Women who keep men thinking about, never do these 3 things!

Jo Ford once said:

"Love is the tyrant in the heart, it is intellectually unclear, unclear judgment;

It didn't listen to advice and ran straight in the direction of madness. ”

It is true that many women, as soon as they fall into feelings, will be desperate and unreserved.

But love is not something that can be gained by giving.

Sometimes, the more you don't ask for anything in return, the more you make the people you love not know how to cherish you.

Because people don't know how to cherish things that are too easy to get.

So, if you want men to keep thinking about you, don't do the following 3 things

Don't easily believe a man's sweet words

A sentence in the movie "The King of Comedy": "I raise you" hit the hearts of countless young girls.

The moment a man says the 3 words "I raise you", he really wants to raise you.

But reality is always cruel, not as simple as talking.

Behind the three words "I raise you" is responsibility, which needs to be supported by money.

Moreover, such support is not months, years, but a lifetime.

The years go by, and if you believe the sweet words of men, you quit your job.

You are equivalent to losing the right to speak in this relationship, and after a long time, men will not know how to respect you at all.

As Yi Shu wrote in the Book of Chenghuan:

"It's impossible to rely on others in life and want to be respected by others."

So, in the relationship, even if you love a man again, don't easily believe his sweet words about you.

What can be believed and what cannot be believed requires you to learn to discern.

Most of the sweet words of men are just an expression of the current emotions.

If you really take it seriously, then you really lose.

Don't give up on improving yourself

Suzen said:

"The best way to love someone is to run yourself well, rather than desperately being good to a person;

Give the other party a quality lover, that will desperately love you. ”

As Jane Eyre says:

"Love is a game, and we must maintain the ability to be equal to each other, in order to cherish each other for a long time;

Because too strong opponents make people tired, too weak opponents make people tired. “

So, no matter how much the person you love loves you and spoils you, don't give up on improving yourself.

Only when you become more and more beautiful, better and better, can you always exude charm;

Let the people who like you, always be attracted to you, always like you.

You always have to understand that love is not the whole of life, it is only a part of life.

In addition to love, you also have to have your own life and space.

When you have free time, read more books, it can broaden your horizons and understand a different life;

You can also enrich your hobbies and interests and improve your taste when you have free time.

Don't spend all your time and energy on men.

Only when you yourself have improved and become better, the person who loves you will naturally always love you.

Don't be suspicious, want to control men

I have seen such a question on Zhihu:

"How important is trust in a relationship?"

There is a high-praise comment at the bottom that answers like this:

"Trust is the cornerstone of emotional happiness, feelings without trust are like a scattered sand, and the wind blows away;

Only when two people trust each other can the relationship be relaxed and long-lasting. ”

Indeed, trust is really important in a relationship.

I have also seen many couples because of the lack of trust between each other, mutual suspicion,

Make a good relationship jump, and when love is exhausted, it will part ways.

If you love him, give him enough trust, believe in your own eyes, and believe in your own choices.

Don't want to control the other party because you are insecure, and look at the other person's mobile phone;

Even delete each other's friends or follow each other.

The string of love, you pull too tightly, it will be counterproductive.

Since you have chosen to put the right and the right together, you must believe in your own choice.

Don't always doubt this, doubt that, give each other more trust, the relationship can develop in a good direction.

As Cao Yu said:

"Only by not doubting each other can we always know each other."

Love him to give him freedom, don't use your love to kidnap and bind each other.

Only when the other party and you get along easily, comfortably, and happily will he always be inseparable from you.