Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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Men like smart women, they don't like women with scheming! But as long as the woman's heart is used to love herself, men are still happy!
Even, I still feel that such a scheming woman needs to be doubly cared for like a baby!
In fact, women who can win the hearts of men will never be as "simple" as they seem on the surface. In the relationship between men and women, women who are truly 100% simple often do not get real happiness!
Women who have really experienced it will be more aware that it is easy to start a good relationship, but it is difficult to harvest a happy ending!
If you forget to use the "heart machine" that you should have just for the sake of love, then you will not be able to achieve the consummation you want in this relationship.
Some women say that living well doesn't have to please men!
Such a statement is not right or wrong!
Yes, it's about not having to consume yourself for the wrong people!
The mistake is that if you meet the right person and neglect to use the right way to operate, it is doomed to have no result with anyone!
The "correct way of doing business" here is the so-called correct "heart machine"!
In the feelings, it is still worthwhile to be able to grasp the moment, use reasonable "heart machines", and harvest the consummation of feelings!
Women, in their feelings, are always accustomed to using passivity to present their being cared for and deeply loved! However, in the matter of feelings, where is the stipulation that who must be active and who must be passive?
What kind of happiness you want, you just have to work hard for that happiness! If you have the ability to stimulate men's initiative, it is best, when you do not have it, it is reasonable to take the initiative, it is not a fortunate thing!
In the interaction between men and women, women are both prey and hunters! In this way, we can better use reasonable mental mechanisms and grasp the initiative of feelings.
Some women, in the face of feelings, before getting involved, see everything clearly, and always lose themselves after getting involved. It is because the prey and the hunter are not clearly converted, and the rational mind is not used properly.
In this regard, men are also very distressed, often think that they overestimate the "IQ" of women, and their feelings for women are uncertain!
Because, men generally "overestimate" women before they have a relationship! As a result, there will be doubts about a woman's love, and self-doubt about their own choices!
In fact, in the relationship, as long as the woman uses a reasonable heart, does not disappoint the man but makes the man "addicted", is the real smart woman worth marrying!
It's just that men don't know that every detail of a smart woman who makes good use of her reasonable mind falls in love with your performance is special:
First: Good coaxing, does not mean that there is no bottom line
In feelings, paying without a bottom line is not love, it is stupid! No woman can be cared for and loved by her own bends! Only a brief moment of mercy and almsgiving!
Truly intelligent women know that in a state of not losing the bottom line, they can know who is really worth their own efforts and truly love themselves!
For women who cannot be touched after the reasonable bottom line is set, if men love, they will take more care of women's bottom line, and men who do not love will dare not play with them because they know that such women are "thorny".
When you encounter a problem, coaxing and having a bottom line are two different things! Good to behold, because I care. The bottom line is set up to respect oneself.
Two people who love each other again must also follow the emotional rules that should be there. Reasonable bottom line, both have each other, respect is mutual!
A good woman does not mean that she must be you, a woman has set an untouchable, reasonable bottom line, does not mean that she does not love you!
Second: Pandering to you for a while does not mean that she will continue to indulge you
Some women, in order to save a relationship, blindly humble pandering, in the end people do not get, love did not get!
A woman who blindly caters to is a woman who does not know how to love herself. How can people who do not know how to love themselves know what "love others" is?
First know how to love yourself, then you will understand how to love others in the right way! Yes, you read that right, the woman who does not know how to love herself, the so-called affection for others, but grasping a life-saving straw to make up for the lack of security in the heart, not love!
And some men, stupidly think, as long as they subdue women, it is a great sense of accomplishment! As everyone knows, those women who only blindly should be with themselves have never been so true in their love for themselves.
A woman who truly loves you, not will not cater to you. It is to show weakness when it is time to show weakness, but this does not mean that all your excessive words and deeds will be tolerated!
Loving you and being inclusive are two different things, but being inclusive and indulging are not the same thing! Because she loves you and cares about the relationship, she will give you appropriate pandering and show weakness to you, but you have done too much, and she will definitely not condone it!
Third: It will not ask you to change, it will only lead you to change
In the relationship between men and women, the most difficult thing is not to let anyone fall in love with you, but how to use the best way and method to guide each other to become the most harmonious person after falling in love.
In this world, there is nothing that can never be done, but to forcibly change others! Forcibly changing others is not for the good of others, not for the deep love of others, but a kind of selfishness.
It is not selfish to live in the way you like, it is selfish to force others to live in a way that you are satisfied with.
Some women, often in the name of love, morally kidnap men to make changes, but in fact they are just selfish acts that ignore men's feelings.
The woman who truly loves you will never forcibly change you, but guide you to change in the best way and let you taste the benefits that change can bring before changing. In this way, you will reap the rewards in the days of subjective change.
Remember: a woman who truly loves you will never hurt you or force you to do something you don't want to do for your own good.
Women who truly love you, don't say too much and do too little. Her every word and every action is for the rest of your life together, not for a moment of passion and pleasure.
Love you, so that you can harvest a better each other in this relationship, grow together, transform each other, work hard for each other, and achieve together!
As a man, don't expect your woman to be too sensible. Women who are too sensible either don't love you or treat you as a life-saving straw to find a solid.
What's more, a man who is truly worthy of women's love will certainly not make his woman into a "sensible puppet" without self.
As a woman, you must actively and passively transform in your feelings. Rest:
May you be the prey at the same time, don't forget to be a hunter, specializing in stealing the heart of an infatuated man!
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
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