Source: Michelia White Orchid (ID: nvrendds)
Psychologist Jung said: Lies are often wrapped in sweet sugar coatings, making people invincible.
Sweet talk everyone loves to listen to. Especially when men and women interact, sensual women are easily surrounded by pink bubbles created by each other. Relatives persuade bitterly, friends remind useless, just think about how to be good to others.
When you meet a good man, it is better to say that once you meet a scumbag, it is inevitable that people will have two money and no longer dare to dare to love.
Human nature is complex and changeable, and what women need to do most in their feelings is not how to pay for each other, but to remain rational and sober, and distinguish whether the other party really loves you.
These three performances of men seem to be concerned, but in fact, they have already changed their minds and see clearly as soon as possible!
It is often implied that you should live frugally
Some men are actually very concerned about money, but on the surface they will not show it, and will only imperceptibly hint at you through some details.
Seeing that you bought a few clothes for the New Year, he said with a bitter face that his mother was still wearing last year's; seeing that you bought a few pieces of health ingredients, he advised you to be able to live a life and cook and eat.
As soon as you spend money, you advise you to know how to run a family, to be simple, and on the surface it seems to be filial piety, in order to save money for the family; but you find that his own life is not simple at all.
Smoking must choose more than 20 fast, can not buy nor smoke cheap; clothes and shoes are big brands, you buy him cheap, he does not look.
To put it simply, it is stricter than the law, and lenient to the self. I don't want you to spend more money, in fact, I haven't treated you as a family in my heart.
In his eyes, your greatest value is to cook and wash with children without complaint. The reason why I don't explicitly say that you spend less money is only because I am worried that if you leave him, he will no longer be able to live the life of being served.
People who really love you, are afraid that you are too "frugal".
Delicious things, he worked hard to give you bowl clips, beautiful clothes, he saved money to buy for you first.
He will not pretend to tell you that you will spend his money casually, but will pay for you silently, for fear that you will be wronged by following him.
Always get together with your friends
In general, married people will have less and less contact with former friends.
First, there are more intimate people to accompany, and second, after marriage, there are many things to deal with in the family, unlike before, there is time and energy to get along with friends.
However, some men will tell you very thoughtfully that they will get together with friends more, don't worry about things at home, and be more with colleagues everywhere, and they will be able to use it sooner or later.
You think he's for your own good, and he's got everything in the house; after you meet your friends a few times, you find that he's also a hand-wrenching treasurer, eating and playing, and not worrying about anything.
The reason why I hope you go to play with friends is that I don't want you to bind him around him and affect his knowledge of other members of the opposite sex.
The person who really loves you will also let you spend more time with your friends, but he will prefer to accompany you; or when you are partying with friends, do housework, cook a big meal, let you put aside your worries and become the carefree little girl before marriage.
Liao Yimei writes in the book:
"In our lifetime, it is not rare to encounter love and sex, but it is rare to encounter understanding."
People who love each other are each other's armor and weaknesses, and they can be free to be themselves in front of each other.
Never make decisions for you
No matter how much you love each other, two people in the relationship will have some disputes and unhappiness.
After the anger subsides, although the days still pass, it is inevitable that the heart will hope that the other party can give themselves some more understanding.
Some men seem to be doing a good job in this regard.
You encounter difficulties and grievances, he can always comfort in time, accompany around, your small emotions and careful thoughts, needless to say that he can take care of everything.
Two people have never quarreled with each other, and he never questions your decision; you think he is tolerant and considerate of you.
You think he understands you in everything, but the truth is that he doesn't want to make decisions for you at all, and he won't bear the consequences of any wrong decisions.
If you make a decision, the result is good, of course, everything is fine; if the result is not good, he can not bear any responsibility: "It is you who make the decision, I did not say anything."
How many women have failed in the sweet words and obedience before marriage; when they really have to take responsibility after marriage, they can really see a person.
Women are not afraid of difficulties, afraid of encountering difficulties, the first reaction is to avoid and blame men. There is a saying that blaming others is actually escaping one's own responsibilities and the pain one should bear.
Women will not be infatuated with a man because of his obedience, because such a man seems very cheap, and no woman will have a crush on a "maid", but will respect each other because he has his own position and principles, and will not compromise casually.
How can a person who truly loves you, who thinks of you, thinks of what you think, who wants to turn your business into his business, not care about you?
Miyazaki said:
When the person who accompanies you is about to get off the bus, be grateful even if you don't give up, and then wave goodbye. Many times you will find that love is not the norm in life.
The plenum that should come will come, the plenum that should go, don't resist, don't hold back, don't covet, don't give up, don't worry. Find someone who really reassures you, from the thrill of youth to the look around the fire of the wind and frost, it has always been him.
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