, they will not use language to express and approach each other, they will only use their own actions to prove their existence, but in the world of the other side, there is no daily language charm, it is difficult to penetrate the hearts of the people after all, in the fast-food emotional world, it is difficult to have a person who can continue to contact a person for a few years, and it is difficult for a person to feel the behavior of others and understand each other in depth.
Honest people are not welcome when choosing a mate? Maybe your strengths are not recognized by the other party, or it may be that the person you want to be close to is not the person you want to find. The world is so big, there will always be people who appreciate you and care about you, sometimes your deliberate change does not necessarily mean that you can gain each other's love, perhaps do what you do most importantly, after all, things are clustered in groups of people, and one day you can attract people who like each other and know how to appreciate each other and respect each other.